This is REALLY long, but I would really really, greatly appreciate an honest answer, thanks!?

Question

This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

Answer 1

You don't want to hear this but you are only 15. You're going through lots of changes with your own body and so is she.

You should be spending this time hanging out with a lot of people, dating different people.

The two of you need to grow up a bit more before you can see what is up.

Answer 2

i'm a girl. Listen to me.
She is kind in her words to you. She treats you as a friend and that's why she is even bothering to tell you what she feels honestly.
I don't think she is scared or undecided. I would say EXACTLY the same thing to a guy I want to keep as a friend but nothing more.
You got to determine in your mind and heart that she doesn't feel the same way about you.

If I like a guy, I will want to be with him. No ifs and buts. Again from what she has emailed you - she doesn't want to be with you that way.

Sorry. That's my girl's take on what you've said. I know you love her a lot and it's heartwrenching and sometimes, people just aren't drawn to other people.. no analysis needed. it's just the way things are.

If you really love her, you'd want her to be happy, yes? Then don't force her to make decisions that only make you glad. SHe has made her stand clear.

I really wish you all the best! ;)

Answer 3

This happens to probably every single person on this earth. Loving someone and the love is not returned or you dont know how the other person feels. I know how bad it can be wanting to be with someone so bad that it hurts. I suggest you just stay friends with her and hopefully this girl will open her eyes and see how special you are and how much you care about her. I remember you wrote about the same question a while ago. You must really care about her - just hang in there - things happen for a reason. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Guy, I'm sorry....I feel for you. But from the sounds she loves and cherishes your friendship together and doesn't want to complicate that. I wouldn't push the subject of you guys becoming anything more or you could chance loosing her all together. I know what she's saying. I'm 24 and I had a good friend who wanted to be more. I couldn't see him like that. We were friends nothing more nor would we ever be. He kept on acting all weird with me and it ruined our friendship. We're not friends anymore. So, please despite how you really feel about her, I would say keep it under-wraps. If she wants more she'll let you know. Scared or not. Good luck!

Answer 5

I know she doesn't want to talk about it or anything, but you could try giving her a romantic gift like a necklace or a pair of earrings. When you give it to her, stutter and say, 'this is only a friendship gift'. But when you say it, don't look like you mean it. Write her a love letter and leave it on her doorstep, but do not put your name, just put 'your secret admirer' along with a bouquet of roses, attach a card saying 'I love you' and beside it draw lips. In the love letter, remember to write all her good points and how you think of her all the day(which is true). It might help, but do not let her know her secret admirer is you, when you can't bear it anymore, email me and I'll tell you what to do. [e-mail]

Answer 6

So you turned the question around a little, huh? Your just lucky that there are new people on this forum to answer you daily and feed your fragile ego. Your on a sad path my friend. If your really only 15, you have a long life of disappointment ahead of you with your whining and "always me" attitude. Better do an about face soon.............

Answer 7

Ask your self this.At 15 do I realy want to invest this much time on a girl who may just want to be friends.You say your fit and not ugly, try asking other girls out,see what her reaction is.If she really likes you youll get a vibe and if she just wants to be friends she will be happy that your dating.And youll still have her as a friend as well,Youve got a lot of years ahead of you play the field a little.I hope that helps you.

Answer 8

wow i gotta hand it to u for keeping ur head........this is a big question.....and a hard situation..ok well i'm a girl...and i know whats goin on with this one........basically i think she is unsure of herself,the fact that shes giving different storys to different people means shes confused,i think she told u she dosn't like u bcuz she isn't relalt sure herself and the reason she was nice about it is bczu she Still isn't sure and dosn't want to hurt you,or the chance for a future relationship...but the fact of the matter is,she did tell YOU jus friends....don't lsiten to what everyone else is saying,listen to HER...if thats what she told u,thats all ur supposed to know...don't act like u have a feeling she still likes u.....thats good u respect ehr wishes,respect her body as well,don't EVER tell her or anyone else that shes HOT or SEXY......always say that shes beautiful or sweet...........don't cut off communication unless u think there is NO chance.......stay friends with her,try to talk to her more and get to know her better and become close with her,if she truly likes u....when u guys get to be closer friends most likely u will have a much better chance of getting together with her.u have to be patient though, u don't want to seem desperate...if u really love her,plz do me a favor and don't check out other girls,playing hard to get jus dosn't work and girls don't like it so don't do it,please.......jus treat her like a princess and stay focused on what ur doing and everything will b fine.....but remember u have to be prepared for heartbreak,if it dosn't work out ur going to have to get over her,so b careful with how attached u get,and get ready for a tiem of complete depression.i know i've been where u r believe me
i hope this helped n i hope everything gose great for u!
if u have anymore questions er jus need somone to talk to or anything jus email me at [e-mail]
that is also my IM
take care
~Ally

Answer 9

shes probably not ready for all of this stuff. if you've known her since you were 7 then you have to understand that it is going to be weird for her, that you like her differently now. if i were you i would date other people, and if you guys get a little older and she is ready to start dating, just ask her out again.

Answer 10

well if she's talking to you and is getting cosy with you liek she was before then she does like you... if you see her around with friends her mum or anyone just approach her and pull her to one side and tell her you mean what you said to her and tell her how you think she's letting you down gently. it's sweet to be cnfronted face to face cause that shows you're sweet and not afraid of what you feel and alot of girls like that...

good luck x x