Is it bad to hate my father?

Answer 1

its better then not having any feelings toward ur dad

Answer 2

Why? Figure out why, then you can heal and be healthier. Hatred is a form of stressor that can make you ill in the long run. Hating him does not punish him (or hurt him, or change him).
So get some books on whatever condition caused you to "hate" him in the first place, understand, then go on. If need be find a substitute father figure in his place whom you can love in a fatherly way. You can then move on...he will no ;onger be your father, but just a person, a person not deserving of your love.

Answer 3

It doesn't make you a bad person.

I have every reason to hate my father. When I was a kid, my father did some very evil things to me... things no one should do to any kid. Then when I had my first child, he disowned me. Now, granted, there are details that I'm not sharing here, but trust me, I have reasons to hate him.

And for a long time, I did hate him. I wished horrible hurt and heartache on him. I wanted to see him in more pain than any person had ever been in.

Then you know what I realized? By allowing this hatred to fill me, he was winning. I taking energy away from other things just to feel hate for my father. Hate is an active emotion, you don't just feel it, you feel it strongly, it takes you over sometimes.

By hating him, I was allowing him to take away from other parts of my life.

Now? Now, I don't really think about him. Now, I pity him. I think he'sa pathetic old man. I hadn't seen him in about 20 years, then we went and saw him last June. Now, I know that he can't ever hurt me. I was still scared of this jerk, I was still scared that he would hurt me, that he would hurt my daughter. Now, I know that if it ever came down to him or me, I could and would be able to take care of myself and my family. He can't hurt me anymore.

Hate your father if you need to. But don't let the hate dictate the person that you are. Remember, that as long as you hate him, you give him time, thought, and part of yourself.

Answer 4

Nomatter what the reason is,its not good 2 hate ur own parents.they may scream at us,slap us sometime or even say something at times which might hurt our feelings.but remember its bcoz of them that u r here in this world.u r being nurtured & given knowledge & eduction which so many children around the world can only dream about.
yeah,u have 2 b lil leniant to ur father bcoz u know how men can sumtime easily get frustrated or careless about their responsibilities.hating him will only worsen the situation.so give another chance.hey,learn 2 love people & not hate them if u want 2 save the humanity & ur soul in 2day's era.CIAO!

Answer 5

You can hate him, as long as you respect him. I don't know the circumstances but if he did something harmful to you then you have every right to. If you hate them because he wouldn't buy you something then that is just selfish.
I hate my father. I haven't spoken to him since age 11. I'm in my 40s now.

Answer 6

It really depends on WHY you hate him. But then again, holding that hate inside of you can lead to some pretty strong emotional feelings as well as depression and suicidal thoughts. I know, it happened to me. The best thing to do is try to forgive him for any wrong he has done to you, and go on with your life. Remember this; The only way to have a successful future, is to forget your past. Forgive and forget it for your own good, not his.

Answer 7

yes its bad im upset at my father and i just put a question on here about him dont hate him u need to talk to him let him know ur upset with him and u dont have to talk to him but forgive him its in the bible so dont be bitter i mean its gonna hurt but dont be that way towards him

Answer 8

Its pretty much an open question as you havent given any reasons "WHY" you would or could hate your father.
The difference between love and hate is the passion behind it which is a very thin line at the very most.

I hate my father. I dont love him, I acknowledge him as my father as its his DNA that I carry.
It all started when I was 5 years old.
He sexually abused me for years, pulled me out of school because he thought education made women vain, proud and too smart for their own good. He told me that when he abused me he was doing it to teach me, to take me down a peg or two to keep me from being more than what I should be, to prepare me to be an obediant wife. He told me that if I hadnt matured a certain way, or had a certain color of eyes, or looked a certain way he wouldnt have sodomized me all those years ago, he told me it was all my fault. He told me it was my fault he was the way he was, it was my fault all the times my mother left him and took me with her after he had beaten me and her.
He stopped when I moved out with my two children in 2004, I was 25 years old. I had two children from a marriage before I moved back home. My father had swore to me that he had change. I foolishly believed him. Thank GOD he never touched my children and that he aimed his abuse towards me, GOD FORBID if he had ever touched my children. He would be a dead man and I would be in prison for murder.
Yes I hate my father, very much.
People say its okay to hate the actions that a person does, but the actions make the person. I dont respect him, I dont love him, I dont even like him. I feel nothing for him. He took away my childhood, disabled me for adulthood, my relationships with other people, men especially. He made me paranoid over myc children as I suspected every man I cam into contact with, and I married men just like him, not on purpopse, but that was the only role model I had.
People ask me now if I respect my dad and if I love him and my answer is no. I cant respect a man who sodomized me at age 5, beat my mother and raped her, and took turns with us as if we were nothing but objects to do with as he pleased. Sorry my answer is no... I cant respect him, if I respected him regardless of his actions then I would have to agree with what he did and take the blame for his actions, thus blaming each and every child who has been abused in any way. I cant respect someone like that I refuse to.
So depending on the circumstance I believe its okay to hate your parent.
I do mine and I dont regret it one bit.
I am 27 years old mother of 4 children, married to a man who never hits me married to a man who is unlike my father in everyway.

Answer 9

I used to feel the same way about my dad..but at some point in your life, you have to give those bad feelings up...not for him but for yourself. Just decide that you will be done with all the hating and stress it causes. Trust me, you will feel much better.

Answer 10

well, you can't choose your father. You didn't mention your age, so it would be difficult to give advice. At some stages of life you just feel that you hate your parents. Sometimes they give us real reasons to hate them.

Answer 11

I know you're not suppose to hate anyone,but some people make it very hard. I can't say I hate my dad (although I do say it) but I don't know what else to call it. OK I just looked up some synonyms. I loathe him,detest him,dispise him. That any better?