my bf is telling me that i have had a misserable life. due to the fact that i think work is important. says that when he was 19 sniffing coke was exciting and more fulling than what i did. at 19 i owned my own bar. he reacons my life was boring but i dont thinks so. can you tell me what was better working or sniffing. i know the answer but i want someone to tell me if i am too much of a stick in the mud.
2006-09-15 00:01:42 · 24 answers · asked by tinawells_uk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sorry he wants me to mention he wasnt in a dark room sniffing, he was out having fun going on holiday and having everything he wanted. but yet still needed that little extra to make him happy i think. where as i dont life is what you make it not what you sniff it. he also say he has stopped now due to having a family
2006-09-15 00:06:29 · update #1
What? What does it matter?
He he feels HIS life was better and you feel YOUR life was better, than you are both happy, right?
2006-09-15 00:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woah there. Really!
Your boyfriend is ''telling You that your life is miserable.'' ....!
Surely it is up to the person who's living the life to decide whether or not it is 'miserable,' or NOT....!
If 'coke sniff' was more fulfilling, then you could try asking him to define 'how'? in 'what terms' and just what were these benefits?
Just what 'Wonderful and Magical benefits' have been bestowed on you in this relationship?
Of course life at 19 was more exciting, playing Russian Roulette is exciting...
And, as to your final question, whether 'tis better to sniff or work,' you already KNOW the answer.
Oh, as for being 'a stick in the mud,' so what? Who is that a problem for? ...and can't anyone come up with a less childish phrase than that!
(post script: Given that coke sniffing has been done for one hell of a long time, can't stop being 'a stick in the mud' and find something fresh / new to practice.........? )
I wish you the best of luck.
Sash.
2006-09-17 21:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you weren't a sick in the mud. The people that you met and to own a bar at 19 that is something. That gives you a high that you can remember and feel good about. What your bf had was a temp fix to something but you had something that wasn't a temp fix. There is nothing wrong with thinking that work is important. I do think that there is something wrong with sniffing to add a little something. We you have pride in what you do you don't need a little something.
2006-09-15 00:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you know the answer and I will also go on to congratulate you (because you need someone to encourage and praise you) for owning your own bar at 19. This is what most decent citizens want out of life; a successful job, a happy family, health and a decent life.
So keep up with it and don't let anybody tell you otherwise.
Good for you!
2006-09-15 00:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work IS important! It is what you do!! If you don't work, what use are you? Everyone has to be of some use in society and if you aren't you are a parasite. My Mother said "if you don't work you are NOTHING". Whether that is extreme or old fashioned I still take her point of view. I am useful to my friends, work and everyone. Life is much better as a result. I think you and your boyfriend are different species and you should leave him to find someone who isn't a drug addicted parasite. As far as being happy, it is not about finding a drug to satisfy your addiction....it is more of a long term contentment of the life you have built for yourself. You may be miserable because you have a hopeless boyfriend!
2006-09-15 00:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by UN1C0RN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, find someone who respects the fact that you have worked hard. Oh, and take a holiday, get a hobby. Work is important, but you need fun as well, (no sniffing mind).
2006-09-15 11:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
owning your own bar and making something of your life is so much better than sniffing coke. i think your bf is jealous of you and trying to make himself feel better by putting you down. you should be proud of what you have achieved. why are you with this man when he shows no respect for who you are?
2006-09-15 00:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did for sure! Not only did you have a better life then but youll have a better life when you're older too due to the fact that you have your priorities right and got your work/financial side sorted first - loadsa time for partying and holidays after that
2006-09-15 00:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right, while he was blowing his cash on nights out and drugs, you was earning a honest living and securing your future.
owning your own bar is a great achievement at 19, something to be proud of, people will respect you for not sitting on your backside being a "dosser".
You are not a stick in the mud at all
2006-09-15 00:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, dont mess your life because someone gave an immature reason and stupid logic. Yours is indeed a better life. do whatever pleases you, enjoy the life the way you want to enjoy. i keep telling girls; build confidence, take charge of your life and never throw away or dump your dreams because someone does not like it. Cheer up, you only live once.
2006-09-15 00:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by aftab24ff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if I could sniff coke for a while, knowing that I could give it up without the addiction.......if he is off the stuff, I'd say he had a better life.
2006-09-15 00:17:19 · answer #11 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋