my long distance gf always asks for money i live in uk she in toronto but she has never given any back she also wont say she loves me even though i say i do, hasnt had sex with me even though i tried to get her to stay over, and wont kiss me, claims she wants me over in canada and living together before we go that far, i've been over to her 15 times for long weekends like 5 days at a time every 8 weeks or so but not for a long time though and pay for everything dates where we go and shopping, she also claims not to have had proper sex for 5 years, and is a lady however i met her on a sexy chat cam site and now she says she not like that person, now she is asking for money for a deposit and stuff so we can set up a life, would u believe her and what should i do
2006-09-14 20:47:47 · 11 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I would not believe her and as long as you give her money she will continue to take it. This woman just sounds like she is out to get whatever she can from you. OK she does not want to have sex OK that is not an issue but to not kiss you and to always ask for you to pay for this and that it sounds like a gold digger to me and I would beware. I live in Toronto as well and life here is not so bad that we need to ask men abroad to support us. Jobs are readily available to anyone willing to work. So my advice first don't give her any more money and second if you do love her then continue your contact but stop the spending and see what happens if she was in it for the money after some time when she sees you are not going to continue with giving it she will drop you and move on.
2006-09-14 20:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by lost_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't sound like this girl is as into you as you are. I'm sorry. =( I think if she really loved/liked you and cared about you she wouldn't ask you for money all the time, and not go further in the relationship. I think you should step back and re-evaluate the relationship and see if it's something you want to invest your wallet in. I don't think there should be a pricetag on love. Good luck !!
2006-09-15 03:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Domestic Goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty unanimous that everyone thinks you should dump her. Please follow this advice! A relationship is a two-way street.
However, she won't even kiss you, have sex with you, visit you, return money she owes you.
What are you actually getting out of this relationship? What are you staying in it for? You need to cut your losses and get out now. There are plenty of much better women for you in UK who are:
- closer to where you live
- who will have sex with you
- pay their way
Go find 'em!
2006-09-15 04:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by clamshell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of pursuing after her, you should let her go slowly. i know it may hurt you alot but do not call her nor reply to her phone calls (that's if she calls). If she asks for money, say you're broke. if she can't accept that and gets fed up at you then she's not worth both your time and love. you have no need to sacrifice yourself for a woman who doesn't know how to love. don't call her girlfriend, a girlfriend doesn't steep that low regardless. my suggestion dude...leave her...you deserve a lady who can give you what you want and doesn't end up taking advantage of you.
2006-09-15 03:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Armando Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say I think she just wants your money. When something like that happens, I always wonder how many other men she has done that to.
2006-09-15 03:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses and RUN. It is apparent that you are not going to get anything physically or monetarily from this woman. She is using you and you are letting her. In other words STOP WASTING YOUR TIME AND MONEY!
2006-09-15 03:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by dgrainger77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Download the song by Kanye West: GOLD DIGGER , youll be dancing you *** off, while solving this problem!
2006-09-15 03:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by theSun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, she is a scam artist! Get away this girl , she will dry out your bank account. Who to say there isn't others.She is a criminal.
2006-09-15 04:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't. obviously she knows that you would give you money and therefore doesn't hesitate to ask you for it. i think she is just after your money. you should tell her that you don't have any money and see how she reacts. if she hits the roof then she is only after your cash.
2006-09-15 03:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes using u. she wants u to move to canada so she can swipe your credit card more. dump her. get rid of her. get a girl that respects YOU, not ur money.
2006-09-15 03:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by ElBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋