How can I approach my family and admit to my addiction to crack/cocaine? I'm so afraid that I will disappoint them and that they will be angry with me. But it's time that I come (and become) clean and I need their help. Any advice or experiences??
2006-09-14 22:43:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am 36 years old, have an older sister and a Mom that's a benevolent dictator
2006-09-14 23:00:45 · update #1
I am a recovering addict and it's hard letting your family know your dark secret. First, have a plan of action, once the truth is out, what are your plans? Treatment? N/A meetings? Don't make promises. Action speaks louder than words. I would suggest even getting your family involved in the recovery program...they have Nar-anon(narcotics) and Al-anon(alcoholic) which are meetings for family and spouses of addicts and alcohlics) It gives them a better understanding of the disease and how it affects others. My family goes and it's been helpful. The 1st step to recovery is "We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become unmanageable." It's good that you are coming out in the open to let those who love you know that you are an addict...They love you and want to see you get better...not worse. The below website will help especially the meeting schedules and read the NA Literature Online listing it's very helpful... God bless you and remember....with God all things are possible..and it's time to be about of the solution not the problem...Just For Today- GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE, THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN, AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
2006-09-15 11:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by MS BOSSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will feel so much better after you have told someone. The relieve of just saying you have an addiction is the start.Your family will feel upset but they will come around and be happy you decided to come to them for help. Good Luck and Bless you
2006-09-14 22:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by JG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family has probably already seen changes in you and I'm guessing they have suspicions about why you are acting different. If you were in my family, I would respect you for telling the truth and try to help you any way I could, especially if you are asking for help. Don't try to do this alone. I have a feeling you'll need them in the coming weeks.
Best of luck to you, man.
2006-09-14 23:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If counciling is 2 expensive, and you really do want help, your family should be there for u no-matter what. Even if they are dissappointed at first, they will respect the fact that u r admitting u have a problem and will most likely be there to help
2006-09-14 22:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may truly be angry and confused that you are addicted, BUT they will know by your admission that you are willing to get help. By being concerned about their disappointment, you have already proven they love you and you are close to them. Tell them. My son almost died before I even knew he was an addict, but he came to me and we worked on his problems..It was a long hard journey but now he is a very successful man with a life. Who will always be an addict, but a RECOVERED addict. Tell them. They would want the chance to help you find ways to facilitate your recovery.
2006-09-14 22:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by bcd95 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you run, not walk, to some sort of 12 step group and find support there. I think its extremely admirable that you are willing to look inside yourself and admit your problem. Be careful. If your family is majorly dysfunctional, you may not get the support you are looking for. It may be necessary to find a new "family" in a support group who will be willing to challenge you. Good luck in your recovery.
2006-09-14 22:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family most likely will support you and try to help you. I'm speaking from experience and I'm in an outpatient rehab program right now. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but I'm glad I'm doing it. It's better to be honest, because secrets make you sick.
2006-09-14 23:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by Netta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother in law was a addicted to the same stuff.
the difference is that he waited to long to come clean.
he waited so long that he reached the point were he didnt care about loved ones any more and just about his next fix.
now hes going in an out from rehab to rehab. he has caused alote of damage emotionally and physically to my family and his.
the longer you wait, the same will happen to you.
come clean while people still care about you and before you hurt them.
2006-09-14 22:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it is hard to admit this problem to your family but just remember that they love you and what you help you in anything you do in your life and this is a big one so go for it and don't wait. i'm not saying that it won't be hard to tell them but your best chance of beating this is with the love and support of your family. good luck and i know you can beat this if you want it bad enough.
2006-09-14 22:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they may first react angrily towards you but hopefully they would support you in your attempt to straighten out your life. You have to realize that this is no easy habit to break. You need to be fully committed to this. good luck.
ps shed a few tears, it will help them come to terms with your addiction and show that you are ready to quit.
2006-09-14 22:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋