...i been abused for about ...10 years?physically..like getting hit with wet fabric,whipped with the stick for horses,hair pulling,and thrown stuff at.i try getting back..but i was unsucessfull..i cant tell on the person,because then he/she will have to go to jail..what should i do?
2006-09-14 18:17:53 · 35 answers · asked by angel miaka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
(this person is oler then me..im between 10-15
2006-09-14 18:22:29 · update #1
Seek professional help. Depending on the situation, you might or might not want to reconsider "telling" on the abuser, regardless if they might go to jail, because they will remain free to abuse someone else, but for yourself, you should seek some kind of professional help just to make sure that you don't develop other issues because of this (or to treat an issues that have already developed).
2006-09-14 18:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this hun but if they have been abusing you for ten years then they need to go to jail or something. What you need to do is file a complaint the next time that this happens. When you do this you can ask for a restraining order or you can get a protective restraint against them. This means that they are not in trouble, but it also means that they can not come within a certain amount of feet of you. If you live with this person, it could be a little more difficult.
2006-09-14 18:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by Natty137 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't report them, they won't stop. Let a judge decide if jail is needed. Calling the police and asking for help does not mean that you don't love the person and them hurting you does not mean that they don't love you. They just need help. And you need help after being in that kind of situation. Take a stand for yourself. You deserve to be in a healthy loving relationship. Call the police and help both of you. I'm sorry that this has been happening to you but it's time to change the situation. Only you can fix this!! Call the police. You can do it.
2006-09-14 18:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by justjerra_2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should go to jail!!! Anyone who can treat another human being like that does not belong on the streets. Report them to the police and let the police help you find a safe house to move into. If you don't the abuse will continue to increase. If you just leave then years later you will be plagued with guilt if you find out they did this to someone else. We are all our brother's keepers. If we all prosecuted domestic or child abusers then they would finally get the message that it IS NOT ACCEPTABLE!!!
2006-09-14 18:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find some time when the person is not there, pack all your sh!t, leave no info, and get the hell out. Make sure they don't know were you went. It is a horrible situation to stay in. Just get out before it gets worse.
If you are that young, try the local family shelter, but you must tell the cops. If you don't, they will not be able to help you. You are young, so you can't go on your own, the only option is the police. I know that you are scared, but it will work out if you tell them. Good luck with all, I hope you get out.
2006-09-14 18:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by gin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were to feel threatened if you told him you were going to leave, I think I would go to a womans shelter. No one ever deserves to be treated that way. If you have children involved in this relationship you are only hurting yourself and them. They will grow up thinking this is a normal way of life, picking up the same characteristics as this abusive person. For your own sake you need to get out of this relationship/lifestyle before its too late. I know sometimes it seems too scary to leave the life you have lived for 10 years, but believe me its going to be more than worth it! Always remember you are never alone. God is always there, but he has given you your own mind and allowed you to make your own decisions. It's time to put this in your past and learn a new way of life. One of integrity, respect, honor, etc. If you need someone just to talk with feel free to email me at llll_ashley_llll@yahoo.com
2006-09-14 18:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by ~aShLeY~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to speak to someone!
If you live in Australia call the kids helpline!
Kids Help Line is Australia's only free, confidential and anonymous, 24-hour telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged between five and 18.
1800 55 1800
2006-09-14 18:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone at your school. A teacher or the school nurse. Sweety this has to be reported and you have to think of your well being. Also the worst that may happen to the person is that they will take you away from them until they get help for their problem.
2006-09-14 18:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone who can't go to the police if you don't want him arrested. A priest or a doctor or a therapist. You first have to be safe sweetie. Go somewhere you are safe from the person who is abusing you. Get away before he seriously harms you more like in your mind.
2006-09-14 18:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this is happening to you. You must not live like this. Call the department of Human Services or the police. Jail is where this person belongs, and you deserve better days!
2006-09-14 18:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋