I am 25 and getting married in 5 months. My first name rhymes with my fiance's last name..and it sounds rather silly. What do you think of not having to change your last name to your husband's? Do many women do this? Do you think its weird not having your last name the same as your kids? Or how about kids having their last name as their mum or not the dad? & lastly what do you think of the name, Ann for a gurl? Do you think its oldfashioned & boring? Thanks for answering.
2006-09-14 19:06:30 · 12 answers · asked by claire_cakes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think having a rhyming name is not the right reason to not change your name. I think it could be cute! Or you could use a double last name professionally if it really bugs you that much.
Of course plenty of people do not change their names, but those women are usually very established in a career.
I would have a hard time not having the same name as my kids. You will be correctly people forever and also people will assume that either you are not married or one of you is a step parent.
Ann is my mom's name so to me it is a little old fashioned, but I also think it is classic. With all the effort to have a stand out name these days, I think Ann actually stands out in its simplicity.
2006-09-14 19:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds so cute, having a first name that rhymes with your husband's last name. I say keep his name. After all, you are marrying him. I don't know how many women do this today, but I believe that if you marry a man, that you take his name. I think Ann would be a beautiful name for a girl.
2006-09-15 13:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by TxCatLuvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice is yours. If you have talked with your fiance and it doesn't matter if you change your last name, then it's your call. I hyphenated and our child has my husband's last name. You have to decide what will make you happy in the long run and which name you will feel comfortable with. There's no right or wrong way.
I know a couple of Anns and I don't think it's a boring name because it's not so common.
2006-09-15 02:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in the family should have the same last name...rhyme or no rhyme....for the sake of your children. Make it simple and easy for them and keep everyone's last name the same. Everyone in my husbands family had a different last name.....and yes it is very weird.
I like Ann. Why are you worried about baby names now? Are you pregnant now? If so, speed up the wedding to be married before the baby is born. If not, focus on you and your husand for a while.......enjoy the time being married before kids come along. They add tons of stress to your life (and abundant blessings, too) and your free time to sleep in, go to the movies, etc. will be taken up by them.
It is easy to forget that the wedding is really about the marriage. Focus on your marriage, enjoy your time with your husband, and have a wonderful day!
Congratulations!!! :-)
2006-09-15 02:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by nvone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people have silly names all the time not much you can do about that. but if it really bothers you try to use the hyphen, just make sure your hubby to be isnt offended by it. he might have some resentment if you dont take his name completely. also now a days kids have different last names from their moms (or dads) everywhere, its just usually cuz the parents are not married -what about anna? it sounds cuter for a little girl & you'd still have the option of calling her ann as she gets older.
2006-09-15 03:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by lil mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will change my name after marriage, but I think it is perfectly fine if you don't want to change yours. One of my best friends mom didn't change her name when she was married. No reason that I know of, and no 'established career.' They had 3 kids and gave the kids both last names, without a hyphen. My friend was always very emphatic about the 'no hyphen' thing. lol.
I think Ann is a fine name, as names go, but it's not one that I personally would pick to name a child, or anything.
2006-09-16 01:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with keeping your last name, especially if it isn't going to sound right. Many, many women keep their last name. It'll also save you all the trouble of changing your name, which is a nice bonus. Your kids could still have your last name, or they could have both last names.
I would talk to your husband about this, and make sure that he's ok with having different last names. I'm sure that if you explain why you want to keep yours, he'll understand.
2006-09-15 09:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In these days, it can cause a lot of problems to not have your last name the same as your childrens. You could try hyphenating your last names together, if your future husband is amiable to that.
And Ann is a pretty name, and it's not old fashioned. Ruth and Besty and Betty are old-fashioned (no offense to anyone on here!).
2006-09-15 03:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe in not changing your name so I guess I dont find it a good excuse. You would want your kids to have the same name as both of you. I also don't like Ann...too common and boring. Try something more original.
2006-09-15 14:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take on your hubby's last name but by all means, you can still keep your name. You could be Anna Jones Phelactic instead of Anna Phelactic....sorry, but it took me ages to think of something that rhymed.......roflol. And the name Ann is oldfashioned, but it's your choice and dont' you mind what others think about that name. :)
2006-09-15 03:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋