I just spent 4 months dating this guy at work behind my girlfriend's back (it wasn't serious or anything). He was seeing another chick, which I knew about. He made out with me a lot, told me I was perfect... and then last night he called me and told me he's with this other chick for life.
Am I a jerk for tryin to do this behind my girl's back (a guy, no less), or is he a jerk for leading me on to think it might go somewhere?
2006-09-14 18:26:51 · 24 answers · asked by bizarre_love_triangle86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW... my girlfriend and I have been in a very open relationship for a year... and this guy was going to be my first time with a guy...
2006-09-14 18:35:00 · update #1
How was he leading you on if it "wasn't serious or anything"? You were both jerks but you were also a fool. Someone making out with you a lot and saying nice things is no reason to think a relationship might go further. He got what he wanted and he was happy about it, that's all.
2006-09-14 18:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're both jerks. You're a bigger jerk 'cuz you knew the whole time he was with someone else. Either respect the person you give your "commitment" to or let them go. Not to nail you to the cross, but breaking your word and cheating like that makes you a crummy person. Shape up. Don't confess to your girl either, you live with the guilt and spare her the heartbreak when she finds out you're a liar and a cheat. Make up your mind if you love her or not then act accordingly. Let her go or treat her right.
2006-09-15 01:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... So, let me see if I got you.
You cheated on your GF with some dood.
You weren't mutually exclusive (obviously), and never stated that you were.
He decides to go with the other chick instead of the one who harbors a propensity for infidelity (the one prone to cheat, i.e.: You).
... and now you have the unmitigated gall to think he's a jerk as well.
You may be a jerk, but you've got balls. That earns points in my book. :)
2006-09-15 01:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by kagetatewaki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
both, two wrongs will never make a right. You need to be honest with yourself and your girlfriend. The only way for me to tell if I was in love with someone is I could see myself growing old with that person and actually very happy seeing it. If not then I know they are not the one.
2006-09-15 01:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by shelldorrell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he lead u on but its ur fault for going behind ur girl friend back thest not cool...he shouldnt have makin u think it was going somewhere anyways...your not a jerk so dont listen to these other people ok bye...good luck feelin better..
2006-09-15 01:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by maddan_360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you got what you deserved. Deceit in any form is wrong. Why would you NEED to hide the fact you were seeing this person from a friend?
2006-09-15 01:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by tri_valley_bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else, your both jerks and you got what was coming to you. Ever heard of Karma? oh yeah honey, its gonna bite you in the butt when u least expect it
2006-09-15 01:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by wellduhpeople 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that he is a jerk and he is not worth to be a man.
because that he is not honest from the beging. leave it and move on and there other guys out there who is looking for some one like you.
2006-09-15 01:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a jerk. dont play with peoples emotions that girl would be devastated! i repeat you are the jerk
2006-09-15 01:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both, in open relationships, nothing should be behind anyones back
2006-09-15 01:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by peace1274 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋