2006-09-14 19:36:28 · 32 answers · asked by unsungjoe 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If they are my friends I tell them that I don't like being called by names other than mine.
Others...I don't give a fcuking damn!!!
2006-09-14 19:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by sameer s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is how I would handle this situation. I would tell them how I feel. Hypothetically I would say "hey you, you know I don't like it when you call me that. I am deeply hurt and in great pain when you say something of that nature to me that either could be true or not, I cannot accept the fact that there is a good chance that it is false of what you say and will not stay quiet for you to make a mockery of me like that. You are a mean person and I hate you. I never want to see you ever again. Now get out of my sight before I do something that I will regret - I will, well, I will look away and walk away from you. Oh, and please don't follow me because I will call the cops on you. Now leave me be. Be gone with you already."
No I'm just kidding, there are two ways I would solve this:
(1st) Call them back names and get even, or better yet rise above them.
(2nd) Ignore them and simply walk away. I prefer this method because revenge never really solve anything. It will just create more anger and the name calling will never stop. Walking away let them realize that you are too mature to even pay attention to what they have to say.
Well there is a third option and that is to simply tell them to stop it. If they don't get the message and stop, then get a bunch of your buddies and beat the crap out of them.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-14 20:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Version_Best 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seem agreeable and pleasant, and even turn the tables with sweetness or humour, and focus on the persons, to find out why they need to do such things. Often enough it is out of their own misery, but if they don't get a 'reaction' out of you, they'll usually turn to someone else. Above all do not get angry or upset or let them know they have hurt you if they have, but keeping your peace under fire so to speak, keeps your dignity or even raises it rather than stooping to their level. Be curious to see why they have come up with such a name so it helps you to stay more objective, and keep emotional steam cool, and less 'fun' for sickos. Making a laugh out of it all can usually diffuse a potentially dangerous situation and maybe make a 'win-win' for everyone. Another less effective method is just to ignore or pretend you didn't hear or notice, but it might buy you some time to decide on your next reaction. Good luck.
2006-09-14 19:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by martian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on who is saying it to me. If it is someone who I care about and love, then I take it to heart and am hurt for a long time. Those are the types of things that a person can forgive, but doesn't really ever forget. If it is just someone I don't know, or particularly care about, it doesn't bother me as much. I won't say that it doesn't bother me at all, but I will let it roll off much easier than a person who is closer to me.
What do you do when people amend you for something good you have done?
I take it to heart. Take complaints to heart, and let everything else go. It isn't worth your trouble and hurt.
2006-09-14 19:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Amy J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling yourself that they are just making a big joke and you find it really funny and start laughing. When people are being ugly to you they are trying to get a reaction. If you react the way they want you to, they'll most likely continue. So, laugh (don't point your finger) and then turn and walk away.
2006-09-14 19:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if they are calling you a good name or something bad.
1. Good name. they fancy you.
2. Bad name. they are insecure and jealous.
2006-09-14 19:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by awitchy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of names to call THEM. those types of people usually stop when the one pick on fights back.
2006-09-14 19:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by greekmaverick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what names they call me.
2006-09-14 19:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kitkat Bar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pause and think. Are they correct? If someone calls you a silly sausage it's because you've done something silly.
If you've done nothing wrong then ignore them.
Never ever get angry because that makes them happy.
2006-09-14 19:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront them and ask them "what is your problem?" If you show you are afraid of them, they will continue to do it every day and believe me, it will get worse. If it becomes where they are threatening to beat you up, tell your school counselor and your parents. Hope this helps.
Jude
2006-09-14 20:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋