I've wanted another child since my last one popped out. She was so beautiful...and still is...that I couldn't help but want another one right away. I have a iud, so I can wait up to five years if I have to, but I really don't want to. My finances and fiance beg to differ. Am I nuts or just overwhelmed by the ticking of my maternal clock?
2006-09-14 17:00:07 · 24 answers · asked by trinityangelmama 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You know your situation better than anyone else. Having your children close together can be a true blessing and spacing them out has its advantages. My brother and I are very close in age and my children are 10 years apart. I let my heart tell me when it was right to have another child. You do however have to take into account the fathers input on this.
2006-09-14 17:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years
2006-09-14 17:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doctors will tell you to give your body a year before trying to get pregnant again. It really all depends on how far apart you want the children to be. It has been my experience that the closer they are in age the closer they tend to be. My brother and I are 5 years apart and growing up we fought like crazy. There was just to much of an age gap. My boys, however, are only 2 years apart and though they still fight (as all children do), they are very close. I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. Take this time to enjoy your daughter, she will enjoy helping you with the new baby when she is a bit older.
2006-09-14 17:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I want another child too! My daughter is only 5 months! But I am going to wait at least 3-5 years before I have another one unless we get a surprise =D . I just want to make sure that we have the money to do it. Dont worry you are not nuts! And good luck!
2006-09-14 17:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by cleverness_444 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you my experience...That I waited 3 yrs to have another child... and I was SO glad. 3 years was perfect because my daughter was old enough to understand what was going on, and help out after the baby was born. (She brings me diapers, keeps her eye on him while I'm in the shower, helps feed him and entertain him.) There was also the added advantage of her being out of diapers, and eating real food too. She is such a good big sister! Plus, I feel like I didn't short her anything as far as her babyhood was concerned because for three years it was just me and her and her daddy.
Good luck with your decision. (I hope this helped.)
2006-09-14 17:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by xiannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my second 6 months after the first - so they're 15 months apart.. (not planned that way - sometimes it just happens!) was hard going at first (two in diapers, two having a hard time sleeping etc etc.) Now I love it! They're each others best friends and play mates - I finished all the hard stuff in one go. And they'll leave for college within a year of each other! :) I recommend it but ONLY if your partner can support you - its a LOT of work and you need lots of support..
2006-09-14 17:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by zebragirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly love this child give yourself time to enjoy it. wait at least 3 years to have the next one hopefully by then your fiance and finances will be different. everyone always wants a new baby when they see one or when they see there going up so fast but unfortunately we cant make time go backwards so enjoy every minute you can with this baby. make memories not regrets
2006-09-14 17:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by gina g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant exactly plan on kids around the finances, mistakes happen but your fiance wants to wait but definetly wants more then respect that. wait until your daughter is at least in kindergarten before another one, 2 kids in diapers are very expensive good luck
2006-09-14 17:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by mole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all-try the marriage thing first-it's bad enough to have one child-w/ a potentially dead beat dad-then 2-not to say this is your man-but w/out the ring-they could run just a little bit easier-and you'll be able to claim-sh-t-happened to very good friends of mine-with the 2nd because -then your in over load-good luck
2006-09-14 17:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I do think its good to have a bit of a gap but not too big,I think a 2 year gap is nice ,older baby is old enough to understand the concept of new baby but young enough to still grow up together ,any closer and it becomes really hard to juggle ,caring for one baby while other baby is in need of so much care too ,not that 2 year olds are not demanding ,they are but you can involve them ,get them to help and play .But what ever you want ,you need to have your partner on side ,other wise you will risk doing it all alone and that is not fun.
2006-09-14 17:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋