what would you do if your gf/bf ask for a break but you cant seem to let her/him go cuz you love him/her more than anything else...?
2006-09-14 23:47:21 · 14 answers · asked by Luke_89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The break comes with boundaries. "If you set it free and it does not come back, it was never yours. If it does come back, it's yours to keep!!!!!!!"
You have to give them a break but they must not abuse the freedom.
2006-09-14 23:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Just enquiring/ inquiring 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some times, relationships can become suffocating. One can loose ones identity in the 'couple' factor of it and be disoriented by it. When this happens, a break is needed. Not month long break, just a few days so one can regain the separate identity again. I like being known as my own person and not just as "John Doe's Wife". I have a separate personality from the hubby and some times people, and I as well, forget it. (I don't separate from him, but I do get more involved with things that he don't care to do and this offers the separation that I need. He also does the same to me, by the way. I hate baseball and he'll drown himself in it when he feels a break is needed).
Unfortunately, a lot of people say they 'need a break' because they don't know how to actually break up with some one and they'll use this as an excuse.
If a break is needed and agreed to, ground rules should be set. Can other people be dated while the separation is going on? If the answer to this is Yes, then it's over and they just can't do it any other way. 'Dated' and 'run around with' should be explained and understood in detail. No dating, but hanging out with the crowd, yes.
Regardless of how much one loves the other, if the break isn't given, then you risk making your lives miserable and wrecking the relationship beyond repair.
No matter what the reasoning behind some one wanting 'a break' it should be given but make sure everyone understands what's acceptable during the break and what isn't.
2006-09-15 07:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With love like that,I would give my bf a break,if you love them,love sometimes means letting go. Not only should you be able to work out your dificulties,but could become better friends as well and if you become better friends,then in turn wouldnt it mean you would become even greater lovers?
2006-09-15 06:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give them the break because if you pressure them to stay in the relationship you'll most likely push them the rest of the way out the door because you'll come off as being needy, or possessive. Give them their space to think things through, do this and you'll thank yourself later. Beg and plead and you'll look and feel like a fool because they'll most likely go anyways. This is the best advice I can give.
2006-09-15 06:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by zekemilli4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think that people sometimes misinterprate love.If it is that someone wants a break,try and find out why.If the rason is valid you then would just have to give that person a break.If the reason does not sound valid according to you,then the person clearly dont want to be with you and by not giving them the break that they have requested will only give them more reason to blame you for the break up ( Possesiveness ) or obsessed.
2006-09-15 06:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
just give urselves some "cooloffs" for some period of time then talk about how u felt during those times that u werent with each others company then try to analyze and give a heart to heart evalauaton of your mutual feeling towards each other, then from that yo can make a decision, both of you guys, good lucks!
2006-09-15 06:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by candee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Um, I'll ask him first why he wants a break and if he really wants a break, sure why not... if that what he wants.
2006-09-15 06:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn Treader 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really luv him/her then give a break, if he/she loves u too as much as u do then will surely return otherwise not.
2006-09-15 06:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by pat 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well.... try to take a break for a little bit then tell him/her that you miss them and want you back
2006-09-15 06:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by ~Hayley~ 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
give her a break
2006-09-15 06:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋