she always makes jokes about it, talks about it, grabs it, etc. We have told her we don't like it that it's a potty mouth, we've tried ignoring it, we've even tried time out. Nothing is working. I though it was a phase that would pass, but it hasn't passed yet....
2006-09-14 19:27:09 · 15 answers · asked by crowscraver 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is a phase, but not just any phase - at this point your little one is going through a psychosexual development which encompasses five stages. Normally anal would fall into the category of 18 to 36 months and a 3 year old would be at the start of experiencing phallic fixation known as Electra complex in girls.
This originated with Freud but despite most of his crackpot theories does have relevance in terms of what children generally seem to focus on at a particular age. He also further suggested that how a child approaches these stages will have a bearing on their personality as they become adults. And that parents and adults play a great role in directing their child's attitudes towards these stages.
As for handling it and her public behavior you simply need to act cool about it. Don't let her upset you over it else this will become a powerful tool for your daughter when she wants something.
Encourage her to learn all about her body, it's a normal thing to be curious about and it's a great machine that does all kinds of wondrous things we don't even think about. Get her age appropriate books about the body and it's functions.
2006-09-15 14:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by zombie_togo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As others have said, it is a phase, she will get over it eventually. Still it is a good idea to offer some guidance without getting too worked up about it, so she understands clearly what is appropriate to do at home or on her own, rather than in public. With my daughter I spent some time teaching the concept of personal, as in butts and such things are personal, no one needs (I said "wants") to see them or touch them except you or mom and dad when they need to help you. If you can allow her to do her grabbing and stuff at home and remind her that in public you behave differently (especially when you are a BIG GIRL) that can help her work through it. Hang in there!
2006-09-15 02:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Toddlers talk about bottoms and poo constantly BECAUSE it is one of the few subjects that they can discuss with real authority. A three-year-old can't discuss current events, politics, or fine cuisine with you but they sure do know a lot about poo from their life experiences!
There is NO point trying to punish for this perfectly normal thing. What you are doing is actually just encouraging her to keep discussing it. She's getting attention for it. Just pass it off with a hmm or say Really? in a bored voice and ignore it. It stops after a while.
2006-09-15 04:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is just going through a phase,it won't last forever. Pretty soon,she'll something else interesting her. Sometimes,small gets fascinated with their bodies and get amazed at all the functions a body can do.For instance,considering her age,she may find it fascinating that her food can on in one way and come out the other,not trying to sound too graphic but to a small child,it is amazing what they get fascinated about.Perhaps,you could find her an age appropriate book about the body and all its functions,talking about the heart,brains,lungs and so forth.
2006-09-15 02:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT will pass. My 2 year old loved her chest and always pointed to them screaming "boobies" and at first we laughed then she started doing it all the time and in public. I just ignored her or changed the subject everytime she said it and she stopped. Took about a month though. And if she sees a women nursing she still yells out boobies or boobie juice. Kinda embarassing. I think it's just the age. Good luck
2006-09-15 02:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Desiree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some phases take longer than others to get over. But be persistant and relax this wont be like some deep seeded issue that you will have to bring to DR.Phill's attention! RELAX but realize this might also be some weird craving for attention (good or bad attention is still attention to a little one)!
2006-09-15 02:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by mustang elite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried opening a book? Any child phsych book will tell you that this is completely normal. Read Freid. I'ts a phaze, she'll get over it.
2006-09-15 02:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Maria Conchita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such phase comes and goes very quickly and few go on doing not to9 worry at all ,they forget it fast .
2006-09-15 02:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Bhahagyam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh its just a phase, my little cousin use to like his penis. When we stopped making it such a big issue, u know stopped telling him that we didnt like to hear that, he stopped doing it on his own.
2006-09-15 02:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there someone she could be mimicking? Someone who she sees complaining about their body? I don't mean to go Dr. Phil on you, but they had that very topic on I think Oprah recently.
2006-09-15 02:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋