Why are children today so ill mannered?

Question

I was at clothing store today with my daughter. She is very well behaved and is quiet and mannerly and stays by my side the entire time. There was a mother there with a little boy who was just running amuck in the store while she went to look for something in her size. He was climbing all over the fixtures. I picked up a glass object and was looking at it, when this little boy runs straight into me, knocking the vase out of my hand, almost hurting my daughter. I have a son, and he would NEVER act like this. The little boy started to cry when he had hit into me. When the mom heard the sound, the came over to me and told me that I was in the way of her son and that she would be suing me if there was any damages! My daughter was hurt, and I told her back that if there was anything with her, I would be suing. She told me I would have to call her husband! Can't she deal with things on her own? Or is she a child her self with no job, terrible parenting skills and no independence.

Answer 1

In a nut shell parents are either too lazy to discipline their children or too scared to!!

personally if my child had been running in a store his bottom would have been spanked!

Answer 2

Some parents don't care they think a store is safe. And some just don't want to deal with the kids. My daughter is not the best behaved child in a store and I simply take her out kicking and screaming and take her to the car and we leave. But some just don't care, just wait till they get older and it will come back to them. I used to work at Target I saw this all the time no matter how many times I told the parents what their child was doing it the stores fault. I even see 1-2-3 year olds running off on their own and the parents don't even care. They would come up to me 15-20 minutes later saying they lost their child and in that time someone could have taken them out of the store. I can't explain it but it happens way to often.

Answer 3

I am beginning to wonder sometimes if, as parents, somewhere along the line we were tricked into thinking that it's normal for children to be good all the time, and that we are failures as parents if they aren't.

All toddlers are power-hungry and lacking in common sense. It is just the way they are made. Sure some parents realise this and work with it to produce empathic, socially acceptable kids and others don't. Remember that that mother might have been having a real bad day, as well. Her boy might be great most of the time. We all have off days, don't we?

Why does everyone have to sling the threat of lawsuits around? That's what I find amazing.

Answer 4

In this case, Poor parenting or lack of good judgment to discipline their child but on the other hand there are some parenting methods that work and those that don't I'm not a parent myself yet but I've learned long enough that kids these days need discipline and limitations like for example if parents kept saying yes to every damn thing a child wanted the child would never learn the value of hard work and the meaning of a penny saved is a penny earned and i think that whole situation is one in a nutshell but you could say that she opened a can of worms plus it shows that she's irresponsible in teaching her son manners but everyone doesn't teach their kids home training and that's where it starts and that's where it ends

Answer 5

Children are in general, so misbehaved because the parents a) don't realize their kids are wild, b) don't care, c) weren't taught how to behave themselves so don't know how to teach something they don't know in the first place. Teaching a child manners is usually a thankless job especially when most of today's society just shrugs their collective shoulders and says oh well, so what. Good manners were drilled into my head as a young child and I have passed them down to my kids, but it seems that they have more of a tendency to utilize them when they feel like it which isn't as often as I'd like. All it takes is a look from me however and they remember and straighten up quickly. People just don't care whether they are rude or not these days, so when I end up dealing with a rude person, I try to "kill them with kindness" which usually unsettles them because they don't know how to react to it. Give it a try sometime.

Answer 6

The child seems to be learning from the best of lazy people that are never to blame for their own problems that they themselves create. I agree with you on the amount of bratty children today. The first answer is correct in saying that some adults are afraid to discipline their children in the way that they need to because of fear for being reprimanded by the authorities for teaching their children right from wrong. This mother probably was just like her son is when she was a child, so this is "normal" behavior to her, because this is what she remembers childhood to be like when she was that age.

I don't know if she is a child herself, but if she did sue, I would look into getting the security tapes from the dept store, and submitting them as evidence that the child was running around without supervision, and therefore, the mother would need to pay for any damages to her own son. He is her responsibility.

Answer 7

It sounds like you had a very frustrating experience. Needless to say, not all children act like that little boy. I think the best-behaved children are those who know what to expect consistently from their parents. In other words, their parents make consistent rules and stick to them. The children don't have to keep "testing" to find out what are the limits of acceptable behavior. It takes a lot of effort and energy to be a consistent parent, and the woman in the clothing store obviously didn't want to make that effort.

Judging from your daughter's behavior, you're obviously a caring parent. Keep up the good work!

Answer 8

If my daughter were acting like that, I'd be leaving the store to go home, not going to look for something for myself. Lately I tell her that if she doesn't behave in the store, I'll come back another time by myself. It seems to work for now.
It's just that this woman didn't see anything wrong with what she was doing or what her child was doing. Ignorant, maybe? And yes, irresponsible.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

The answer is at the end of your question isn’t it? Most people raising children are way too young, uneducated, ignorant, broke, unindoctrinated into society or a mix of all the above. Well-raised, educated and self-sufficient Americans have now under 2 children for family. All of our population growth is from people breeding like animals and expecting society to raise their kids. Only they are ignorant ill-mannered animals themselves so they get offended when you do. I’m fine with raising other people's kids if I can belt them in the head when they deserve it. Part of the decline of our society. No one raises the kids (and what would they raise them with?) I see adults that wont rise for the elderly on the bus, people that stand at the bottom of escalators or in doorways, cheating in the schools, no shame in collecting handouts, wanton littering and destruction of property. Remember when they offered Citizenship in schools? Everyone should be forced to sit through at least a year of good citizenship classes. And we also need stiffer fines for things like littering. People flaunt the laws they think they can get away with breaking. Also I blame poor genetic material, I find some people are just too dumb to realize that if they stand in the door no one can go in or out. Yet dumber people are more likely to breed (direct correlation) and therefore their progeny are overrunning us.

Answer 11

Most parents just don't spend the time and attention to teach their children. Doesn't help if they weren't taught and or disciplined when they were small. All we can do is bring our children up with good manners and respect for others and hope they will pass it on to their children and so on, hopefully society will improve over time but somehow I doubt it!