Are you a people pleaser? Why do you think you are?

Answer 1

I think naturally everybody wants people to like them. We want people to have certain impressions of us, especially good impressions. So maybe we go on our ways to please them, so they'll have high regards of us.

But there's a difference of genuinely trying to please people, and simply sucking up. What I do most of the time is not to be in people's bad books, and be someone people respect. I do please people, but not so they make me their next ultimate best friend. I just like to be there when people need me.

Not sure if I got straight to the point, though...

Answer 2

Yes, unfortunately and often blind to the ramifications, as well as over-compensating the other way too. One friend put it as 'professional people pleaser ie ppp and there's always plenty of it.' I guess the reason is insecurity and poor self-esteem and feeling like everyone else is better than you, smarter than you, etc. Shyness long-standing doesn't help as you don't check out the facts well enough. Being over-sensitive adds to the 'mess', and being diagnosed with ADD-Attention Deficit Disorder in my 60's explains a lot of what has gone on earlier in my life. So the question is a lot more complex than just my personal experience. But hopefully you might get somes clues if this is your personal search to understand yourself or others. I think a false understanding of what love, charity and kindness are all about, and that it's not just being a 'milk-toast' or a 'doormat' for everyone to walk over you, but rather a full decision and choice on your part to be helpful or not to a needy person, according to your own resources. So not sure why you ask such a question, and whether you are asking for yourself or not, or afraid to be more direct. O yes, fear is another factor often enough for people pleasers, afraid what others will think of you if you don't please them or a false sense of 'duty' to please erveryone else but yourself. So happy hunting for reasons.

Answer 3

Not really a people pleaser. Most people seem pleased if they are not targeted during a long conversation. First they evaluate us, then try to find out if we have evaluated them and how was the 'rating' ! It is this constant rating that retards people from feeling pleased at other's presence.
Just find the real good things and keep mentioning, and it will please them. But what is the use ? No material gain is achieved, and no sustaining relationship is created !

Answer 4

yes.But just realised recently that people will walk all over me if i dont stand up for myself.so now i try and make people happy but i stay true to myself.if something upsets me or someone is rude to me instead of keeping quiet like i used to do i now say something and stand up for myself.
I think people are "people pleasers" because we dont like to feel alone and on the outside.