i surfed through internet for learning disabilities.he gets marks in single digits .rfuses changes .psycologists say that he is granduer.he is unable to converse in apleasent manner.please somebody help me to help him.he never listens to his father either. he has got clean habits kind to poor people.and all that .can i get him married/
2006-09-14 19:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by banu.sakku 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
He still lives at home!
2006-09-14 19:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by triniqueen40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people with learning disabilities need therapy to deal with the stress they feel when taking exams. Since he also doesn't converse in a pleasant manner and sounds generally difficult, why not get him into counseling? Also, he should be enrolled in an adult living program for learning disabled people. There are wonderful organizations out there that deal with all sorts of disabled people and help them become productive members of society. Please seek help for him which will in turn be helping you and your husband. Once your son is living away from home, he may be more inclined to look for love. Let go a bit and let him try with the help of professionals.
2006-09-15 02:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the math problem isn't your son's only problem, since he has problems with "convers[ing] in apleasant manner" and "rfuses changes". He's 32 years old, so he has the right to make decisions for his own life. As a loving parent, you can encourage him to get the psychological help that he apparently needs. But whether he ends up getting married is, at least in part, up to him.
2006-09-15 02:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi: You sound like a good dad. He is probably angry because he is embarrassed that he is 32 years old and cannot pass the test especially if younger kids are in the class and surpassing him. If he needs this course for his major in college, a tutor would be good for him, but he would probably feel ashamed to have one. This could be one of his problems with not wanting to converse properly about this topic. If he is like this all the time, then maybe he feels unhappy with being in school and does not like what he is doing. I recommend you take him on a one to one event, something he likes doing, like fishing and have a heart to heart talk with him. Maybe there are other problems he is having and feeling no one cares to listen to him. Try to get him to open up to you and maybe the problem can be resolved. If you are paying for his education, and he refuses the tutor, then you tell him that if he fails the course and refuses to be helped, then he can pay his own tuition. It will make him wake up a little and appreciate you for being a good dad to him. I would try to solve one problem at a time. He needs to handle this problem, before he can jump into marriage. That could be a total disaster. He is not ready for this step just yet. He has to know your expectations but also your limitations. Hope this helps. Let me know.
Jude
2006-09-15 03:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM bad at math too.I dont know what your son needs most but I think a job that he does well at would help him.Life is hard some of us our brain surgeons Others work in factorys .It doesnt matter what he does so long as he becomes self supporting if possible.It will give him self esteem and I think he needs that.Getting married?Thats in Gods hands.He may not want or need those kinds of responsibilities.Best wishes.He sounds like he has some nice qualitys.
2006-09-15 12:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son needs to be 'well' more than anything else. Address the problems he has with being 'grandeur' and let the rest go for now. Don't worry about getting him married off...instead, worry about helping him become independent. A good start is to not continue support of him over time. Does he qualify for SSI by chance? Work with people to get him on his own as much as possible. Set a reasonable timeline with his case worker, and when the time comes, send him off on his own. If marriage comes his way, fine. If not...let him be. Do not try to 'marry him off' in order to get another woman to assume responsibility for him in your place...it will not be best for anyone! Best of luck to you. I repeat...forget the math for now.
2006-09-15 02:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the problem is yours and not your sons.
Why does he have to be good at Math anyway?
Perhaps he feels pressured and responds accordingly.
Can you get him married? Grief.. surley that is up to him. Not you!
Poor Guy.
I know you probably love your son and want what is best for him. But please don't pressure him too much, he will only become withdrawn and turn away from you if you do.
If it is really bothering you, then seek help for yourself to try and understand why you feel they way you do.
Best of luck.
2006-09-15 02:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by awitchy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should be thinking about getting your son married. Put your efforts into getting your son the help he needs. It sounds like you should be working with an agency that helps adults with disabilities. It also sounds like he is dealing with more than just learning disabilities. His doctor may be able to refer him to a behaviour specialist. There are many programs that work with adults on how to take care of themselves, how to live on their own, how to socialize. The internet is full of wonderful information, but you need to search in your neighborhood for help for your son. Start by looking for local agencies that can offer you help. Start by making one phonecall. If they can't help you, ask them if they can suggest who can. Don't stop calling until you find the help your son needs. Do this for your son as well as for yourself. Good luck.
2006-09-15 03:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by daisy243 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to keep trying, A qualified tutor can bring out the best good luck, Never quit
2006-09-15 02:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably needs to live in a group home with other disabled adults.
2006-09-15 02:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by my_mas0n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋