my friend went out on a date with this guy, he asked her out a few times so she went out with him, they got on great and he use to text her 3 times a day they met up a few times after the frist date she really liked him and he like her to.
the only thing here was this guy was going to live in a another country and before she new it he was gone he still kept in touch with her thought email and text, but not anymore my friend felt let down by this guy so she wont email him anymore, she is really confussed about him she stills likes him alot and he was very good to her
my question to you is
why did he go out on a date with her when he knew he was going to live in another country
and should she email him again
2006-09-14 22:12:11 · 17 answers · asked by ladyluck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he should have made it clear from day one and if he did not thats not ethical.
2006-09-14 22:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by uknownotlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a date doesnt mean you're getting married or getting together for that matter.
Dating is just like 1-1 socialising with that element of dateness there.
The fact he kept in contact shows he liked her or he wouldnt have bothered but obviously he cant let a women change his plans.
Yes she should email him again, if he was a git he could have not bothered staying in contact at all.
The fact hes in a different country and takes the time out to email/text shows he likes her.
In which way, only he will know and she will only find out in due time.....
2006-09-14 22:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by JCMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with what he did, the fact that he is still communicating with her shows that he hasn't ditched her.If she luvs him she should stop acting funny and reply his messages. As long as people luv each other distance will not be a problem as they can still communicate and visit each other. Of course the guy should have told the girl that he was leaving the country before going but anyway, maybe he didn't want to see her unhappy.
2006-09-14 22:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by mpondwi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should have been honest with her from the start, then she wouldn't have felt let down, if he can do that he's no good.
it sounds like he was just using her for a bit of fun before he left, he is probably in a relationship right now and thats why the emails have stopped. the best thing your friend can do is think...sod him, i can do better, why should she let anyone treat her like that, she deserves better
2006-09-14 22:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds a bit needy. What makes you think a date has to be a lasting commitment. They enjoyed each others company so she should be happy for the good experience she had. Did she expect the fellow to marry her or something?
2006-09-14 22:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by uselessadvice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are our primary teachers. They are the context in which we grow. No relationship whether it be family, friends, or lovers is not without some valuable lessons. I guess the lesson here is that love someone while they are there and give them their wings if they need to fly.
2006-09-14 22:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because he was really interested to your friend that's why he was willing to take the risk. the bottom line rthere is he is keeping in touch. i think he just made the most out of his stay in your place but i am not saying that he made it out of your friend's expense. maybe he likes her too much that he couldn't resist going out with her despite the fact that he was leaving. if he doesn't have clean intentions, he will not keep in touch and just pretend to be gone with the wind
2006-09-14 22:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by enigmaticenegue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello there.
i cant tell you the reason why this guy would date someone knowing he is leaving town. maybe he wanted one final fling but not realising that someone could really fall for him.
maybe your "friend" should email him and tell him exactly what she feels. to tell him that she had feelings for him and how much he has hurt her. she should also ask the question that your asking us ' Why did he start a relationship knowing he was leaving '?
2006-09-14 22:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by amanda y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should life stop just cos you are moving?? You can meet someone you like at any point in time - often at the most inconvenient time - Your friend should just forget about him and move on
2006-09-14 22:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by Fluffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he liked her and he wanted the pleasure of her company before he left - the fact that he kept in touch with her after he left was a good sign - he obviously hadnt just been using her and he really liked her so yeah I think she should
2006-09-14 22:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing, but then when my husband told me he was gonna miss me when I left I told him that didn't have to happen. I asked him if he could see us permanently together, 'cause I'd be willing to stay if he could. He could and I did.
2006-09-14 22:16:20 · answer #11 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋