how does a guy like me get a date.?

Question

i've been completely alone my whole life. never had a girlfriend. never gone on a single date. i've just never been strong enough to ask a girl out. even when i think she might be interested. one i don't think im attractive enough to most women because i just feel most are too superficial and i don't have any qualities that those kinds of girls will be interested in. and second, im afraid of offending her and saying something she doesn't want to hear or something like that. i find myself physically ugly and for the most part pretty boring. especially if we've just met. while none of those should matter because inside im a great guy. im kind, honest, caring, sensitive. all of that. but girls here don't seem to care about any of that. i just don't know what to do. im super extremely shy and i don't expect much maturity out of women here. by the way i live in las vegas and im 24 so if that helps any.

Answer 1

Wow! You`ve NEVER had a gf? I don`t understand why you are so shy. Even the ugliest person you have ever seen can get a date! It`s all just a matter of finding the right girl. There are probably tons of girls who have wanted you but you are so self-conscious(<==sp?) that you are blind to it. I think you sound like a sweetheart and you just need a girl who is sweet and willing to bring you out of your shell no matter how long it takes. I normally steer people away from online dating or meeting people from the web because there are a lot of freaks on here, but in your case I think it actually might help you. As long as you go by certain rules such as : Just go to places that are for meeting friends and not a dating site at first. Don`t believe people comepletely and think of it as though you are never going to meet this person, so for all you know they could tell you ANYTHING and make you believe they are anyone they want you to think they are. Only do it for fun and don`t try to seriously hook up with or meet anyone on here. If a person starts to try getting too personal or being scary, cut off contact immediately. It is possible to meet really cool people on here and since you`re not face to face it is much easier to talk freely and not be shy. I think if you get used to talking to people and meeting friends online, it will flow over into your day to day life and you will find it much easier to talk to and approach girls you like. Good luck hun! You seem really sweet and I hope everything works out for you. :-)

Answer 2

Well, living in Las Vegas, there's got to be a large variety of different types of women to choose from. You know, you might be surprised how many women actually DO care about the things you mentioned. My advice though... you need to build up your confidence in yourself before you try and do too much. I used to be the same way, extremely shy and didn't find myself good looking. So what I did, was I did things that made me feel good about myself, so that on the inside, I didn't care what others thought.

There's really only one major thing you need to remember... BE YOURSELF! If a girl can't accept you for that, then they're not worth your time.

BTW, from what I can see in your picture you're very attractive.

Answer 3

I think you might have an issue with personality, sometimes we need to work on these things, if you are aware of all the pros and cons of it, then you should really do something about it.

I really suggest you look into getting some acting lessons, this helps you break from shyness and really helps you become more self assured, which is something you urgently need.

It is all about your personality, work on it, even if you feel ugly, you are not ugly, you get what you give, remember? If you think less of yourself, others will too, think highly of yourself, you need to get out there and enjoy life, make some friends on-line I understand what you mean about the women and how most are quite superficial and shallow, unintelligent and lack all kinds of skills and things, including a good intelligent conversation. I suggest you check out this website, it is more of an unshallow people website for dating., just check out what women your age have to say on their profiles.

Don't think negative remember what Henry Ford said: "If you think you can, you are right, if you think you can't you are right too"!!

By the way, try smiling, really work on your smile, you look really turned off, find something to enhance your abilities and your life. Unfortunately no one else will do this for you, you have to take care of you, get some books on dating, conversations, there are many everywhere, and work on that your personality, be more spunky, outgoing, show you have spark, loosen up, people like happy, airy, outgoing, light,fun to be around with friends. Don't give up and don't feel down and show it, Do the opposite. READ THE BOOKS, go to google under dating

Answer 4

MMkay- First off you shouldn't go around believing that women aren't mature. They are different from you, and the signals you put out are obviously putting them off. From your thread I noticed a negative vibe. Do you have any hobbies, things you like to do?
If so then ask a girl you think is nice or cool to do that with you- doesn't have to be one girl you ask- ask many because the more you ask the greater a chance someone will say yes!

Also, don't breathe down her neck if she gives you her phone number. And by this I mean don't call her the next day, or even that week. You have to be cool & relaxed and in control. That is how girls like their men and that is the kind of image you want them to receive from you

Answer 5

Start asking women out, and don't get discouraged when you get turned down. You just sound frightened to me. OK, there are some shallow women everywhere, but they can't ALL be shallow. GET OUT THERE. You're going to have some good times and bad times. It comes with the territory. There are nice women looking for a guy who is kind, honest, caring, and sensitive. Start building up your confidence. Compliment yourself at least ten times a day. I'll bet there is a lot to like about you. And you have to have SOME interests. Start talking to women about them! You look darned handsome to me.

Answer 6

There are millions of girlz in the world and plenty who would die for a man as respectful as you if i was old enough for you i wouldnt care if you weighed 2000 pounds i would only care if u were truthful, so go somewhere other than vegas cause u probally wont find a girl truthful to you.

Answer 7

Dont be a baby boy. Stand up straight...suck in your tummy...keep your chin up and shoulders square and be that man. Walk in the room like all eyes are on you singing "he's the man" They dont know you and dont know your faults so walk strong and be brave. Be yourself but make eye contact and be confident. Its all in the pose. Beauty is only skin deep...beauty isnt black and white. Beauty is all in the eyes of the beholder. Dont think so less of yourself since maybe that lady you have your eyes on thinks the same about herself w/you. We fail to learn from our mistakes and to become that much stronger. Just keep moving ahead.

Answer 8

you sound like a really sweet person.

The best thing you can do is be friendly...dont' worry about getting a date, because that's too much pressure. Just meet people, hang out, be freinds, and eventually people will appreciate who you are. And then dating will come.

You sound like the kind of person i would date if i dated men...so hang in there...the right person is out there

Answer 9

Dude, there is someone out there for every one, im not much to look at either yet i have a pretty girlfriend and she loves me as much as i love her(which is alot). Dont be discouraged expand your horizons

Answer 10

After reading your question, I would not want a date with you. You have got to feel better about yourself and women.

Also, you have got to be ready for "rejection" But you have got to feel good about yourself in order to survive "rejection".

Best of luck. Enjoy life......it's too short to sit and wonder what could have been.