I have a six year old son from a previous relationship. He lives with his mom. He stays with me one night a week on the weekend not every weekend. My GF now says it is interfering with her life even though she choses to have her neices stay every sat night. It is really getting to me as my son is my life.
Any advice?
2006-09-14 21:42:23 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you gotta talk to her, if she loves you then she will have to accept your son too
2006-09-14 21:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I reckon that it's not your son that is getting in the way but the fact that you have had another life with someone else that is getting in the way. Do not let your relationship with her ruin what you have with your son, you simply tell her that, he is your son and will always be apart of your life and if she cannot accept that then maybe she's not in the correct relationship, i mean after all she knew you had a son from the start. I would also say if she has taken this attitude towards your son are you sure she is the correct girl for you?? anyways stay strong and good luck!
2006-09-14 21:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by xhoneybeex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels that ur son is getting in the way, that means she don't accept him at all.
If she wants to go on with this relationship...she better get use to the fact that your son is more important then she is.
You only have him once a week and your g/f ...you can see her everyday.
UR G/f tripin' with an attitude coz u have to show her that she is not worth your time if she is not gonna respect your sons visit.
If she still got a problem break up with her, she just wants to make ur life a living hell hole!
You don't need a bict*h to flow u around, it's better if have someone to love and care for then have someone that complains.
I know what she is doing...trying to separate you from your son and send him back to his mom, if you do what she says ....Sorry man but ur a complete Bast*ured.
There are more girls that can be there for you and shut up in the same time.
If she don't want your son..tell her u don't ever want to see a bic*th that's hard-ons.
2006-09-14 21:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have children from a previous relationship, anyone who gets involved with you must realize that this is a package deal. How could she possibly complain, one night every other weekend? This woman seems a little too shallow and selfish as far as I can tell. When my husband and I split up and we started dating other people, the others had to be up for the total package, we had three children together. In the long run, who is going to be around longer, the selfish girlfriend or your son who is your son for life? Dump her and date someone who can accept you and your son as a package deal and actually appreciate a man who loves his son and takes responsibility, someone who wants to get to know your son as well as get to know you. Your child is for life!
2006-09-14 22:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your BLOOD and only 6 years old, Do you want to have this argument with her for the next 12 years till he moves away to college. These are going to be the best years to watch him grow, you can never get this time back with him. Tell her to accept it or move on (And mean it)
I am a child who father sometimes picked gf over me and it causes a lot of adulthood resentment because as a child they don't realize what is going on all the time but the memories of dad not being there will last.
2006-09-14 21:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by mcfeely975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of woman would ever try to interfere in a relationship between a parent and their child....I take it she isn't a parent herself.
Even before i was a mummy i would have supported you no matter what, in fact im surprised your not pushing for more access.
By all means give your girlfriend a chance to explain why she feels she can't support you on this and if no real humaine reason can be had, then move on, i mean do you really want to get serious with a woman who maybe a lovely girlfriend but has such disregard for your son. xxx
2006-09-18 06:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isnt accepting your son she isnt accepting you b/c he is and always will be a part of your life. Try making it so she has her neices over on the same nights as your son. My mom and her bf had this problem for a while with the grandchildren and thats the way they fixed it.
2006-09-14 22:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For gods sake we are talking about on night every now and then. What would happen if he would stay with you permanently, god forbid anything happened to his mom or what if later he decided to live with you. It doesn't sound as if she loves you, if she did she wouldn't say this. And by the way the child, your boy, is only 6 how can he possibly interfere they are sweet at this age and get on with every one how can he possibly interfere. i would say that you need to loose her and find someone who's more understanding and accepting towards your son, because he should mean everything to you.
2006-09-15 05:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should stand between you and your son. She is jealous of the attention you give to him. She needs to grow up and understand that the love you give your son will not take away the love that you have for her.
She is basically trying to give you an ultimatum .. its your son or her.
If that was me in your shoes (and I have been there) then there is only one logical thing to do. Move on and find a woman that will love your son as much as you do.
2006-09-14 22:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is jealous of your previous relationship and by complaining about your son she hopes that you will quit seeing him and thus sever all ties with your ex. If this is what you want keep seeing her. However if you want to keep your son in your life you will have to just tell her that he is going to keep coming over to see you and if she does not like it than she can leave. My guess is she will be gone. Keep looking for a girl who can love you and love your son she will be better for both of you.
2006-09-14 23:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is innocent. He needs both his mum and dad. Talk to your gf abt it.
What i feel is that she can't accept your son. She can have her nieces but your son is an interference!
You can't deny your son's right to be with you. Tell her to make some efforts to accept him as well as understand that your son is in no way a threat to your relationship. Probably she feels so when your son is home and she feels like an outsider.
2006-09-14 21:52:33 · answer #11 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋