how come lately all these kids are having babies?

Question

i mean where im from theirs kids who arent even 13 yet having babies?their babies themselves that cant even take care of them how do they expect to take care of a baby?

pogostc-i agree with you a 100% sex is being taught all over the world..most young teenagers...are doing things i havent even done yet and its wrong...i dont blame it fully on da parents...cause theirs plenty of parents out there that have done the most you can do for children for a example...my sister who is onlii 2 years older then me...had her first baby @ 15...she continued to have babies she is now 23 with 6 babies and twins on the way...i dont blame our mother i blame her...because my mother did everything she could for her...she put her in counceling...it was mah sisters fault...she wanted to be all in them grown mens face and everything...my mother even put her away...and i say their mothers are going to take care of them because...aint no 13 yr old kid gone to want to sit in the house and take care of a baby...name one...you cant...aint no damn 13 kid...wheres are they gettin the money to take care of them from their mothers...

so all you crazii talking people shouldnt have kids...cause im going to pray for you...cause what you are saying makes no sense...and you should dayumm well be ashamed of yourselfes to blaim it on the school and the president and the parents...when it all actually reasons its probably the kids fault...

Answer 1

The PC bandits are out in force. Do you see this garbage being posted?
"who cares so long as they take proper care of them. jeez." show me a 13 y.o CHILD who can get a home, a job, and raise a child

"obviously their parents didn't fulfill their needs...so they figure their own baby will LOVE them since they feel no one else did it enough or the right way." B.S. because the children these days are being raised by the free love 60's generation. It is now the "norm" for children to date in grade school, be pregnant before middle school, and pregnant again in high school, and we ask why children are so stupid these days.

"Usually it is because in the area the community is not teaching Sex education". The problem is that they are teaching it, you can buy condoms in the bathrooms... are you people really this dumb? I can't even finish this, we are warping the young and letting them run wild without any repercussions to their dumb actions. We're killing our kids and with out taking any blame we are just walking on by.

Kids are having children because parents don't care what they are doing. We are turning out little whores and little bastards left and right. Kids don't care what happens because it will never happen to them. Unless the parents start acting like parents we have lost this generation.

Answer 2

WOW - There must be alot of perfect parents and perfect children from reading everybody's answer's blaming it on all the parents! HAHA! I had a child at a young age, I don't blame my mom, I had discipline, I was loved! I didnt have an abortion cause i didnt think it was right! I was having sex with my bf only 5 months into our relationship, cause i felt that he loved me!

I think it because the "babies" think they are capable most of the time not knowing that they aren't. And most likely not going to listen to anyone because they want to feel independant.

Its a problem thats not going anywhere cause its happening everywhere. Now if people really wanna be parents they should quit blaming other people for things they dont know. And maybe this is just not a question to be asking - unless- you KNOW it can be solved.

Answer 3

In today's society, the ways that our children are being raised, usually with both parents working and not able to spend enough time with the kids, they will turn to others for feelings of love, acceptance and comfort. Eventually this turns into sex and eventually babies. I'm not blaming the parents, but instead our mercenary society where both parents have to work to make ends meet, and sometimes that's still not enough!
As for where do the kids get the money to take care of these babies they have, yours and mine tax dollars are hard at work taking care of them for a long time to come. What do you think welfare is?
Also, do you watch what Hollywood is putting out these days? How much sex do we see in the movies, how much sex is implied on the television these days? It's no wonder kids experiment and end up pregnant!

Answer 4

Well, I think that at least part of the blame lies in teaching only abstinence in schools. Obviously they're still having sex, so shouldn't we try to teach them how to do it safely?

And I don't think it's quite fair to blame a president, whether it's Bush or Clinton you're pointing the finger at, because there is only so much that one man can do. Neither one of them is really in charge of every little thing that happens during their presidency.

Another thing that I think is partly to blame is the trend towards being your childs friend instead of a parent. All the kids that I grew up with whose parents were like that were into some seriously bad stuff- hard drugs, sex, partying, all that kind of stuff.

But if the parents go too far the other way, the kids will be out of control once they move out of mommy's house and go to college. I have a friend like that, too. She wasn't even allowed to pick out her own clothes in high school, and her parents picked out which colleges she was allowed to apply to, and then, once she was in the dorms, the started drinking and doing drugs and having sex, and since she had never even been to a gynecologist, she wasn't taking birth control and now she has a little girl. A little girl who is bi-racial because her parents frowned on dating across racial lines.

But those things are only partly to blame, and I know that fixing those things alone won't stop the problem. This has been going on for decades, but it's just gotten much more visible lately, with so much media attention and gossip.

My mom had friends when she was in jr. high/high school that became pregant, but instead of those girls continuing their education, their parents took them out of school to hide their 'condition.' Now that it's not so stigmatized, parents send their girls to school, even when there's no way it could be missed.

And when you really think about it, all of the teenagers who are having babies now are at exactly the age that they would have been married off and expected to have babies not too many decades ago. Remember in 'Gone WIth The Wind' when Scarlett was married to Charles? She was 16 then. India Wilkes was 18, and in the book, Scarlett refers to her as an 'old maid' because she isn't married yet.

I'm 21, and I have a 7 month old son, and, even though I'm a high school and college graduate, I still get dirty looks from strangers, and critisized, and looked down on for having a baby 'so young.'

I don't think that this is something that's ever really going to change, no matter how much we as a society frown on it.

Answer 5

It's has alot to do with parents not educating their children and not finding them after school activities. I know most house holds have both working parents. Also it's the girls wanting something to love and believing that having a baby will keep their boyfriends around. Yeah people say if your old enough to have sex then your old enough to take care of a baby not true, they are also old enough to know the consequences of having sex. Also with young girls they use sex to get a bf or to keep one. I am not saying all parents don't watch their kids and some do the best they can but if it takes a little extra money to keep your child safe I would do especially if they were having sex. Hire a babysitter if need be.

Answer 6

Maybe it is all of the sexual stimulation they get everywhere they look.. movies, TV, video games, magazines, school etc. I am not saying that the media causes all of the problems, I am just saying that it is becoming more than acceptable for younger and younger kids to be having sex, and at that age a good number do not have accurate information about sex and reproduction. Shame on the parents for not teaching their kids all of the things they need to know to keep themselves from getting pregnant and getting std's and in this I am including a little thing called Morals.

I also think that it is more visible now than it was before, we are no longer sending girls away to "stay with relatives" and then forcing her to give her baby up and not talk about it again

Answer 7

I think that kids are having kids way too young as well. There isn't the stigma attached to it that there used to be. My sister and I were raised to beleive that sex before marriage was wrong as were my brothers. My sister is a senior and no baby and as far as I am aware, a virgin, but her friend's sister had a son quite young. I also remember a girl in high school hoping the baby would wait until exams were over with before her baby was born. I think she was a senior at the time, but still. She hadn't married the baby's father.

Answer 8

I have to say it. Many kids now think that it is ok to have sex and don't want to accept the concequences. They think that it is cool and they can brag to their friends that they had sex but really, they are just ruining their lives. They are either learning for others who have had children young or are watching the wrong programs. Granted I am only 19 years old but atleast I was smart enough to go on the deprovera shot so I don't get pregnant. I think that mothers out there should talk to their kids about sex and if they want to be sexually active, they should go on birth control.

As of kids not even 13, their mothers should be ashamed of themselves. That is not right to have their kids having sex at a young age. If anything, I think that is gross. They are still very young and still babies themselves, and they don't need to be going out and having sex with their boyfriends or some kid/guy that they meet. I just don't think that it is right.

Answer 9

Poor choices and mis-informed about sex entirely. Don't leave it up to the schools to tell them; parents need to talk to their kids, too because the kids live with them, not their teachers.

Parents need to emphasize the importance of abstinence before marriage and trust their kids to make the right decision.

My parents never taught me about the risks of STDs or pregnancy; they figured that the school system would do that for them because, according to my mom, "they can explain it better."

Well, I'm 25 and still a virgin (by choice) and I turned out ok but parents really need to take an active role in their child's sex education.

Answer 10

How do you know who takes care of whom and how? It's generalising like this that gets us into all sorts of strife.

Anyway, it seems that something is failing in the system for sure, but it's not just one person, one government, one nation.

You know, we're all here together, so instead of us 'adults' getting on the back of kids, how about we start them off right to begin with, and give them a decent world to live in, and then maybe they'd be able to enjoy being young and not feel like they have to rush into anything before they've had time to enjoy life.

Then again, maybe kids are more in touch with life and this is the next 'big' thing, who knows...?