Am I a stalker and can I fix this?

Question

My boyfriend and I broke up months ago. Over email he said I wasn't funny or fun. The relationship was never serious. Our differences showed. I didn't love him but I quickly felt bad about what he said, was insulted even though he didn't mean it. I work alot, am stressed out, don't have much social life. I've been depressed about my not-fun life for months, but he didn't know. Sometimes I've felt on the edge. I couldn't let go of what was said, and tried to talk to him. I was preoccupied, thought it'd go away if we talked. Thought he saw me as a friend and would talk. He didn't respond to my emails or calls, said I was freaking him out. I felt even worse and tried harder. He got a lot of mixed emails - venting, stalking jokes... In my "stuck" mind, thought he'd get sick of 'em, just call to yell at me, we'd talk and I'd snap out of it. Am no longer contacting him, and don't want anything. But in my depression, I traumatized the guy, and don't want him to feel stalked.

Answer 1

Stop it!!!!!!!!!! Oh man, do you drive yourself crazy too, or just the people around you? Geez........... Leave the poor boy alone, and get on with your life..

Answer 2

It is up to you to take the time to fix your not-fun life. slow doen on work a bit and go do something. If you have seriously freaked this guy out the best way to make him feel NOT STALKED is to stay completely a way form him, and have not contact in any way. If your depression is like that you need to seek the advice or your personal physician, and a good counselor and follow a program monitored by both or you may very well find yourself in jail for stalking. What is that going to do for your career and not-fun life?

Answer 3

you reacted to the fact that your ex didn't consider you fun by slipping into depression and becoming a stalker. bet that wasn't fun :) and you made alot of mistakes. now that you realise these things and have abit of perspective you can now heal and fix things within yourself so that if ever another boy breaks up with you then you will be able to deal with it better. unfortunately you can't help your ex. you said you traumatised him and you probably did but what he needs to do now is heal in his own time by himself. if you contact him to explain he won't want to listen and neither would i because honestly i think you've done enough. never contact this guy again. leave him alone to come to terms with your behaviour. there is nothing you can do for him. if you contact him it will be purely selfish. he doesn't need you right now or ever. i'm sorry this is harsh. good luck.

Answer 4

Time to let go and do positive things for yourself.

This boy isn't into you, and the more you push the more he'll want to be as far away from you as possible.

Get out and make some new friends, no matter what, do it and try to get on with life.

There's way too many people out there to get stuck on just one person.

Best of luck.

Answer 5

I'm afraid its too late. Hate to tell you this but he's probably already told all his friends you're a stalker. And he probably feel really cool doing it. There's nothing you can do but let it go & move on. He was an asshole to say that to you but that's life. People do not say nice things when they break up.
Just let it go, and if anyone asks, tell him he was the worst lay you've ever had.

Answer 6

dont feel bad i did kind of the same thing. i called and left a dozon ugly messages on his voicemail. i had to vent and so did you. long as you are not doing it anymore its ok. cause he could report you. just know he was not that in to you like most men are with women. so to hell with that bastard. he dont deserve you anyway.

Answer 7

Keep yourself busy..buy a bucket of LEGO and have fun..

Answer 8

then stop trying to talk to this guy leave him alone.