I recently started a college course and I meet this guy, for the sake of agruement lets call him Darren. He started to give me mixed singals then one night when I got home from college I got a text message from him saying he really liked me and wanted me to be with him. Because I liked him also I said yes.
He came over to mine a few days later and we ended up having sex, now he won't even talk to me and I have discovered he has a girlfriend. I want to do something about it but I have no idea about what I can do. Can you help?
2006-09-15 02:21:33 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not too sure what you can do about that. Maybe let his girlfriend know what he did if you're prepared to deal with it all. He's a real a**. Sorry you got played like that.
2006-09-15 02:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy won't talk to you because he thinks you were easy to get laid also you didn't spend enough time to know this guy what if he had some disease that you could have caught hope you used a condom. girl you can't do stuff like that you need to make the guy work and weight long enough before you give it up. I'm very disappointed with that. he only wanted sex and he got it now you like stranger to him. best you move on and don't let yourself be caught in that situation again. remember if a guy gets sex on the first date then you won't get the respect you desire/deserve, if he's has to work hard and weight long for it then you get your respect. trust girl a guy will give you diamonds and pearls and Porsche and all those nice things when you let him weight but if you give him too easy all you get is a dial tone. hush that's how men are. and they tell their friends how easy you are.
That text " I want to be with you " means he wants to have sex with you also if a guy says can you come over to my place or can I come over to your place? sex that's the meaning. girl read between the lines what he meant, if he really wanted you he would have called you and talked to you like a real man should. " you just started college don't be a stupid girl and sex every guy that you meet. any ways be careful
Paris Hilton Said
I'm becoming stronger as a person. One-night stands are not for me. I think it's gross when you just give it up. Guys want you more if you don't just hand it to them on a platter. If they want you, then they will wait. You have to make them work for it. I think that's the only way you know if they really want you or just want to be able to brag that they've been with you."
Good Luck
2006-09-15 02:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is what I call a sex opportunist.
He saw you liked him, and thought maybe he'd be able to have sex with you. Unfortunately, when you did, you not only hurt your own self esteem, but you reinforced his abominable behavior.
If you feel like revenge, call his girlfriend. However, none of this would have happened if you had said no, and refused to have sex until you knew him better. This is a good lesson.
Get yourself checked for a STD, because it's a sure bet that this guy plays around a lot and doesn't wear a condom. Pick up your head and learn from this mistake.
Good luck!
2006-09-15 02:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he obviously just wanted to have sex with you, and it wasn't very nice of him, i understand if you want revenge, but i don't think telling his girlfriend will do any good, she will probably break up with him, but i don't think it's a real punishment for him. Or you can play a joke on him, if you two are still talking by saying that you caught a sexual disease from him, you really don't know how, but he was the only one you were sleeping with etc etc. It will give him a hard time for a few days. Or you can just let go, it's not worth the effort struggling for revenge.
2006-09-15 03:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do about it? Nothing. Do nothing. He was obviously just horny and you were the target. The unfortunate thing is that a lot of women fall for this. Saying or texting "I want to be with you", meant only to relieve himself. This is why it's always best to wait. I know it's quite old-fashioned. Men just don't value it (sex) when they didn't even have to work for it. Learn from it and move on. Sorry.
2006-09-15 02:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you had been trick into bed with him. This is a real nasty #$%@#.
If you dare ....wait for an opportunity where there are many of your college mates around give him a real tight slap on the face in front of the others. Then tell him loudly that you are cleaning up the dirt on your hand because you had touched him before.
2006-09-15 02:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Phantom of the Opera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm, when you say do something, do you mean vindictive.... or something to make you feel better?
You were mislead, and he is a jerk by doing so.... but hopefully you don't want him back because he is a snake for sure.
I would however make mention of it to his GF, because she deserves to know he has been with other women.... if she thinks they are monogamous she may not insist on using protection, and if he did this to you, there could be more girls =)
I wouldnt ever confront him though, i doubt it will do you any good, and it will just make him feel powerfull for making you feel so lousy.
Sorry for what happened, I wish you the very best of luck.
2006-09-15 02:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what you get for being so easy. Us men love women like you. Women like you are so confused. You think men will want you if you give it up? LOL. It's completely the opposite. Once a man has his way with you so quickly, he loses all respect for you, then brags to his friends he nailed you and you're a joke between he and his friends, not to mention another notch in his belt.
You screwed up by making it so easy for him. He thinks you're cheap and easy. He'll never have respect for you and he may call you again if he wants a booty call. Because that's all you are to him.
Sorry but it's true
2006-09-15 02:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could always tell the girlfriend. You could make his life a living hell. What do you want to do? Do you wanna try and get him than leave him or just make him hurt? If you have any prof that you guys had sex, like pictures, or even that he was over at your place give it to the girlfriend and talk to her. Or you could make a flier and post it around campus.
2006-09-15 02:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. I guess that you took things a bit too fast...You need to investigate before you involve yourself with them...the best you can do is learn from this experience...don't give it up so quickly he would think you are easy and that any guy can get you....
Some advise: Even though a guy cheats on his girl friend he always manage to go back to her and you will end up with the sh!tty end of the stick
2006-09-15 02:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋