If a couple isn't having a wedding registry, and they would prefer cash gifts, is there a proper or formal term for this?
2006-09-14 21:46:01 · 15 answers · asked by kolgamite 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks everyone for your input. I've further learned that this question is so culture-dependent. But apparently "presentation" is the closest western term as Charm Kat said. Thanks!
2006-09-14 21:57:15 · update #1
On one side, it was a simple question of a term, but I love the comments as well. Anyway, cash as gift is a highly common and norm in weddings in many cultures, although obviously something not commonly practiced in the states. Whether one thinks it's rude or not is completely pointless unless proper context is given. But thanks for the insights!
2006-09-15 19:06:49 · update #2
Presentation
2006-09-14 21:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by charm kat 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, the proper terms for this is "money-grubbing ingrates."
If you are lucky enough to have a wedding, and have people send you gifts AHEAD of the ceremony/reception [note: NOT bring them to the reception, how crass], it would be very rude to shake them down for cash gifts only.
The couple is basically saying, "We don't trust your taste in gifts, nor do we appreciate the time you will spend picking out the right one, so just go to the ATM, thanks." Or, "We already have everything we need for our new married life in terms of gifts, so we decided extortion would be the best route."
Hopefully the couple will see the error of their ways. After all, truly gracious gift-givers will include a return receipt, so they can end up with the cold hard cash they so greatly desire in the long run.
2006-09-15 11:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is NO proper or polite way to request specific gifts, especially not gifts of money.
A couple who does not desire a gift registry certainly does not have to register. But they must graciously accept whatever gifts they receive, and cannot ask for money gifts. That is positively rude.
2006-09-15 23:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put the Cold cash in to Red envelope and it all depends on how close you are to them will change how much you would give.
starting $35-40? would be nice but if you are the best friend?well you might have to put in more
2006-09-15 04:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by pinkpanther4m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy one, because on one hand, it's good you want to be straight-forward about it. On the other hand, you might come across a little greedy if you say you prefer only cash gifts. Try this: say, "any gifts are welcome and appreciated, however, cash is preferred." That way, you're welcoming anything they offer, and don't sound like you only want money from them, but are steering them gently toward what you really want. Good Luck.
2006-09-15 05:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In India it is called "sagan". In fact it is more customary to give cash at weddings rather than gifts.
2006-09-15 04:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by sonali_n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is, as you said, culturally dependent. But where I come from, it's extremely rude to request cash.
2006-09-15 05:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is called donated loot. Only kidding. It is referred to as a financial gift in my area.
2006-09-15 04:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"monetary gifts" would make sense to me, however, if you don't have a registry, I would assume that most people would probably end up giving you money anyway, just to be on the safe side
2006-09-15 12:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called Hong Bao (red packet).
2006-09-15 04:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋