iam so kind,care about every one but none care about me i dont hurt the feelings of anybody but everyone strongly hurt me i always forgive i really in a bad need to be cruel iwanna be strong
2006-09-15 01:23:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop being a door mat
2006-09-15 01:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by imurhuckleberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between being kind, and being walked on. Always be who you want to be, because the people that care, don't really matter, and the people that really matter don't care. You will thus attract those people who love you for who you truly are, and those are the best types of friends and lovers you can have.
Your problem is that you are not being who you want to be, but are letting people make you be who they want you to be. You will lose some friends through making this change, but you will attract others more interested in the real you. Thus you will come out way ahead.
2006-09-15 08:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference in being kind and caring and being a doormat for everyone to step on. If you let people take advantage of you, then you will always be getting hurt. I'm not saying you have to be cruel and a b*tch, but stand up for yourself. Say no every once in a while. If you don't agree with something, say so. This way you'll become your own person and not just a puppet. People will respect you more for it and more importantly, you'll respect yourself.
2006-09-15 08:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just be strong and don't be so kind with everyone only those who deserve ur kindness should get it and never let anyone hurt u never.remember that the person who is most important is u and take care of ur self don't let anyone come too close untill u really trust them and know them well enough to predict correctly what they will do in many situations . never forget urself . i'm sure u r a really good person . cheer up and smile .
2006-09-15 08:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by pinkchocolatediamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt no one cares about you (even though it can seem like it at times). You don't need to be cruel to be strong. It takes a lot more strength to be a nice person then a selfish self centered idiot. If you need to talk you can always drop me IM. I listen pretty well and i am not quick to judge (lest i think i don't). Sometimes you just need to have that one person who loves you backing you up to make you strong.
2006-09-15 08:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't change from being kind to being cruel. This world needs more caring and kind people. Perhaps you need to be more selective in choosing friends and men to date. Don't give up, there are nice guys out there. Learn to recognize the signals, and if someone starts treating you unkindly, tell them to go find someone else because you're done with them.
2006-09-15 08:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be frankly blunt, and this is in no way to hurt you intently, but it is not that nobody likes you, it is because they have no respect for you because they know they can get away with anything and you always forgive them. What's the payoff for you, hurt feelings, the payoff for them, doing what they want. Making friends is more than being their puppet. Stand up for yourself, once you get their respect, then you will have friends. I think anyway...
2006-09-15 08:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by been_there_done_it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a harsh lesson from life, not everyone is as tolerant or as nice as you.....
but bear this in mind, nobody ever makes a bad descision intentionally, people do what they do based on how they are and the information they are provided with at the time.
in short.....don't judge people to harshly
2006-09-15 08:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by jonny_nowhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you reminds me of my mum she's like that and people always hurt her so she at times gets those hurt someone urges but when she responds to them guess what she doesn't get any satisfaction. Be strong it will be alright you receive joy in other indirect ways. Don't stoop down to their level
2006-09-15 08:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by svt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would talking help? my be its not all u there are a few that just dont care about womens felling like thay us to dont give up hope get back up fight be the queen u want to be Your King will show u and he will love u trust me
2006-09-15 10:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to be cruel to be strong, help those you trust and you know won't hurt to those you don't trust and have tried to help and have hurt you the next time they come to you for help tell them no you can't help them any more. you don't have to help everyone and me a doormat and use yourself and resources up to the point of exhaustion just be assertive.
2006-09-15 08:30:06 · answer #11 · answered by Mary S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋