My sister is a really bad person and there's nothing I can do about it. I've tried. My mind and body can't take the stress anymore so I've decided it's time to walk away. I am devasted and worried I'm going to regret it years down the track, but I can't see another way out. She stole my dog (was in boarding, removed her and claimed she didn't have her. When I got her back after legal action the dog was starving and had parvo which I had to pay $1000 for). She constantly lies and tells lies about me to my Dad and his family so she can get an inheritance and I won't. This is damaging the relationship with him and the family. Mum stopped considering her a daughter a long time ago when she got her boyfriend to beat Mum up and threaten her with a gun. She also broke into my car, stole my wallet and used my credit card. There are so many things. I can't have this in my life, but at the end of the day, she is still my sister. Am I doing the wrong thing? How do I make this easier?
2006-09-14 22:15:17 · 13 answers · asked by alysseq_86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, we haven't really tried to get her help because we are afraid. All we have done is pointed out her errors and told her things need to change.
2006-09-14 22:21:51 · update #1
I have had to accept that someone in my family is not well & therefore not healthy for me to be in contact with them.
For your own peace of mind you have to think very carefully about what you have gained, this is very hard but better than the pain of dysfunctional contact.
It will get better as time goes by.
be brave, good luck
2006-09-15 00:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good-hearted person, i can tell by the way you're finding it so hard to walk away from her. But there is only so much you can do!
You dont need someone like her to bring you down, and you dont have to feel guilty about leaving her either.
The time will come later in life where she'll realise what pain she has caused in your family, and she'll be the one begging for forgiveness.
It'll be up to you then, to decide whether or not she deserves a second chance.
But for now - i suggest you leave and dont look back. You can make a better friend to replace the gap in your heart that your sister has caused.
Good luck and DONT feel guilty - you've done nothing wrong!
2006-09-15 05:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by puma* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is very very sad and painful, u can just relax urself by thinking that u v done ur best, and u just cant do anything more, wen something like this happen, the pain remains, but it will gradully become less, and u must do efforts so as to bear this pain and become habitual of living like this, eventually it will go away, all the best
2006-09-15 05:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by hmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you say.. at the end of the day she is still your SISTER! so..whatever you do she is still your sister.. but if you want to level your stress then its better to go away with her...don't even think about saying bad words or hurting her... just show love to her but i know ...i know (how can you show love to her if your away with her?) then you must pray for her... but if your not a christian then all you need to do is.... FORGIVE her...... its the easiest thing and aproved thing to do...but if she do it again then just forget about her - being a FRIEND(as other said, sister is like a friend too) not being a SISTER coz whatever you do she is STILL YOUR SISTER!
2006-09-15 05:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by p!nk_f@iry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing easy about it that's easy! Just start staying clear of her and avoid her!
My brother was difficult as well, I avoided him for about 12 years! He started acting better as the years went on!
2006-09-15 05:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
d@mn! bad sis for sure! just forget about her, and cut the ties without thinking twice. if she is such a witch, then there's no regretting for u. i mean she even if she is ur sis, soes it mean that she loves you? i dont think she loves anyone but her dumbass boyfriend who is stupid enough to go out with her. so just do it. she dosent even deserve a family. trust me, u'll regret it more if u dont cut ties.
2006-09-15 05:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by √Xⁿ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep reminding yourself what she has been doing to you and strengthen yourself that you will not allow this to happen to yourself...you have already taken a decision in this respect and ultimately you will be happy that you have taken this decision...considering what all she has done to you.
2006-09-15 05:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by pathik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier for you or her? If for her, I hate to say it but she just might not notice. If for you, it'll still be painful, but getting a confidante or someone real not online to talk to might be a little soothing.
2006-09-15 05:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tough love with her.even if you have her arrested. she needs help.has anyone ever tried to get her help?
2006-09-15 05:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by kimberly k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can prove all that you have written here -- why dont you have her arrested and save the rest of your family from her
2006-09-15 05:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋