my ex has recently got engaged and i am still on good terms with him, but anytime our mutual mates and i ask him and her out he claims it will be too awkard for her.... and now they are engaged I'm not invited out for celebratory drinks as would be too weird for her!
i dumped him and have since moved on and had a kid with someone else, she is very welcome to him!
is it just me that finds this odd?
2006-09-14 23:19:39 · 30 answers · asked by sinnedfairy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
she doesnt mind us being around each other as we have gone out before, but apparently she doesnt want to see us together.... we have been split up for over four years now
and the people giving so called harsh answers, no worries i don't think they're harsh
2006-09-14 23:34:25 · update #1
She's intimidated by you or maybe it's him it seems funny to me that she's ok with you two going out without her but not with her does that make sense to you would you rather have your man out with his ex alone or with you there to see if there are any sparks? I don't think this woman knows the whole story and I am sure you don't. Your ex sounds like he might have a game of denial happening call her up say hi tell her congratulations if he gets mad so what.
2006-09-15 04:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-05 19:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Alisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him make you feel crazy, that is a legitimate characteristic in a unhealthy/abusive relationship. From what you've said, it sounds like you're relationship is very one sided. You seem to be the one giving back and taking his b.s, but in a relationship both patrons should be giving and taking the same. It seems like he proposed because his ex was engaged, but that's for you to figure out. You should just be thinking about how the relationship may look in general, if he really cares, and of course if you want to marry him. Best of luck!
2016-03-27 02:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's odd after that much time. However, some women are very insecure and just assume not put themselves in situations which may cause some jealousy and stress.
It's unfortunate that you and your ex can not remain friends and you can't enjoy the company of him or his fiance. But I suppose it's really just a deep insecurity that his fiance has. Maybe your ex has told her things that you aren't aware of. Maybe your ex still harbors some deep hurt from you dumping him and his fiance is aware of how he feels (or felt after the break up). There are a number of reasons why the fiance may not want the two of you together.
Personally, I don't think I would feel this way if my fiance wanted to remain friends with an ex of his. But really, unless I was faced with that situation, I don't know how I would react. I don't consider myself a jealous person but sometimes we can surprise ourselves!
2006-09-15 00:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't hang out with your exes - that is just weird. Move on, end all contact, go your merry way. You guys have broken up, but you plan to remain friends? Why? There's no reason to do so. In the beginning it's always a nice thought, but life goes on. This guy is engaged and his fiancee deserves to have him - not share him with you. You've got a child now - focus on him or her and live your life. Your ex should remain in the past from this day forward.
2006-09-15 00:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean. Me and my ex split up like 7 years ago, and when i got together with somebody else we still used to talk, he used to call me up on my birthday and we used to see each other for a drink. Not very often but occasionally. And my bloke was fine with that. Then he got this new girlfriend, got engaged to her, and he just went and moved to Australia, didnt even call me or nothing. Hes back now as it didnt work out over there but hes still with her and i dont hear a peep from him.
I'm not sure if it was because of her, but it seems weird that everything was fine until she came on the scene.
Females can be very weird.
Its not that I find this odd, but I can see where this other girl is coming from. You two being on friendly terms might seem to her like you still have feelings for each other.
2006-09-14 23:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Not odd at all.
We all have pasts and not everyone likes to see them paraded. If you've dumped him that makes him one of your cast-off's and (whatever her opinion may be of you on meeting) very few people are proud of having what others considered 'binnable'
What's awful is that you're all still swimming in the same pond.
How would you feel if the boot was on the other foot and this was your engagement party?
2006-09-14 23:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think this is very odd, I don't see why it would be awkward for her as you have both moved on. It's not as if you have children with him or were married to him. There is definitely something not right if you and he are still on good terms. There is not really much you can do, maybe it's her who is objecting to you being there on the grounds that you are an ex of his. But if you are not invited then there is nothing you can do. It sounds like maybe she doesn't want him being around you.
2006-09-14 23:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
me an me ex get on fine we were together for 3 years she said i was her soul mate but thing jus got to old now im with someone shes never met my ex but does get a bit funny but when i talk about her. when we split up we said our new patners would not get in the way of us being friends which i will all ways stand by.
2006-09-15 16:54:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this may sound harsh but lets reverse the rolls how would you feel if your current boyfriend always had his ex around all though nothing is going on it still is a little awkard and you would not be to pleased about it. be happy that he is still talking to you, dont push him to much about the issue otherwise he will just drop you like a hot cake, give it time.
2006-09-14 23:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋