calling all bible bashers.. come take a swing.. but please, no quotes?

Question

So, i lost my faith in god age 12 one afternoon, when my father after many months, decided not to divorce my mother, and to keep their sham marriage together for another dacade and a half, leaving me, with her, and spending everyday he could at work. including xmas.

ive had faith, i did belive, now i dont

so, its now your turn, game on, bring one back to the fold
Dont tell me to pray, i just cant get up the nerve/courage.
Dont tell me to read the bible, just a bit a day.
I hate churchase full of silly women, dont tell me to go to one
None of this just belive nonesense.

I want to get my faith back, no bible quotes, no sayings, nothing witty, dont just muble, about how great he is etc, and how he never stopped loving me..

I want something concrete, to do , to get faith back.

Answer 1

I think you already have faith...you just need to realize it for yourself. Once you have it, it never really goes away.
Think about why that incident and possibly many others made your faith take a back seat...and why you want it back again.
It is something personal that you have...no one can give it to you and or take it away without your willingness...and the only person that has the ability to do that is whoever you believe in.
Many things might happen to make us feel like unbelievers...but that flame of faith never really dies out unless we make it a point to put it out...so talk to whoever you believe...and ask for a revelation of how to get your faith back.

Answer 2

You are angry at your father, not God. God didn't make your father stay in a sham marriage, that was your father's choice.

You still have faith, you just don't know it.

I won't tell you to "pray", I'll tell you, talk to God, just like He's sitting right there beside you.
If you don't read the Bible, God can't talk back to you. Sorry, but it is true.
I hate churches full of silly women too lol, but there are a lot of good churches out there with normal people, go find one of those.

No Bible quotes or sayings, I can't even be witty? You constrain me and God within your rules, and while I can be held down, God cannot. You have to accept God on His terms, not yours hon.

You want something concrete to do .... okay, so go believe in something. Just like the chair you are sitting in, the more you use it, the more "faith" you have the chair will hold you up, until the point comes where you don't even think about it, you just plop down.

Answer 3

You said you had faith and then lost it because your parents didn't divorce. I guess your mother was a real case, I don't know.
You say don't tell you to pray, not to read the Bible, go to church (although I don't go to church either, some are just full of hypocrites), since you can't get up the nerve to pray, and reading the Bible doesn't help, all I can say is if you are sincere in getting your faith back. One day you will fall to your knees and you will cry out to God, and He will hear you, I speak from experience as I too lost the desire when I was younger, but He came a knocking and I fell to my knees and I cried out to Him to save me from destruction and He answered the call, and now I am truly saved and filled with His love. Just keep thinking about wanting to be saved, He is listening.

Answer 4

Eek, you're a tough cookie! You won't read the bible, you won't pray, you hate churches, you don't want bible quotes.. what will you accept, Sweetie? I've been in your place at one time, too scared to turn back to Jesus because I didn't think he would want me back after all the bad things I'd done since drifting away from my faith, and why would he? I was a mess, hardly a prime candidate to be a light for him on this earth, and to be an example to others. I really didn't believe he would forgive me.

But I couldn't shake off the sadness I felt because I'd messed up and separated myself from him. I really wanted to be a Christian again but didn't know how. I ended up reading a book called 'Run, Baby, Run' by Nicky Cruz. It is a book about one of the most notorious and brutal gang leaders in Brooklyn, and it is his testimony about how Jesus saved him and how he became a Christian. It made me realise that Jesus wasn't sitting up in Heaven scowling down at me and shaking his head, he was waiting with open arms for me to finally get down on my knees and say I'm sorry, please can I be your child again? And every time someone comes back to him they rejoice in heaven and have a big party, no expense spared!! I totally recommend it as a really exciting read, and I reckon it would really help you where you're at right now. Good luck!! =)

Answer 5

I feel you are rejecting God the Father because you have such negative feelings about your biological father. This is pretty common, especially nowadays.

I'm not going to try and convince you to return to the faith; instead, I urge you to ponder the fact that God wants to be your true Father. Although your biological father has always let you down and acted selfishly, God would NEVER do that, if you believe and follow after Him.

I also urge you to meditate on the many Scriptural sources that tell us of God's love. Doing this will enable you to see further past the immense hurt your father caused you by being so unloving. Again, while he failed, God will never let you feel unloved.

Peace and God bless.

Answer 6

I. sexual intercourse formerly marriage - 2 Corinthians 12:21 , Galatians 5:19, Ephesians 5:3, Colossians 3:5 . it is greater valuable understood in New King James version the place the notice "fornication" became used. 2. comparable intercourse marriage - Leviticus 20:13 3. the only way ......The Bible do not instruct this. 4. words of priest as Gods notice? --The Bible do not instruct this. 5. That we ought to continually positioned .....The Bible do not instruct this. The Bible is the notice of God. The Bible became written to tutor the coaching of the church. So make sure the scripture despite preacher teaches. The preacher's notice isn't the notice of God.

Answer 7

You have to begin exercising faith. Its like planting a seed. You have to feed and water it to make it grow. An answer wont come until you have put forward the effort first. You will need to begin reading the scriptures again and you will need to get enough courage to attempt to pray. Also, you will need to repent and start keeping all of the commandments. Once you start putting in the effort your faith will grow and you will know it is good because of the way it is changing your life for the better.

You lost faith in god because of the example of your parents. maybe they were acting like hypocrates. It was because they were not being true christains that you had so much unhappiness growing up. It was your faith in them that was actually destroyed, you were relying on their belief in god to carry you through. You have to put in the effort yourself now, if you really want to know that it is true. Trust me, it is worth the effort. I have found out that it is true myself and I find that knowledge very fulfilling. Good luck.

Answer 8

You have to have a reason to have faith. If you have no reason for being faithful, or don't believe that there is some higher being that calls your faith, then you can't just all of a sudden "be faithful". Faithfulness is an undying, constant belief in something bigger than yourself. Keyword being "belief". If you can't possibly fathom the prospect of God existing, then faith is lost. Easiest way to get your faith back... just believe in God.

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Answer 10

You are asking for a sign, which just shouldn't be shown to you, because in order to get faith back YOU have to DO something.

Faith is a verb. It's an action word. It means you have to be doing something to have it.
Faith isn't merely to think something is true, or to say something is true, but to LIVE it.
In order for you to get back your faith you have to DO something to get it. You already know what that is. It will just mean you have to be a little bit humble to achieve it, and willing to sacrifice your pride.

Good luck, if you're sincere about this, you'll do whatever it takes to obtain faith again.

Remember, faith without works is dead. That's a fact.