I've been dating a Rasta a little over two months. Last nite on the phone he randomly tells me I need to have my dog put to sleep b/c they aren't meant to have as pets, etc. So I say no I won't let's change the subject (I really didn't feel like entertaining this b/c I was already upset about something else) so he keeps pressing the issue and pisses me off and finally asks would I choose an animal over him and I said yes do you realize how ridiculous you sound and how insensitive that is? I go on to say that's almost like me asking you to quit having a relationship with your kids. So basically he hangs up on me and never lets me finish. I called and called and he didn't answer and finally turns off his phone. This AM he didn't answer again. I am in true love and this is really bothering me. 1. What do you think he's thinking and why is he acting so childish? 2. Is this over and should I just take it as a loss b/c my feelings are heavily involved? I'd really like people's opinion.
2006-09-15 01:37:19 · 26 answers · asked by FacingEviction 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're two months into a relationship, madly in love, and then he tells you to kill your innocent dog? My answer - FLEE AS IF IN TERROR. This man is crazy, controlling, and you will never be happy. Move on and find someone who loves you, the entire you, with all of your shortcomings and you pet!! Best of luck.
2006-09-15 01:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by ncmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually I do not answer these types of questions (Love, romance) but I will make an exception because I feel strongly about this.
First, you need to have a lot of self confidence in being with this type of person because he is a control freak. Wants evertyhing his way or no way.
I don' t know if you can live with this type of personality, unless you have been conditioned by your childhood. (Strong domination by males)
When it comes to the safety of something that you love, and that loves you and is totally helpless, there should be no decision to be made. In a way it is very similar to you being a "Hostage negotiator" because he wants to kill your animal. Where does he get off on it just because you love it, he could feel jealous. If this is the case then he will probably end up accusing you of all kinds of false relationships with your male friends.
Do you really feel that you have this much self worth that you have to be around somebody like this?
Do not play his games...if you do, who are you to blame but yourself. Get away fast. I would try and move out of where I am living and change your phone number.
He will not let you go without a fight.
If you use love as an excuse to be with him....don't you feel deep down in your heart that you must love yourself first?
And if you do...why be around somebody that could be cruel enough to want you to take your dogs life?
An innocent soul...that only loves you, unconditionally?
2006-09-15 01:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...uhmmm...
check youre feeling first towards the guy..
do you really love him... or do you think that he's just someone passing by your life... ??? (and that''s part of it girl!)
2nd, can you make you're dog sleep for him? if you can answer yes, without hesitating.. then you really are in love girl... if you can't... i think love is far than animal... so if you can't answer yes... then quit on the guy..
3rd, you said you're 2 months? how sure are you that he's in love with you? though you love the guy, a relationship should be give and take (i think everybody knows that)
my point is, if he really loves you.. he would not hang off or turn his fone off on you just because of a DOG????
Let it go girl... you've done your part.. broken heart is part of life... if he really loves you over the DOG then he'd later realize that..
give some respect to yourself... stop calling him when he already let you feel that he doesn't want to talk...
YOu have a life other than him...
at least you got your DOG...
cheer up..
2006-09-15 01:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both got too wrapped up in one issue. The turn in the argument came when he brought it to the level of choosing an animal over him. Then you escalated it further by comparing a pet to a child.
Next time you see him, tell him he's more important than your dog, but that your dog is very important to you, and you don't want anything to be killed including him.
Next time save serious conversations for in person so he can't hang up.
2006-09-15 01:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand, the dog is YOUR PET, not his. He has no right to tell you to put your dog down. So does that mean if you guys make it to the marriage stage that you will never be able to have pets again?.........And him hanging up on you and not answering his phone is so childish. Just imagine his other requests after this. I can only imagine.
I'm sorry but he is being irrational, he shouldn't have started dating you if he knew that you had a dog.
2006-09-15 01:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm my opinian?ok well i'll give u my honest opinian....if he wants u to kill ur dog and stays firm on that,then u should totally forget him....and yes everyone acts childish somtimes but this is jus too childish.........you said ur in "true love" with him..........well i'm sorry to say hun,but ur "true lover" wouldn't tell you to kill a creature that means alot in life to you.yea everyone hangs up on people somtiems but if he wouldn't let u call him back either,well thats jus wrong,bcuz what if u had been calling to apologize?and he still would've been jus leaving the phone........u see its....it's all coming down to the same thing,he dosn't really love u,he likes the feeling of control.
but if u r really set on staying with him and want to kill ur dog for this guy then go ahead noone is stopping u........
but my suggestion to u would b write him a nice ltter telling him it's OVER and then find a guy who deserves the sweet person that u r.
hope i helped and didn't make u sader!
2006-09-15 01:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by greenismylife.songismyworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame that sucks.
1.) He is a rasta so obviously he smokes alotta pot. I dont believe he is thinking at all. He is to damn high to realise he made a huge mistake.
2.) I don't think he even realises what he has hurt you and realy you are much better off without him. Dogs are not pets ha ha he cracks me up. In what century does he live in? A Warthog is my pet so what has he got to say about that?
2006-09-15 01:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by alwyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's juz upset... Give him space & time 2 cool... There'll b time 2 talk things over... Besides it's kinda stupid 2 end e r/ship juz cos of e issue tat can b resolved amicably... Hav a heart-to-heart conversation den work things out slowly... Ask help from others if needed...
2006-09-15 01:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by *Lyzerg* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has very strong convictions that he is not willing to compromise to benifit your relationship. It's fine for him to feel and think that way, but he should not be forcing you to have the same viewpoint. It sounds like this is the tip of the iceberg. I'd move on and try to learn from the experience. Try to get to know the person and their beliefs before you get to attached.
2006-09-15 02:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by Rick D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only are Rastas' not allowed to have animals as pets they are also not allowed to have a relationship outside of their religion.You need to forget him and move on with your life you will meet the right one soon enough.
2006-09-15 01:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by call2fly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋