I broke up with the woman I was meant to marry two years ago and want her back - what should I do?

Question

I dated someone two years ago and fell in love with her, but we broke it off because after dating for four months, she started pressuring me for an engagement and I felt as though it was too fast. I told her that I needed more time and continued to want to see her, but she told me that she couldn't afford to wait and she also accused me of just playing around with her since I wasn't able to give her the serious committment she wanted. I felt as though I just needed more time - another 6 months or so. But she didn't agree to it and we split.

Since the time we broke up, I have dated several women and not one has made me feel even close to the way I felt when I was with this other women. In fact, I have realized that my love for this other woman was actually much stronger than I realized and I'm afraid I made a mistake. I tried calling her once a year ago, and she still seemed upset at me and asked me not to call again. But I can't seem to forget about her. What should I do???

Answer 1

call her and ask her if she has anyone else in her life? If she does not, tell her what you wrote here- good luck!

Answer 2

I know exactly how she felt.. She might have asked you for a serious commitment because she doubt if you are for real or not, but you refused and so she concluded you aren't..It was really embarasing for a girl to ask and be rejected that why she hate you so much and until last year she's still so bitter.

If you really love her you could have shown your persistence. Who cares if she ignores you, shouts at you, embarassed you? you should not give up just like that. what matters is your showing how sincere you are to ask for her forgiveness and acceptance. No woman is strong enough that she can never felt weak of the importance and effort a man have shown..After all, the woman best defense to what she really feel is anger. She might be loving you still that's why she's still affected.

To forget? you cannot start moving on unless all the chapters in that relationship is finished.. If you'll still wondering about the "what if's".. If I were you I would still continue to court her no matter how difficult than felt sorry for chances you could have take. If after riskin it all and you still can't won her back then tha'ts the time to extract her totally from your life... and i'll be right here to advise you again..

Answer 3

OK, first of all, why would u think it's too fast if you guys had been dating for 2 years. that's plenty of time to get to know someone and decide if she's the one or not

when u told her u needed more time: all she probably heard is that you don't want to be with her. think about it. why would u tell someone u need more time? why WOULD u need more time? time for what? time to see if anyhone else is better suited for you? it doesn't make any sense. when u said u needed more time, it's like saying, "i need more time, cause i don't think you're the one"

of course girls want commitment. another 6 moths FOR WHAT? it doesn't make any sense? another 6 months for u to decide if you really like her? what, the first 2 years you couldn't figure it out?

u can't seem to forghet about her because she was probably the one to marry but u belw it. sorry to be so harsh on u.
never tell a woman after dating for 2 whole years that u need more time. if you wanted to do it that way, u should have gotten her a ring and told her a date (for marriage), and gotten married six months later or something.

she probably felt like u were wasting her time. women have biological clocks and she felt that the 2 years u were together were a waste of her time maybe.

Answer 4

I don't mean to sound harsh, but I think you should move on. She was obviously looking for a serious commitment, so it's probable that she's in a stable relationship with someone else by now.

Sometimes the timing is just off and there's nothing you can do to remedy that. I would move on and become open to the possibility of a relationship with someone new. If you don't let go of the past, any new relationship you start is doomed to failure.

Answer 5

If she is the one for you, go for it. Don't wait too long. She was angry at you because she was hurt. She may be upset, but you have to find a way to tell her exactly how you feel. Pursue her as if your life depended on it, because if you don't, you'll never get over the "what if....."

Best of luck to you. I hope it all works out.

Answer 6

She asked you not to call again. It seems like she's moved on. You might just have to accept it and move on yourself.

Timing is everything, I guess.

Respect her wishes by not calling, but if you have any mutual friends you can mention to them to say hi to her for you.

I'm sorry this happened and I hope you find a wonderful relationship.

Answer 7

I'm not sure what her hurry is about . Four months seems like way to earily to me. Ask her what the rush was.
If you really want her pull out the stops and put your pride on the shelf for awhile.

Answer 8

call her again or write her a letter / email and explain how you feel about her, just like you did in your question. she doesnt know that you are ready for commitment now, so let her know. it seems like she takes her relationships very seriously and doesnt wanna just play around. if she still has feelings for you (and anger is one pointer that she does), she'll understand and take you back. good luck and congratulations in advance!

Answer 9

Well do she loves you or she jsut want securities? I do not think she loves you enough if she was she may wait for you and give you enough tiem untill you sort your feelings. but if you still likes and loves her try the best you can.

Answer 10

Find her and become friends again. Do her favors and sweet talk her , then ask her to marry you.