I don't know what to do about me?

Question

I feel like i am lost completely lost in life, I have a descent job, i have a beautiful caring wife and two wonderful children but i feel like i am missing a part of me. I feel like i am failure and that i should be more. I need something to fill my time but nothing interests me. I just want o know can someone make me feel better. If you can write something to make me feel better i will give you ten points. Please don't tell me i am depressed i need counceling or medication heard that all before be alittle more creative. I'm a vacant soul lost in a world of my own, No where really feels like home, I'm destroyed empty and cold inside, I would wish for death, But i'd prefer life.

Make me laugh or anything If you give an honest attempt you might get best answer.

also i am atheist so gods not the answer. I have respect for your religion i hope you choose to have the same respect for my lack of religion. thankyou

Answer 1

Hey at least you know where you stand, and you have a great family.

Think of all the lost souls out there that attatch themselves to a fleeting idea of a "god" that is going to absolve them of their sins and bring them to heaven. You don't even have to put up with that bull. It takes people their whole lives to realize that it is OK to believe in what you believe in, even if it is nothing at all.
Congratulations on being firm, and confident in your beliefs.

And, by the way, the pain you are feeling is real. It is called life. You are not a failure (you have a job and a family) it is just that there is nothing exciting or particularry redeeming happeining in your life right now. Either wait for something to happen, or make it happen. Find something that you enjoy or interests you, and do more of it. Be a glutton with it. That's life.

Answer 2

Wow...there are sooo many things i could talk to you about. First of all you should look into a good church. Not one of those ones filled with hypocrites, but a real good one!! Second, have you ever talked to your mom about maybe you being half of a twin that might not of lived? I have heard alot of people say things like you did, and later in life find out that they were a twin and that's what was missing....your other half. Third, this might sound really stupid but when i am feeling depressed the first thing i do is grab a piece of wood and start cutting something out on my scroll saw. I love making things and giving them away as a "just because" gift. There is nothing that makes me feel better about myself than making somebody happy. Weird how making someone else happy makes me happy.
And if all that fails, get a hammer, go into a room by yourself and just hit yourself in the leg while saying "I LOVE MY LIFE" Nothing like a few bruises and a sore leg to make you appreciate the smaller things in life!!!! hahahahaha

Answer 3

How much physical exercise do you normally get? Are you in good shape, or could you stand to lose a few pounds? Try joining a gym in your area and start a work out routine. Make sure you join a good gym, one with fitness instructors who can help you set a goal and get you to the level you want.

Exercise is a way to reduce stress, which helps reduce the liklihood of depression. It also releases endorphines into the blood stream, giving you a good feeling after each work out. As your physique improves, you'll also note more self confidence, and I guarantee that your wife will take notice too.

Imagine, six months from now having rippling abs, a well defined chest and toned muscles. Depending on the shape you're in now, you may need to go on a clothes shopping spree, something else your wife will probably enjoy. Especially as she gets to help you pick out your new wardrobe.

Answer 4

WOW that's some heavy duty stuff there! I think you need a vacation. Someplace you could take your wonderful family and enjoy a week-end away from everything. That LOST feeling and emptiness is the VOID in your life.
Ya know where I go when I get burned out? Camping and fishing. Takes you away from the everyday routine of things that causes ya to be BURNED out.
Imagine.....
The beautiful nights with the stars shining and a campfire with the family talking, laughing-- roasting weiners and marshmallows on a stick you went out and cut with your favorite pocket knife...
The days of showing your kids HOW to put a worm on the hook and the excitement of catching a fish....NOW go do it!

Answer 5

You need to challenge yourself. I feel this way sometimes too. I recently finished school and landed my "dream" job, but now there's nothing exciting going on, so I get very bored and think too much about what is wrong with my life, instead of thinking about the good things I could be doing and the good things that are already in my life.

Maybe you could go back to school and learn something good. Maybe just a class to learn a new language, or to learn to cook gourmet meals. Then put it to good use and challenge yourself to travel to a place where you have to speak that language. There are amazing volunteer opportunities out there.

I travelled to Honduras and volunteered. You meet so many interesting and new people. Plus you get to help others by educating them or helping build their community.

Another thing you could do is try a sport or something to help meet new people. I think we get "trapped" in relationships and do not look to meet other friends. We need other social contacts to let loose, and to be able to complain a little about things that are going on in your life with your partner and kids. You need someone else to connect to.

Answer 6

My first answer would have been a good antidepressant but I don't think you are looking for that. There are a lot of things you can do. Try snorkling or scuba diving. Take a kayak out. Or maybe you need to take a long hike. Try this technique. Lay down and close your eyes. Relax until all you can hear is your breathing. Then when you are so relaxed and all you can hear is you heartbeat, you will know some peace.

Answer 7

I feel like you do sometimes so I totally understand. It's almost like you're bored with life. I think when you have a pretty good life - pretty much have it all - you just turn around and say "okay now what". As a human being we need challenge, we need to be needed, and we need to be useful. I'm still searching for the answer myself and have recently signed up for volunteer work. I think once you're comfortable in your own life maybe giving to others will give your life purpose knowing that you're giving back to society.

Answer 8

I think you should try and set yourself a small achievable goal every day - for example to spend half an hour with your children just marvelling at them and feeling grateful for their existence. You could also make a list of all the things you have in your life that you are grateful for and try to do one good thing a day to help somebody else. You are obviously depressed and it's a pity that you won't consider therapy- talk honestly about your feelings with your wife and then go for extremely long walks and try marvelling at nature.

Answer 9

It sounds like you could probably do with some "me" time. My guess is you are burned out and need to make some big changes to shake up your life a little bit and add some spice to it.

Whether you believe so or not, there are new things out there that would interest you, but you are in a black mood and everything seems pointless.

You could probably do with some new friends, and being a lot more spontaneous.

Answer 10

I have been there! I too have a great life, husband and kids. First of all know that you are not alone. It is part of human nature to seek for joy and contentment. It is not a flaw it is a gift. Keep searching, exploring and opening yourself to new experiences. In time I promise that "missing link" will find it's way to you. The one sure thing in life is that it changes! Good luck!