I think that I am falling for an older guy...I am 19...he is 36. My friends are concerned and I understand their concern.But is the age gap too big???Or can any feelings had overcome this....
I do not want criticism...I cannot help my feelings...so I just want opinions. Not hurtful comments.
Thanx
2006-09-15 01:56:16 · 19 answers · asked by starlight_night_time 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know to be cautious. I know it may be hard and it is still early days. He seemed to realise that it may not be easy but he said that he does not expect things of me...no rushing things...we will go at slow speed. He didn't even press for a kiss. He just gently kissed me on lips to start.
2006-09-15 02:03:10 · update #1
He is not sleazy like some of the guys my age; my ex being sleazy and pressing for more. He may be older but he said he likes me as I am...and said I may be younger and it doesn't change how he sees me...as someone he really fancies.
2006-09-15 02:07:28 · update #2
We have not gone that far yet...as far as having sexual relations...he said there is no rush...to rush it would be stupid.He said it is not something we can rush.
2006-09-15 02:12:57 · update #3
Who told you love was prejudiced, oldermen are much better for younger girls, they respect them. younger ones have weeners, last 30 seconds and only want you as a sperm recepticle. stop listening to all these losers who are running their lives from a Walt Disney fairy story, religious dogma and cultural myth. rule number #1 there are no rules, if it feels good for you do it and stop selling out for fear of loosing stinking approval of which your not going to do anything with anyway when you get it! Love or life doesnt look a particular way and losers get attached to thinking it does, and i stake my life on it it doesnt! enjoy and make hay while the sun shines, life isnt a rehearsal and you only live once! ive had girlfriends with much bigger age gaps and it was truly love! otherwise you'll end up in a condition of upset with unfullfilled expectations with your dreams broken like the rest of them did. Lets face it after the sex is over and the lights come on, do you really think a younger guy can stimulate you mentally? and if theres no mental stimulation do you really want to make love with them???? You know the answer! now follow our desires ;)
2006-09-15 02:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have much in common, etc.? That is hard for me to imagine, but you never know- it just might work out. At your age, you should be having fun, don't get into something serious with this older man right away- go on a few dates..etc...
here is my question, though- why do you think a 36 year old man would be interested in a 19 year old girl? Is it because he can't find girls his own age?
2006-09-15 09:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by europa312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello well heres what i think he is much older then you so you really need to think about why is he not going with some one around his age. and right now the sex is not to rush thats a big gap in age theres some thing wrong here you may look at him as a dad i am not putting you down but you really need to talk to people i feel there is some thing wrong with this guy he needs help.
2006-09-15 10:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with age difference as long as you know how you truely feel for one another. Make sure you have things in common, and he is not abusive. Take it slow, and ask questions about his life and family. I am dating a man 15 years younger than me now, and have dated men 29 years older. Age is only a number, just be compatable, that's important.
2006-09-15 09:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mutual love knows no age gap. there are a few hitches when the gap is big, everyone thinks it wont work and as much as this might not be the case, when you have problems (all relationships have problems), the first person you go to will not look at the situation as it is, they will start with the age difference, even when its a normal problem. Its not wrong, but you have to be prepared to go through it.
2006-09-15 09:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by theKenyan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I will try not to be critisizing you.
You have feelings for the bloke?
Sorry but I would say a big no no on this one.
A senventeen year gap?
I can assure you that guy will only use you.
He may feel somethong for you but I tell you now it is not love.
You can't keep him mentally happy.
2006-09-15 09:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by alwyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 22 and the man whom i love is 37. and i don't think that age has something to do with love. if u really r in love , live it. or want someday to look behind with question "should i have to try?" . Everything is in your head and heart, no matter what your friends say, u r the one who decide. Wish u luck... and if u give a chance to this love, hope u'll be really happy.
2006-09-15 09:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mhm..sometimes feeling make us do crazy things..I think u love him, but think.. u are young ur life is just begin do u want live ur all life with 36 years old guy..? I don't know him so i really can't say u stay with him or no..But i just say u have think about ur future and are u want spend ur life with him..Make a choise good luck ;)
2006-09-15 09:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by GirlOfSoul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. every older man would love to be with a yourger woman. Do what you think is right.
2006-09-15 08:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend, but nothing more. The gap may be too large to broach
2006-09-15 08:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋