I met a man on a certain love site and we started communicating a thing we do even now.He comes from the same country as i do but he is working in another country.The first time he told me that he was coming in June but as we got nearer to the month he told me that he has alot of work but he would come in October this year.Last week he told me that he won't be able to come in Oct but he will be here in December as its the month that his leave is meant to start.Well i haven't met him but i've got his pics and i've met his friends whom he introduced me to by giving me their telephone contacts to.I met them and they are good pple.He writes to me everytime n he is promissing that when he comes we are going to be together.I love him and i think he is a good man even though i haven't met him.According to you do u think our relationship is for real.If u were the one,would u wait for him/her?
2006-09-15 02:21:14 · 14 answers · asked by nyam12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seriously, how can you be in love with someone you've never met? You're not in love, just infatuated with an idea of what this person might be.
2006-09-15 02:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sincere person but the fact is, we can't fall "in love" with a person by looking at his pictures and reading letters. He is "promising me when he comes we are going to be together:" Do you take this to mean live together? No man would make such a statement unless he had reason to believe that he can get something out of you such as money, residency or the old reliable, sex. You have met his friends over the telephone and they "are good people." You can't make such a judgement. What you find "good" is the sound of their voice and the words they say. A serial killer in prison can sound wonderful and say beautiful words on the phone.
I smell a scam of some kind here. Be careful. Confide this in someone you trust and know (in person) well.
2006-09-15 02:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what makes you believe you can love someone you haven't met yet?
Secondly -- without knowing exactly what he does for living, his ever-changing schedule could be valid. Will be very interesting if his "leave" is cancelled or changed in December though.
You've put this much time and effort into waiting, you only have a short while until December, but I wouldn't wait much longer than that for a first date ... but ultimately it is your call.
2006-09-15 02:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what everyone is forgetting is that its pretty hard to manufacture real friends to support your "scam" . On this basis perhaps he really is who he says but I have to agree, you can't truly be in love with someone through words alone and anyway, what's the rush. You may meet him in December and it happens for real. Don't be putting your life on hold for him though, if he comes great, if not then his excuses will begin to wear thin on you. Good Luck but keep your eyes open!
2006-09-15 02:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt if I were you. I have been in this situation before and he is totally blowing you off. If he loved you and wanted to be with you, he wouldve found some way to see you already. Don't wait around for him to keep disappointing you, find someone else that really wants to be with you!
2006-09-15 02:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by cheerbarbie729 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and find out if he will be with you in December. If he sends you another mail postponing the meeting again, you should start to think if you are ever going to meet him.
2006-09-15 02:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Foxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question, yet don't be so customary. there became 2pac, NWA, biggie, between others. Its probable because of the fact white rappers struggled via plenty better than black rappers (socially usually). Eminem, case in point, became poor as hell and on right of that, he had the Detroit Hip-Hop scene actually beating him down because of the fact he could desire to spit.
2016-11-07 09:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by shea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you have a relationship with someone you haven't even met? I don't think its a real relationship. Your just waiting in vain.
2006-09-15 02:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by Meeya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can pretend to be whatever they want to be on-line and on the phone. How do you know the pic is really of him? He could be legit but something sounds fishy.
2006-09-15 02:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, internet relationships are difficult. If you truly like him, you can wait, but if he changes his story again, you should really leave him and get a real boyfriend.
2006-09-15 02:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by J R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋