my long distance gf always asks for money never given any back wont say she loves me even though i say i do, still hasnt had sex with me even though i ask, and wont kiss me, claims she wants me over in canada and living together before we go that far, i've been over to her 15 times for long weekends like 5 days at a time every 8 weeks or so and pay for everything dates where we go and shopping, she also claims not to have had proper sex for 5 years, and is a lady however i met her on a sexy chat cam site and now she says she not like that, now she chasing for even more money for a deposit and stuff so we can set up a life, would u believe her i am in love with her too
2006-09-14 20:12:55 · 36 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is anybody going to come out in favour of this girl??? not me, i think its a resounding YES from everybody, she is using you mate, sorry to say....You can put question marks against not having sex, but even in this day and age, its unlikely, especially after where you met her..but kissing....come on, unless she has halitosis there is no reason for her not to kiss you...Love is blind, and its also blinding...its blinding you mate, you cant, or dont want, to see the truth.
Bomb her out, in 3 months maximum, you will realise everything, and hopefully be a stronger person, with improved self esteem for dumping her
Also , dont fall for any tricks, be firm and decisive, she may try offerinf just enough to keep you sending that cash...see it through mate
2006-09-14 20:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the question you should ask is not if she is a gold-digger but whether she is treating you fairly or not.
If she refuses to have sex with you because the two of you don't yet have a proper relationship, then she shouldn't be taking any of your money for the same reason.
When it comes to her need for money, then she behaves as though she is already your wife. But when it comes to your need for sex, then she behaves as though she is still a stranger to you.
This doesn't sound fair to me. And if she doesn't mind treating you unfairly, then she probably doesn't love you. She is just using you.
I suggest that you leave this woman and find another woman who will treat you fairly.
If you don't mind meeting women on a sexy chat cam site, falling in love there, and having a long distance relationship where you give money to the lady, then I suggest that you travel to the country of Thailand and fall in love with an attractive woman there in similar circumstances.
At least there the lady will treat you fairly and try to do as much for you as you do for her. If you give her money as though she is your wife, then she will insist on having sex with you. This kind of thing is a matter of honor for them. And she will treat you as though you are her husband not just in sex but in hugging, kissing and everything else too.
The only thing about going to Thailand is that you can really fall in love there and end up getting married for real. When you get used to exercising your husbandly privileges with an attractive woman, then leaving her becomes difficult.
2006-09-14 21:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read this very carefully . She does not love you . Only your money . If you have a lot of money she is a gold digger . If your a poor guy and are just making ends meet . She is a low life that doesn't have a life nor does she want one . If she doesn't want to kiss you or be close with you , what makes you think she isn't doing this to other guys too . Not just you . It's a way of life for her . Don't believe a word she said . Above all don't have a account with her name on it . She will take it all . Good Luck !
2006-09-14 20:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going on hat you have said, I would be very suspicious.
Why dont you try asking her to pay for something and see what her reaction is.
Don't give her any money for a deposit if you are unsure whether she is a gold digger or not as you will be at risk of losing it.
It also sounds like she is not making much of an effort in the relationship if you have been to see her that amount of times and she hasnt come to see you once. Perhaps you should ask her to visit you and see if she is willing to pay for a plane ticket?
2006-09-14 21:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Catwhiskers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say but you have been taken "big time" by her and so have probably many other men.........what on earth where you thinking by just handing over money left, right and centre.........get rid of her. If you meet a female on a sexy web cam, then she's a **** and dont expect anything other than b/s and lies........have some self respect and forget this one, put her behind you and move on. Hopefully you will have learnt your lesson, albeit a very expensive lesson.
2006-09-14 20:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound too good, I have to say, Poor you to find yourself in a mess like this. It does sound as though your gf is playing you along. If you were engaged or married then maybe giving her money then would be ok, but it does sound as though she is using you my friend.
I think you need to give her tough love, Say "no" and do not giver her anymore money, if she is still around after you keep saying no, then maybe I am wrong about her.
It sounds as though you are a nice guy, I would think about finding someone who will love you for you and not your wallet!
Good luck
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2006-09-14 20:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by pinkbabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if your a man with that kinda dough to spend on a woman, why dont you take that money and spend it on a woman who would appreciate you and not your wallet. it sounds like your an amazing guy who would treat a lady right. your like a diamond in the rough, the rough of a gold digger. this chick is no good for you. if she's not comfortable enough to kiss you, but comfortable to ask for a deposit, she's a hussy. and she's totally hustling you out of a house and car.
2006-09-14 20:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have a gold digger! You should dump her before she takes all of your money away from you, then your home, the jeep/car, your life and your TV away from you! You have been way to NICE to give her everything and she does nothing for you....do you see the problem?
2006-09-14 20:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes-- a gold digger indeed
However you do say you love her so I won't say anything nasty but I think she wants the best of everythign without making any effort. Just don't give anything else and see if she stays with you.
That way you will know if she really only wants money from you.
2006-09-14 20:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Scatty 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i find it annoying the way she asks money from you. why do you have to give her money anyway? can't you save money on your own? i think sex should not be your gauge if she loves you, but even a kiss? have you tried asking her where all the money you gave her is? that's the only way you can know is she is indeed saving all the money you give her.
my honest opinion........GOLD DIGGER
2006-09-14 20:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋