My nine year old boy refuses to clean his pit.
2006-09-15 01:17:09 · 26 answers · asked by capinundees 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Everyone on here makes points I can accept, except the 'drywall' idea,lol.
I only caution you about the food reward ideas. Relating Food with Work, can bring on really bad eating habits later in life and the boy could up being fat and unhealthy. Not to mention being teased and taunted by what are supposed to be adults. Don't do the food rewards. Take him out for ice cream because you want to, not because he's done something you want him to.
Allowance is good. Taking toys is good. Cleaning up for him and hiding, throwing away things left on the floor is good. But PLEASE, for his sake, don't use food as a motivator.
2006-09-15 01:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe people on here are actually suggesting you pay or reward your child for cleaning their room. There are much deeper things going here other than a messy room. You have lost control a long time ago. It is time you put more than your foot down for this one. A 9 year old is not too old for a spanking or standing in the corner for long periods of time. This is harsh but not being able to tell your child what to do is worse. I agree with some of the other post about taking his prize possessions away until it is done. My sons room would be gutted and he would not see the light of day until his room was clean.
You may want to look into some parenting resources for yourself because the child really isn't the problem.
2006-09-15 10:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Daycare Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that, as of a particular date of your choosing, anything that is not put away on whatever day of the week you want, will be taken away. For example, starting next Monday, anything that is left out that shouldn't be out will be taken away. Then, each week that he has nothing taken away, he can pick some items to bring back into his room. If he has no items to earn back for keeping his room clean, he gets another reward, like maybe ice cream or a small toy or allowance. He needs to be rewarded when he DOES do what you want. Positive reinforcement and negative punishment, I train my dogs the same way and most of the techniques work well with kids, too. LOL
2006-09-15 08:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by lilmizzaniml 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every kid hates to clean hell Im grown and I dont like it either !!! However no one is going to do it for me..
Does he get an allowance?? I mean that can be a great motivation to cleaning his own room, and with that allowance he can buy toys and what ever he is into.. But the only way for that to work is if you make him buy things with his own money.
We have a chore chart in my house and if it doesnt get done I take money away and If i have to do it i charge.
If that doesnt work When my daughter was young and wouldnt clean her toy room a garbadge bag tied to the end of a snow shovel propped against her door worked too !!!
2006-09-15 08:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by kathygd1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a few ideas. Try helping him clean his room. You start with the paper and he starts with his clothes and so on. You can also remind him, that if he doesn't pick up his things you can collect them, no matter what it is and store it away until Christmas or something. I do know that we lead by example but sometimes we have to make a little effort to help out.
2006-09-15 09:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by markkaren96 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AH BOYS, will be boys. Have five in my household. One of the boys was the worlds worse. We finally resorted to removing his TV and Stereo and even his allowance before he got the big picture. It was still a struggle but all we had to do was start the process of removing something and he would get in the mood to clean. Now that he is grown and has an apartment, it's a pig pin.
2006-09-15 08:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a time frame for cleaning his room (maybe on a Saturday morning). Tell him that anything left on the floor or not put in its place will be thrown away. Then, stick to your guns. Put it in a trash bag and hide his possessions if you cannot afford to replace them. Also, reward him if he does clean his room. A favorite meal, a small amount of money, or even a coupon/sticker chart to help him build up to and earn something of value to him. Best of luck.
2006-09-15 09:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few ways I learned from my relatives:
1) Pay them for the "job". At the same time,you could teach him that he will earn/be rewarded only for every job well done.
2) Item exchange. Much like number one, reward him with his fav food or toys or a present for the job.
3) Reverse psychology. Leave his fav spot in the house which he is very particular about the wrong way and tell him it is the same case of story for his room.
4) Fear! Educate and show him materials about diseases deriving from uncleanliness, information about ticks and bugs coming from dirty laundry and items.
Hope this help...
2006-09-15 08:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by Geo C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Throw away his stuff, no way what good would that do, you probably bought it all. Give him a reason to clean it up, I think most 9 yr olds are not to keen on cleaning their rooms. Dont let him go anywhere(ie:friends, park) until its cleaned up or remove a well loved hobby(ie:computer, vid games) until its cleaned up and stays cleaned up.
2006-09-15 08:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by debra_har 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tell my 6 year old that if I have to clean up his stuff, he can't play with it for 1 week. And then that's exactly what I do. Be consistent and firm. I have a friend who threatens, but never follows through and her kids run over her.
2006-09-15 08:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by dominateresa1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋