Child spanker!!!!!!!?

Question

I don't know who you are, but yesterday you wrote that you wanted to know what a good age is it to start spanking your child, you said your baby was 7 months old. I mean i know your spanking that child, (not yet). but come on, sure they need some disapline. I'm sorry but have just 3 words for you, child parenting classes, ask them. now days you can't spank them like when were kids. come on now.

Answer 1

There is a diffference between discipline and punishment. Spankings are a form of punishment. There are plenty of ways to provide your children with discipline without using physical punishment. Both of our daughters have been raised without spankings- and I myself was raised in a home where spankings were reserved for the most vital/dangerous situations. I remember being spanked only twice as I was growing up, and I remember what both of them were for. My parents used alternative methods, and I was a straight A student who never got into trouble growing up. I believe that the difference is that I was taught respect, and given certain expectations that I was held to. I use the same technique with my children (ages 2 and 7), as well as with the two and three year old preschoolers I teach. I give them expectations of behavior, and enforce it by making the expectations part of the routine. If children know what to expect, and that the same results will happen every time- they are more likely to follow the expectations. True, spanking is not illegal- but other methods should be considered. Try working in a situation where you CAN'T spank (such as with preschoolers in a center)... you HAVE to develop alternative methods to spanking or you will be out of a job. Parents need to be taught behavior management techniques so that spanking will not be an issue in the household.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with spanking your child. But they have to be at an age where they know right from wrong. I think that age is around 2 years old. A little swat on the bottom never hurt anyone. My parents spanked me and i turned out fine. I think i actually have more respect for people and things then people who were not when they were kids. I think kids need discipline and need to know right from wrong and this world would have a little less crime.

Answer 3

I am answering this question in this public forum since you didn't feel the need to contact me personally to express your concern. Instead of expressing genuine concern and guidance in private, you have chosen to be critical and judgmental, without having all the facts, in public. Was this in an endeavor to humiliate?

The question was posted as a genuine inquiry as to when it is best to start exercising SOME form of discipline with a child... IS seven months too young? I don't KNOW... THAT'S WHY I ASKED.

Do I spank my now OVER ONE YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER? Yes. When she does something that is extremely endangering to her well-being, she gets a swat on the hand so that she can understand that her behaviour is not acceptable.

I don't smack her across the face. I don't hit her with all my strength on her legs or her butt. I don't use other objects (like a belt or a paddle) to mete out justice either.

I, personally, feel that it is very important to discipline a child. And when my daughter is old enough to comprehend what a "time out" is, this will become the preferred method of discipline unless, again, her actions would jeapordize her physical well-being (running away from me and into a street of moving cars, for example).

I was seriously physically abused as a child, as were my other siblings. My natural inclination, actually, is to never touch my child. However, I am intelligent and astute enough to have learned that taking THAT path, never disciplining, will NOT do my child any favors. She will become a selfish, self-absorbed adult who thinks there are no consequences to her actions. That is why I was curious to see what my fellow Yahoo users thought on the subject. I stated my child's age so that others would know where I was coming from (that I had an infant, not a toddler, not a preschooler, not a preteen). You have jumped to conclusions and made assumptions about me without ever having taken the time to ask me.

I am sorry that the question I asked caused you distress and concern, but I hope my answer clarifies my intention. I also hope that, in as non-hostile a way as possible, I was able to counter YOUR rather hostile accusation. Next time, take the emotion down a notch and take the time to ask yourself if there could POSSIBLY be another side to the situation that you haven't considered.

~ A Designer.

(P.S. - The link to my original question is below)

Answer 4

No spanking, great for you but look at the kids in this world today. It is getting worse and worse. I think the president ought to set aside a day out of each month when every school aged child is sent home for a good old fashioned spanking. Not a beating mind you, a spanking. There is a difference.

As for the mom that asked. Good for her. She is thinking ahead. That's what parents that love their children do, think ahead and become informed. Kudos to the 'child spanker'.

Answer 5

Spanking is only a good discipline when used very sparingly and only for when the child is doing something that can hurt them(playing with stove, going in road, playing with plugs etc). A seven month old baby never needs spanking past the occasional smack on the hand.

Answer 6

Spanking is not the same as beating! Liberals can't tell the difference and now we have a bunch of spoiled snotty disrespectful brats running around. I do agree that 7 mo is too young. But after age 2 children do need a swat on the butt when it's called for.

Answer 7

Just FYI 7 months old is too young. The baby cannot comprehend that it has done something wrong. In this case it WOULD be child abuse.

At the age of 3 or so, when the child can comprehend the difference between being bad and being good, would be a better time.

Answer 8

I think the fact that spanking has become socially unacceptable is the reason we have so many delinquent kids in our schools.

Me and me oldest sister were fairly well disciplined as a child, a few light slaps round the bum weren't fun, but it made sure we didn't do it again.

My youngest sister wasn't spanked at all a few years after my parents divorced, she now has no respect for my mother's authority and it's clear that the lack of childhood discipline is the reason for this.

Answer 9

This is why we have so many uncontrollable punks running around. People only need some common sense when it comes to spanking/swatting/disciplining. I have a neighbor who went to the doctor about her little boys really bad tantrums, guess what the doctor said?!? "ignore him when he throws those fits"!!!! Can you believe that? Kids need to learn self control. Kids are born to learn and need to know what is the right and wrong way to behave. Now my neighbors boy is such an obnoxious punk. I can't stand it.

Answer 10

i'm infant of a spanker and that i spank and my mom and dad nevertheless are actually not allowed to spank my infant on the grounds that's my infant and that i visit do the punishing. Spanking is a final hotel punishment and not used usually and is, for my section, reserved for the mother and dad not the grand mom and dad My grandparents additionally did not spank us if we did something incorrect whilst with them they only informed our mom and dad who then dealt with the region as they observed in good shape