I think i'm having a breakdown ....what do you think?

Question

This past week has been a complete roller coaster ride. I've been crying about everything. My job has become extremely stressful because my boss is incapable of communicating with me. My best friend canceled two days before my bridal shower leaving me to throw it myself, and to boot.. my grandma is in the hospital with a bad kidney & stints in her heart. I don't know what to do. I'm getting upset with life it seems. Any advice on what to do would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

seek help, you seem stressed real bad

Answer 2

You aren't having a breakdown, that's a complete disconnection from reality. You are suffering from a little too much reality, first prioritize. Accept what cannot be changed which is everything that you just listed, and try to do what you can. Ask your co-workers if they have a problem communicating with your boss, if they do then y'all need to tell your boss. If they don't then you need to have a talk with him about your working relationship. In the long run a bridal shower is just a party where people give you presents, if you are that worried about it deligate, hire a professional party planner or don't. Just don't lose your mind because of a party. As for your grandmother, she should be your first priority, see that she's comfortable and that she's not worried about what the doctors are going to do. It's more stressful when you don't know what's wrong and what the doctors are going to do than being informed. When the world gets too much just count your blessings instead of your problems.

Answer 3

Everyone experiences those types of stressors. The boss is INCAPABLE of communicating with YOU? Would you happen to have a part in that? I'm almost certain his communication skills must be o.k. or he wouldn't be your boss, maybe you should change your expectations. Your best friend canceled(who knows what was going on with her life), it's not the end of the world, at least you were able to have a shower! Then there's your granny, things like that just happen, there is nothing you can do. No your not having a break down. Advice: be greatful you even have a job, be estatic you found love, be grateful for all the time God has given you with your Granny, ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE! Much luck!

Answer 4

ok this is really easy.
Breath and think about everything good you have and put everything in the big picture.
The boss isn't communicating with you? Tell him or her this. Tell him or her in a way that wont cause him to feel like he is being attacked though. just say something simple like "Im really sorry that we havent been workingout well together lately maybe we should make sure we are on the same page about what ever it is that needs to be done" Im sure you can figure this out if you really think about it what would you want him to say to you if he didnt understand you?
Bridal shower? Pft who cares you just go and get free stuff dont stress about it tell people to come to where ever it doesnt have to be fancy have tea and coffee and just chat. The Bridal shower really isn't all that important I didn't even have one. Getting married shouldnt be about the free stuff or entertaining people.
Just think of how lucky you are to have a fiance who loves you and how great it is that you have that person in your life. Thats all that matters with the wedding. To many people make it about everyone else and then dont even enjoy themselves at their own wedding.
Third the grandmother. This is the only one I will say Im sorry for. Its never nice to have grandparents who are ill. Im sure she will be fine shes in the hospital and being looked after. Unfortunaly getting older isnt always nice.

anyway good luck with everything and just breath!
read a book, do some yoga, day dream
do anything that takes your mind off everything.

you are going to be fine

Answer 5

Awww,,no wonder you feel so bad,,geez. Try to get more sleep & pamper yourself. Try not to sweat the smaller stuff right now,,what is wrong with your boss?Is there another boss that you can talk too about what you need?You'd think that this boss would be more professional.That was rude off your friend canceling out on your shower,,what kind of excuse did she have?And so sorry to hear of your grandmother.I hope she is doing better.Hang in there,,things always change.Change your job if it is that stressful or learn to say,,the heck with it.Did your friend have a really good excuse?If not,,Id find better friends.Do something good for you in your free time.Just get away for the day & do something different possibly with another friend.Take some down time & rest.

Answer 6

Can you go see your primary care doctor? Tell him/her what you've told us. Maybe he'll prescribe a mild temporary sedative?

It sounds like your body is responding to great stress (as it should--flight or fight). You'd be outrunning the lion by now if we were out on the plain.

How badly ill is your grandmother? Does your wedding need to be postponed?

About your best friend, sometimes friends get weird before a wedding. If she's a single woman who's never been married that may be part of the problem. Try not to think about her for now.

Take a breath and take care of yourself. Yes, you. Right now.

Here's a link for Bliss Trips. They offer a free daily meditation if you give them your email address:
http://www.blisstrips.com/

PS Maybe you can meet with your boss privately next week (or when you're feeling better) on the topic of improving office communication? You can keep it light-hearted, like a brainstorming session.

Take care.

Answer 7

pray for your grandma
punch your best friend
and yell at your boss!

seriously, try and distract yourself...if its at all possible.Try not to take the stress about your boss onboard right now.Thats one thing that can be put on the back burner until everything else is sorted out.Just do your job as best you can and when you leave work for the day forget about it all completly.Dont take that added stress home.
Now, what your best friend did was scandalous! Though forgiveness is the key if you want her to be part of your wedding.Tell her she really let you down and then move on.Try and look forward to the wonderful day you are going to have with your husband.
As for your grandma shes in Gods hands.The doctors will do everything they can do and for everyones sake i hope she pulls through.
Your a strong person.Try and break your worries down and they might not seem so huge.

Answer 8

You have a right to be upset, but don't breakdown just over a bad week. It's OK to do your own bridal shower - just tone it down so you aren't stressed. Take some time off for yourself if you can and if not, go easy on yourself after work. There's nothing you can do for your grandma that doctors aren't doing, so just show her you love her and be with her when you can. Best wishes.

Answer 9

I've had a very bad year I lost 2 grandmas and a grandpa that i was very close to my marriage is failing after 11years so look at it this way you still have your grandma and it sounds like your getting married so your starting a brand new life with someone who loves you and about your friend when you have true love and happiness you won't need that friend as much as you did before cuz you will have your hubby!

Answer 10

Your not having aaaaaaaaaaaa! breakdown your stessed out. Take one thing at a time maybe your best friend had a good reason,dosnt matter you still had it.Was it good,dosnt matter you still had it. As for your boss maybe with everything going on your not comunicating to well youself.dosnt matter no job is worth stressing over .Keep things simple and in perspective. What does matter is that your Grandmother gets better pray for her.What does matter is your future husband if your stressed around him let him know why.Talk to him,hes your future.THAT MATTERS>

Answer 11

Don't keep it to yourself.Talk it over with people close to you, a family member or a good friend. Their help will be essential in these times. Be strong.