I was added to the body of Christ about 5yrs.I attend worship service on a regular base and bible study/school.On two separate occasions i was approach by two different women in the church who commented to me my dress was too short ,another time my split was too high in their opinion. However, i do have mirrors ALL around my home and there is nothing wrong with my attire in my opinion neverless,i must let it be known these same two women are known in the church as troublemakers and in everyone's business.Both are over 50yrs of age, no husbands, no children,but they both seems to have something to say about what's wrong/right in everybody's life.I placed my membership at the church because it is 5minutes away and my worship is a MUST in my life.I will speak to to these women to inform them their comments are unwanted/unnecessary,even if they approve or disapprove keep your opinions about my attire to yourself or tell it to some one who cares about what U think of my outfits,AM I RUDE?
2006-09-15 02:12:56 · 22 answers · asked by Ballin B 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
sounds like they're a couple of busy bodies.
2006-09-15 02:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by boo 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The whole issue of modesty is culturally relative. To these women, your apparrell is immodest. You might ask a couple of trusted male leaders in the church if your dress is distracting. The Bible does talk about modesty in worship. The funny thing, and why I say it is culturally relative, is that it used to be inappropriate for a woman not to have her head covered (I Corinthians 11). You might point that passage out to your two critics and ask them if they think we should go back to that tradition. In the middle east, you still have some of these same very conservative cultures. If you lived there, the whole issue and standards of modesty would be redefined. The apostle Paul talks a lot about limiting our Christian freedom for the sake of other believers who might be offended (your two critics) or those who might be tempted (other guys in the congregation). You can read about it in I Corinthians 8-9 and Romans 14:1 thru 15:14. It is this kind of forbearance and consideration for other believers and everyone else that is at the heart of living and loving like Jesus.
P.S. I know the older generation can be annoying at times (just imagine what they think of us). But I've found that it's very interesting, fascinating in fact, to just sit over a cup of coffee and listen to some of these older folks. Fifty isn't that old :o) Try getting to know some folks that have been around for 80 years or more. When they were young, bathing suits had short sleeves and shorts (much like a wet suit/spring suit). They come from a very different perspective than you or I do. Love them. In many ways they are the salt of this country.
Love, joy and peace.
2006-09-15 09:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hesed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that when you say that you were added to the body of Christ you became a real Christian or you just became a member of a church. If you just joined a church and with no changes in your life, dressing the way you like even in church, shouldn't trouble you. But if you really became a Christian, you will know in your heart that you shouldn't dress in a way that you know will get the attention specially on men.If you are a Christian read. 1 timothy 9
2006-09-15 09:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has an opinion about matters which are not spelled out directly in scripture, or in your church bylaws, if there are some written. I would say, remember that as a child of Christ, you reflect his glory, and should dress and act and speak accordingly. If your behaviour offends, look at it again, and see if there is some truth to it - in an open minded way. If you can alter your behaviour, because in the end it won't really hurt you to change, and it will help a sister, however crabby she may be, to feel less uncomfortable, I say why not change? But if you feel thta you are completely fine how you are and don't care about their concerns (maybe they are concerned for the young men of the congregation?) then by all means, don't be a servant of all. "All things are lawful, but not all things are good for you" - my translation of 1 Corinthians 10:23-24
2006-09-15 09:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I cant say if your dresses are too short if I haven't seen them. Talk to the pastor about the women . The older women are to instruct the younger, the bible says. If it offends you too much, change churches. The bible says to dress modestly. If its a distraction in the church, or causes lust, change it. I know the outside if not of tremendous importance, but it could cause problems, if its not modest. Pray about it in humility and see if you feel its ok or not. Don't expect those two women to change, the bible describes some as busy body's.
2006-09-15 09:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there will always be those who will criticize and condemn others for whatever reason. since these ladies are in the age range of 50 plus you might when the time is right ask them if mini skirts were considered a correct form of dress to wear to church services in their period of time. suggest you don't confront them in an augment type manner but a curious one.
2006-09-15 09:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dress for worship respectfully. Nothing tight, too short, too low cut, too clingy, dirty, torn, or vulgur (Tshirts with sayings, for example).
However, if all you have to wear to church is a clean yet ragged pair of jeans and a frayed shirt, God will still love you!
The most important lesson in this is that you attend church and pray.
2006-09-15 09:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say nothing to them, they know not what they do.
Look, in all honesty, you should dress modestly in church, but that is something that God needs to speak to you about .... unless of course you are showing up in garter belts and a bra! lol I'm sure God is just happy that you showed up!
I sometimes get caught in that same trap, of judging people's attire at church, then I remember that not everyone has the same maturity about it, and perhaps they have bigger issues to deal with other than how they dress. God deals with us individually, so don't worry about it. As long as you go, that's the main thing!
2006-09-15 09:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No you are not rude. As with most congregations there will be a few prudes who have been given no authority to do so who make things difficult for others. I think it is okay for you to say to them just what you have written in your question. As long as you are not wearing attire that is over the top it is not for them to say what is "appropriate" or not.
2006-09-15 09:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by Etienne 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Keep on, keeping on Sister. No, you are not being rude. You must be doing something right for Satan to send you a thorn in the flesh.
2006-09-15 11:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Not perfect, just forgiven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, they are the rude ones!!! When I went to church I wore nice clothes that sometimes showed my legs and had slits in it, I was also approached by a couple of women....It's none of their business....period!! completely not their place! I bet you look fantastic and they really hate that most likely! You should be free to wear what YOU fell is right for you! be free, stay free!
2006-09-15 09:21:47 · answer #11 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋