is it alrite to smack childern or should it be banned?

Answer 1

It depends on what you mean by smack. If you mean hitting your child out of nowhere, the answer is no, it is not alright.
Corporal punishment should only be used if the child has already been warned that the wrong behavior will be answered that way if the offense is repeated, and should only be used in cases of outright disobedience.

Answer 2

Alright... I have some old fashioned views on this question, yet with a twist.

My parents spanked me. I don't see a problem with it to a certian extent. They never spanked me more than 3 times (with a belt on my bare bottom) to give themselves a limit, incase there was some anger behind the spanking. It helped balance the discipline. However, after each spanking, the issue for the spanking was discussed. Afterwards, I was told I was loved and the discipline was for my own good - to help me remember next time (sometimes it work) ;) I got spanked alot.

There were a few times when I got "smacked" or slapped in the face for saying something VERY inappropriate to my mom. She backhanded me before I knew it... It made a strong point then and there. However, it was a rare thing. I can say it happened less than 4 times in my whole life. (boy... my parents had restraint!) :)

Now.. I have my own son. He's at the age now where spanking has been a very valueable discipline. However, it is not the first option. But when it seems most appropriate, think it should be used. (For example, he hit the dog with a stick, I tell him he will get spanked the same amount to times he hit the dog so he knows how it feels to be hurt... It worked like a charm - he's never hit the dog again)

I like to work in other disciplines into my parenting. Grounding him from something important, a toy, game, or tv. (usually, if he doesn't cry about it, it's not harsh enough and doesn't make an impression).

However, my point is to talk to your child about what happened. Explain to them why you are punishing them the way you are, and have them explain what they are going to do different next time. And always. ALWAYS tell your child you love them after. Give them a big hug and support them in they're decision to do better next time.

Not once did I feel unloved by my parents. Now... I can be strong for my own child. It is a cycle.

Answer 3

It depends on your definition of 'smacking'
If you mean spanking them, then go ahead, but you must have justifiable cause.
For example: When I was five I ran across the street when my mom told me not to and almost got hit, therefore I recieved a spanking and we went straight home. That was my first and last spanking, I learned then and there not to disobey.
It didn't take a belt or anything to do it either, therefore, I only believe in spanking if it's with your hand and on the bottom. I do not think babies or children too young to understand it should be spanked. They will think you are just hitting them and try it back. When they are little, you talk to them about it.

Answer 4

depends on what you mean by smasck. I wouldn't reccomend you smack a child upside the head, in fact if I saw you do it I would probably come ovewr and smack you. However I was occasionally spanked as a child and I turned out fine. Sometimes it's needed. I think we wouldn't have all the problems with kids today if once in awhile someone had given them a smack on the ass growing up.

Answer 5

I was smacked when I was bad, and I learnt what not to do, I turned out fine.
No amount of talking is going to work. Smacking is more about the fear of getting smacked, not the actually pain, because it's not necessary to smack hard.
I see a lot of children where I work, and the well behaved ones are the ones that have been smacked. The little s***ts are the ones who get "talked to" when they're naughty. And what happens? they go straight back to misbehaving. No respect what so ever.

Answer 6

Let me answer this question with a question of my own.
Is it alright if I go out and find a person that is 3 feet taller then you and weights at least 110lbs more than you to come a "smack" you?
I'm sure that you would be fine with that.
If I smack an adult walking down the street that is assault. So it would be the exact same thing except that it is child and often does not know any better for its actions, and usually can't defend itself so I guess it is worse to "smack" a child than it is an adult.

Answer 7

Smacking is not the same as spanking, or a slap on the hand. I most certainly do not "smack " my children, nor do most people. Many of us may spank our children, when we feel it is needed. In those cases, it's just fine. I wish my mother had reddened my rear a little more, I could have used it. In fact, a good smack may have done me some good, too...lol!

Answer 8

I believe in some places it already is banned.
Even spanking is banned (for certain ages, or with anything that's not a hand)- any person who saw you do it on the street could call CAS here and have you investigated for child abuse.
And if someone hears you do it from outside your home, they can call too.
All calls are anonymous.

Personally, I don't think it's alright. Take a good look at your childs face after you do it. Can you even tell how s/he's feeling? Assaulting the face is really shocking and personal. It says "I don't like YOU" as opposed to "I disapprove of what you just DID".
Emotions too intense for a little brain to deal with, in my opinion.

Answer 9

without wanting to offend anyone, no i don't think smacking a child is alright, i feel there are better ways to discaplin a child, for instance, a naughty chair, or corner which is used only when they have done something really wrong, i can't understand why alot of (not all) parents smack first then think about talking to the child after smacking, why not try talking to the child first and telling them what they have done is wrong, my 19month old daughter knows when she has done something wrong, just by me telling her she's a naughty girl, nothing else needs to be said, but i do feel that this needs to be started from very early age its no good waiting til the child is 3 or 4 to try talking to them to tell them when they done wrong, children understand things a while before they can actually talk,

Answer 10

It depends on what type of discipline your child will respond to. I believe its ok to slap them to get the point across that they've done something wrong as long as they understand why they are getting the smack.

But for those who say don't ever hit them, but ground them...what good will that do the child if they don't understand that punishment? What you are trying to teach them will just go in one ear and out the other.

Select your method of punishment according to the child & the deed.

But for the record, I think smacking is ok.