Long story short....My x BF who up until recently i have kept in contact with is out for revenge. I have an awesome relationship with a great great man. I couldnt be happier.
Well my X has finally realized Im not going back with him and sees im in love with this other man.He now is threating to find us out and bring me down by confronting me in public and making me choose in front of everyone, Thus causing a big scene and problems between me and my current. We are all very much "adults".
Im afraid of the drastic measures I know he is capable of he will use. He said he would be definitely cause an end in my new relationship so I knew how it felt to hurt.
FYI....he broke up with me 2yrs ago,,,we were able to maintain a basic phone relationship as so I thought friends.
What should I do If he shows up where I hang ? Run like the wind...be strong and hope my man doesnt by his crap????I dont want to lose my guy.......help..need opinions on the matter
2006-09-15 02:20:23 · 7 answers · asked by notspiteful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well the first thing u need to do is tell the current b/f that ur ex is saying he's gonna do something along those lines. So if he does happen to show up and try to cause a sence ur currnet b/f will already be expecting it. Don't let it come as a suprise to him b/c then that will probelly casue more problems between the 2 of u.
2006-09-15 02:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all; if your new man is truly in love with you, your honesty about your EX's revenge and being straight up with your new love should be enough! He should already know by this time that your EX is a complete phsyco and stand beside you on this 100%! Try secretly; with your new man knowing of course, setting the EX up with another women that possibly can help him overcome his feelings still felt about you! Once the Ex finds happiness with someone else also, he can put the past behind! If nothing else tends to work; and he continues to make your life a complete hell, put a restraining order out on him! That way if he ever causes any harm or shows up unexpected, you can call the cops and have him arrested!
2006-09-15 02:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an option. Tell your new guy the story and the whole story. Tell him what is going on and what your ex has threatened to do to you and say in public in front of him. Let him be prepared for this sorta thing. He should not be in the dark about this. If you start hiding things from him and not telling things then how is he going to react when it happens and how will he ever trust you to tell him whats going on in the future? You need to let him in on all of this and let him be prepared. Besides when and if your ex confronts you in public in front of this guy and makes you choose between them both, he is the one that is going to feel like the idiot when you choose the man you are currently with. And as long as the man you are currently with has a 'heads up' on the situation, you and him will be fine and he will back you up on this. This is a no brainer........ I hope you have nothing to hide and you are honest with your current lover. If you have something to hide, then this relationship was over before it started. BLessed be.
2006-09-15 02:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ever be friends with this guy. If he is really an "adult" he would move on. File a police report and get a restraining order. If that's not enough for him to leave you alone. Put his a$$ in jail when he violates the restraining order.
2006-09-15 02:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that you choose your current b/f. tell your ex that you dont want to see him again, if he keeps up with persuing you you will put a restraining order out on him.
2006-09-15 02:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you need to call a restraining order.
2006-09-15 02:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple...stop answering his calls and when he messages u with all dat rubbish talk again just keep those messages and show them to both ur current and the cops. they will be able to deal with it. that should tell ur ex that u r not to be trifled with
2006-09-15 02:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋