my bf wants to have sex and he want a b l o w j o b. Idk if i'm ready for all that yet. I mean i love him & i want to keep him happy & i'll do what it takes. What do I do?
2006-09-14 23:46:26 · 14 answers · asked by badgirl 419 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you aren't ready, then dont... Don't have sex or give him a Bj just because he wants it. Its a 50-50 relationship, if you don't want it, the he doesn't get it. Respect yourself and don't do it unless you want it and are 100% sure...And if he breaks up with you because you say no, then it wasn't love and he only wanted you for sex. If he respects your wishes and is still there, then hun you have a great guy. Be good to yourself first though.
2006-09-14 23:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All good things come to those who wait. If he feels the same as you do he can wait a bit until your ready. But remember hormones are a powerful driving force for guys, and his desire to get into things you might not be ready for is mostly an instinct. Do only what you feel happy and ready to do, no more no less. Be honest and open with him about how you feel. Also have fun with what ever it is you choose to do and dont regret it once its done or not done. :)
2006-09-14 23:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mindwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, then don't do it. You will likely have regrets. If he loves you, he will wait till you are ready and won't pressure you in the mean time. It doesn't mean you guys can't fool around till then. Just don't get carried away. When will you be ready? You'll know when you are ready and no longer have doubts. Good luck and be patient. The time will come, just not yet.
2006-09-14 23:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... just. Say. No.
If you're saying "I don't know if I'm ready," it means you're not ready. Trust me, trust me darling. My first time doing that was with someone I was engaged to -- at age 19 -- and I still wasn't actually ready to do it. It was his pressure. And if I could take it back, he wouldn't be my first. (We're not together now.)
You also shouldn't do "whatever it takes" to make just-a-boyfriend happy. Maybe if you were married or seriously headed that direction, then you could take such an attitude. But believe me baby, nothing he has given you is enough to be worth you having that kind of attitude. You're young. Wait.
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P.S. Once you pop, you can't stop.
2006-09-14 23:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer provide this guy a 2d danger. you have toddlers, its substantial which you in straightforward terms date adult males involved in being in contact in a family contributors. This guy has made it sparkling he has no interest in doing issues that contain your toddlers, and their desires could come first. additionally, the church incident exhibits how immature he his. Do you incredibly need yet another newborn, an grownup one? Please do no longer waste a while feeling sorry for this jerk, Did he experience sorry for ruining your infants exciting, or for embarassing you at church? i do no longer think of , he in straightforward terms felt undesirable approximately sound asleep interior the automobile. His convenience became the only project bothering him, thats egocentric. You deserve extra useful.
2016-11-07 09:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't want to do it, just tell him your not ready yet. If you think your ready, heck go for it. You're going to lose it sometime.
2006-09-14 23:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever give in to something you arent ready for, it will tear you apart inside if you arent ready. It really sucks, dont let him push you, if he cant handle not waiting then you deserve someone who will wait.
2006-09-14 23:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by bburgandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not ready dont do it you will regret it, and if he loves you he will understand, if he does not and gets all freaked then he is not worth the hassel and does not deserve your love.. remember there are plenty fish in the sea.
2006-09-14 23:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your heart; at times it tells you the truth. dont do it if you think you are not ready. if he really likes you then he will understand. dont throw away yourself unless you are 100% ready.
2006-09-14 23:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by aftab24ff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not do anything that you don't want to do. In sex, especially, your consent is very important. You don't have to consent just to show you love him.
He too could abstain, just to show he loves you.
2006-09-14 23:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋