Okay, I have a b/f but he's like 50 miles away. We have managed to last 6 months together. Lately things are falling abpart though. I think he's more wrapped up in his ex then me. He was supposed to come over to see me today, but he said that his moms being a ***** and won't let him come over again. I'm just thinking that he's lieing and want to stay home. The relationship has had a lot of fights, but when we are together you can tell we both love eachother. He has ben leing to me too now. Even though about a half an hour later he will tell me the truth, he stilll lied. Any advice or something on this?
2006-09-15 00:20:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's 16 by the way. he has his own car but his mom will report him as a runaway if he leaves without her permission.
2006-09-15 00:25:16 · update #1
call and talk to his mom he may be lying again
2006-09-15 00:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 16 so I take it you are younger than he is, 15, 14 ,13. You have the rest of your life ahead of you so why try to salvage a long distant relationship( they never work anyway). You are way too young to know what love is, what you have is a puppy-love crush on a gut with a car. Since car= freedom then lies = distrust. Grow up! if you worried about school half as much as you worry about this losing relationship then you would probably graduate middle or high school with honors.
2006-09-15 07:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by call2fly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can lie to you, it's quite rough cos you will often doubt his words and this won't help your relationship in the long term.
i also think that if a guy is really into you, he will overcome most odds to meet you or see you. The same how you would push everything outta your schedule just to be with someone you really care about. His mum being the hindrance to him coming over? it's a little dubious.
I feel that you will be most happy being with someone you can safely trust. No frying your brains over whether he's telling the truth this time or not... If someone loves you, he won't want to make you feel anxious all day.
The distance thing is also a tricky matter. It sends your suspicious mode into overdrive.
In a nutshell, you'd be a much happier person with someone else
2006-09-15 07:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that he is lieing and is more wrapped to his ex then it means that he doesnot loves u. Why have a relation where i needs to lie. Won't last longer if it goes this way, so better end it yourself.
2006-09-15 07:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by pat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you put up with lying?? Do you feel you deserve better?? think enough of yourself to do what is best for you- enjoy being single- have you thought about your future- and does he have good intentions or plans for you??? What advice would you give your best friend?? take care- you don;t need this grief and mind games- D
2006-09-15 07:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens because of communication gap
well do one thing be nice to him tell him that you TRUST him and love him and you totally
understand his situation
ask forgiveness for all fights for being rude to him
and tell him you understand its ok
then just listen to what he says ,his voice will tell you whether he really loves you or or if he s truthful he ll let you know
be calm
anyways what do you look in a relationship
love ,understanding right
goodluck
2006-09-15 07:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are his hobby...not his passion...free youself from the stress of this relationship before you get taken advantage of even more ,you will end up being the one who gets hurt the most.lies breed mistrust ..trust is the foundation of a relationship..you are on a path you cant win with ..find a better man
2006-09-15 07:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont dump him....yet...find out first for yourself...dont just make a hasty decision cuz ur gonna really regret it later...boys sumtimes lies becuz they dont want to hurt their gf's feelings but yeah most boys...probably all of them....would lie...why not test him....here's a suggestion...get a new cell fone number and start text messaging him...pretend to be a another girl and tell him that u want to see him at a certain place near his place...if he said ok....then at the same time call him and tell him u, as urself, want to meet him at your place....if he refuse...ask why....if he lie...dump him...
2006-09-15 07:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by Luke_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I hate to say it, it sounds like this guy is taking you for granted. When you are young, it happens. When he loses you, he will see how he messed up. Maybe then he will get serious. I hope this helps.
2006-09-15 07:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies lead to lack of trust.....Lack of trust = No love in the relationship.....dump him and move on, obviously he doesnt love you as much as he says, or that you would hope he does.....find someone else that will treat you better than that.
2006-09-15 07:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not get rides to come over,you know gas cost and all.
But how do you know he is lieing to you? and what makes you think he is still wrapped up in his x?
Do you think maybe its time to let go and move on?
2006-09-15 07:25:31 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋