I've been seeing a guy for about 2 1/2 months, we see each other all the time (which is something at a 40 min drive) and I often sleep over at his place, about 5 times a week - often in succession. Things are going well, we're 'exclusive' and such the only thing is that his ex screwed him over and now he's 'uncomfortable around relationships'. To me what we have is a relationship, but he occasionally makes comments to say it's not.
IE we'll be talking about something that he says he does for girlfriends, i say he hasn't done that for me "you're not my girlfriend yet" or "maybe when you're my girlfriend"
I don't push any title because it's really not that important (though it would be nice) but i fear he's doing this for an easy way out not just because he's afraid of the titles....
Should I be worried this is his easy way out, or is it as he claims?
to preempt questions. I'm 100% he's not seeing someone else, and we're both in our early 20's
2006-09-15 02:16:14 · 5 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was engaged to his ex, and though they've been apart for about a year now she's just recently exited his life. She still calls him sometimes, and it's always to try to get something from him (like money or sex) or to tell him something that she thinks will upset him.
He's finally healing to where he easily says no to her requests and isn't affected by her pettiness
2006-09-15 02:23:56 · update #1
I say that he has probably been hurt really bad by a previous relationship and doesn't want to go that final leap until he is completely sure that you are not going to hurt him in any way. Don't try to push the label because that may just drive him away. Have a talk with him about it and tell him that you can be trusted and that you won't hurt him try to reassure his confidence in women. Good Luck!
2006-09-15 02:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sherrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I missing something here ? you forgot to mention if you are in a sexual relationship. I know you sleep over but not necessarily in the same bed. If you are in a sexual reationship you are definately girlfriend / boyfriend and he needs to recognise this. Otherwise you are just friends and you have to decide if this is enough for you or you need to start looking around.
2006-09-15 03:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u said his ex screwed him real bad, he is probably still afraid of commitment to another one like her. just give him some time if u truly love him. and yeah i m sure he isnt seeing anyone else, he doesnt look like he could be bothered to even start a relationship.
2006-09-15 02:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy some space.
2006-09-15 02:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no prob in this
2006-09-15 02:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋