I'm youngish(32), in the best shape of my life, make a great living, own a home, and not to be concieted or arrogant here but i'm attractive. I don't drink anymore and i am always honest and have not or never will cheat. YET, I keep getting **** on by girls, I have dated younger girls the last few times 23-25 trs old and that is my fault. But are girls different know? Is it because I am a nice guy? I am ready to start being a jerk because I sick of being taken advantage of.
2006-09-14 18:24:31 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhpas what you really need to do is start looking at yourself in terms of how you project yourself, how you behave towards the girls, and the type of girls you are dating. You also mentioned that you dated much younger girls, but more important than that is the attitude or maturity levels of the girls you date, as opposed to just their age.
There is no easy answer to this one, so don't expect to find one. You will have to take a real look at your dating history and figure out if there are any kind of patterns other than just the end results. It may not be the answer you want to hear, but then again, if it were that simple, you wouldn't have needed to ask the question here.
2006-09-14 18:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are a lot of women reading your post and thinking, "pick me, pick me!"
Please don't get discouraged. There are good women out there. You need to meet women closer to your own age, you've outgrown the 23-25 yr olds. Many of them have got tired of the club scene and are still shy about internet dating, so it can be hard to track them down.
I think online dating is worth a try. Another option is, have you thought of taking up a hobby? I don't mean car maintenance or something that only attracts men. I'm thinking swing dancing, anything artistic like painting or writing - check your local evening classes for ideas. Dancing is great, because you can't avoid interacting with your partner, and there are usually not enough men so you will be popular even if you have two left feet.
2006-09-14 18:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great catch for someone. You do not want to be taken advantage of but, you should not be a jerk either. Sounds like you have not found the right girl. Maybe you should date a girl closer to your age or someone you have a lot in common with. The girls you have been dating probably are not ready to settle down yet.
2006-09-14 18:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Amy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stick to women around your own age. I think maturity has changed a bit. Though I am only 22- I think girls are a bit different. People attract themselves to a certain "group" of people. Many girls simply drive me nuts--- long story...
My advise- shop around... Go on a few dates.... Be a bit more of a jerk.... I've noticed honesty isn't always the best policy. By no means dont lie- but dont willingly admit a lot at first, if ya know what I mean
Myself- I am kinda the shy type, not the life of the party. In which opposites attract.... My girl is 37. She was an employee of mine, she quit, became friends with my mother-"YeAh- kinda funny but..." she took care of me after a accident and got to know each other... I love her to death.... BLAHHHHHH....
Take it slow--- good luck man
2006-09-14 18:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by mikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately unless the girls are raised by a nice father they don't accept your kindness. They are still seeking the same type of man as their father, because that is what they are familiar and comfortable with. Usually around their mid 30's we begin to realize this and make conscious choices to select the "nice guys".
Dating and finding the right person for you is also a numbers game. sorry to say this but you will probably date quite a few ladies before you find one that is right for you.
Don't give up........maybe take a break now and then but get back into the game! Who knows the next woman you date may be the one.
2006-09-14 18:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, many women think that the "nice guy" is about as exciting as an old sock. The "bad boys" are perceived as exciting.
There are women out there that have learned that lesson, and are now searching for someone like you. Don't give up, but I suggest trying to stick to women near your age group, the younger ones are the most likely to be looking for excitement. A woman in her 30's, might possibly have learned that bad boys are not the ideal man and be more sensitive to you.
I know this means they come with baggage and sometimes children, but that also means they are going to be more apt to look favorably on the nice guy.
good luck.
2006-09-14 18:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by rcsanandreas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where do you think you will get by acting like a jerk? Its not just the nature of a lot of women to take advantage of kindness; its unfortunately generally the nature of most people- if what you want is a good relationship; being a jerk will only ruin that because you & whoever you're with will just fight all the time-
stay true to who you are & the right woman will see the good nature about you & love you for it... you're not alone; real love & respect doesn't come easily for any of us- it takes time to find the right person. Good luck!!!!!
2006-09-14 18:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound just a tad frustrated. so, what's the common denominator in your situation??? YOU. you are picking the same type of women everytime and allowing them to walk all over you. sit down with a pencil and paper and take a good, hard look at the type of women that attract you and why they have been bad for you. take a good, hard look at yourself for letting them take advantage of you. make a list of qualities you want in a woman and see if its realistic. no such thing as a perfect woman/lover, you find the one that you get along with the best and have fun with. a long lasting relationship is really a partnership, with sex as the frosting
2006-09-14 18:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by oldguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of nice guys finish last? Happens to be true for the most part. Im sure theres a nice gal out there some where. Keep looking theres plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-09-14 18:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by word2yamutha@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are at a crisis.
The bad are driving down the value of all women by being too easy and home wreckers and making other women feel like they have to do the samething.
The jerks are hurting all men by making the women hate all men and making the good men feel like they have to be jerks.
So I think the percentange of Jerks and Tricky women are rising fast.
Its like a big circle folks,dont you see! Then more good men that turn into jerks it discourages the good women and the more good women that turn are discouraged turns more men into jerks.
2006-09-14 18:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋