thax for the answers. For those who answered me with accusations and no thought what so ever ......refering to my last question how do i deal with my step son? well heres some more info. hes 22 acts like 10!! he tried to ruin the wedding by makeing stupid comments! Ive tried the nicey nicey approach but he has no respect for me so why should i respect him!! and yes i have other children ones 16 and he respects me and his stepdad. he stole my dvd player. him and his brother punched my boy at the wedding.. you need more??
2006-09-15 01:00:23 · 11 answers · asked by Unicorna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no i heard enough, take my advice and chop him up.
2006-09-15 01:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stepson seems to be a very immature little boy for a 22 year old and, he needs to grow up very soon.
Some step children seem to think it is wrong for a parent to get on with their lives and take on another partner,it appears your stepson does not like the idea that you are entitled to a life.
It is easy to say talk to him as you have probably tried all the ways possible,if this does not stop there is a danger of him splitting up the whole family which is exactly what he wants.
There should be some ground rules agreed between yourself and partner in relation to your stepson,and he must not be allowed to continue assaulting the other children.
Have you tried family counselling,getting your partner to have strong words with him,or, even some of his friends.
He is probably feeling let down and betrayed,and his loyalties will be more for his real mother and looks upon you and your kids as more of an invading force.
However you deal with this is, going to be tricky and hard work and, you need your partners full support and help,and I am surprised you appear not to have that.
I hope it all works out for you,all the best.
2006-09-15 01:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by mentor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need family counseling. He's probably afraid that things are going to change now that his dad is getting married. Maybe that he's going to receive less attention from his dad because dad will be paying more attention to his new family. He's feeling insecure about how he fits into this new situation. I'm sure it's frustrating if you're treating him well and he's still acting out but if you want this marriage to work you can't give up on him. He's still a part of your husbands life no matter what. Go to counseling and get to the heart of the matter. If nothing else - your husband will appreciate the effort in trying to accept his son.
2006-09-15 01:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by sunssecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a second there i had a little panic because i thought that you were my step mum until you said the age of your son. My step mum has depression and she feels that my brother and i are out to get her all because when he moved in with them and they moved to their new house, my brother arrived first (petty i know but she's not rational, and no i'm not making it up) and it all spiralled from there.
So i know what it's like to have a horrible family member that is only related to you through a marriage. I have the deepest sympathy for you. I don't know what your last question was but I think it will get better because he can't keep this kind of behaviour up forever because he himself will eventually have a family of his own and he'll look at everything differently. And if your husband can't understand your dislike for him because he acts like an angel in front of him, then don't worry, these things have a way of comin out.
Good Luck and i hope it all works out for you.x
2006-09-15 04:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by mother knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say hes doing his best to ruin his dads happiness of a new life he sounds very jealous of you and may think the other boys taking his place and getting attention that he craves from his dad.. So time for your husband to step up and try to find out what it is that's bothering him. He may of fallen into the wrong crowd and his behaviour & stealing could be down to other things like drugs ect! Good luck
2006-09-15 02:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is entirely possible that there is an underlying medical cause for his behavioural problems and you should look into that before you give up on him completely.
allso i just read you're other question about this and i have to say you received some perfectly reasonable answers and i can't see anyone who was being rude about it so i don't what you're problem is, i think the key thing is his age you didn't mention it in the first question.
2006-09-15 01:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by phillipgdmn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your hubby to take him in hand, my dad would never have tolerated pathetic behaviour like that from me towards anyone let alone someone he was in love with. tell him to get a bckbone and sort the little squirt out otherwise you're off. or just poison the step son.
2006-09-15 01:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit this little A$$wipe down and tell him exactly how you feel.
Tell him thats its for his best interest to listen to you and that you are going to listen to what he has to say to you.
I haven't read your previous question but do you think that this step son of yours reacting badly to a divorce? (or death of a parent or something?) either way, this boy needs help, he's behaving badly because he's truly hurt inside somehow...
2006-09-15 01:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by $@Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad it's not a child, and I really thought you might be joking. Sorry. I guess your husband needs to talk to him, you really are powerless beyond self-defense.
2006-09-15 01:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too bad
2006-09-15 01:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by mrandersen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋