First off, my ex dated this guy on and off for almost 3 years, and he cheated on her, he was mean to her, and her friends. i am 20 and she is 16, i met her through a friend, and she was single and school was almost out, so we dated, her aunt didnt approve of it, so i never got to see her too much, and i began sneaking into her house on the weekends why her aunt was gone, and that went on for awhile. Then her ex which she said she hated started talking to her again, started filling her head with lies, so she breaks up and said that she didnt know what she wanted, then a few days later we got back together, well then things went good for a week or 2, then it happened again, so we broke up again, like 2 days later she was together with him. 2-3 weeks passed, we didnt talk, she then came to me and pretty much said she wasnt happy, and she missed me and was looking for a reason to break up with him, well the next day he did, now she says it is too soon for us, should i even take her back?
2006-09-14 16:44:46 · 21 answers · asked by hardhull 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well,there would be to roads to take,since you sound mature.
You can take her back and risk get eachother's heart broken again if you did already,but still go out,Or you can put her aside as much as you may love her.She is a tender person right now and is not sure right now.Wait until she gets a bit more stronger,and then see what happens.
A tip,Tell your head to shutup and listen to what your heart is saying...:) Hope I helped...
2006-09-14 16:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 16...do you realize her brain isn't even fully developed yet? It's funny, I dated a 20 year old when I was 16, (he was the one who kept breaking up and coming back) and having gone through a similar situation, I would say don't get back together with her. While I didn't think so at the time, (I was 16) the age difference was too great. Later on it might not matter as much, but think about what you were like when you were 16, and how you are now. Huge difference, right? She's too young, how can you criticize her for being immature and not knowing what she wants, when she's just a kid? That's how kids are. Leave her alone.
2006-09-14 16:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her aunt didn't approve because it's illegal, I doubt the law would approve either. One of the best reasons for not dating her is her age, legality aside, her immaturity is evident in the drama that follows her wherever she goes. Give her a few more years to mature, meanwhile find somone older and more "together" to date.
2006-09-14 16:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
She is very selfish to jerk you around like this, and if you put up with it she will think you're a doormat and disrespect you even more. Dump her and let that other asshole have her. She doesn't sound like much of a prize anyway. You'll be better off. Trust me.
2006-09-14 16:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by carisse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl is flipping back and forth between you and other guy. to give her the benefit of doubt she may not realize what she's doing going between the two of you, or she doesn't want to be alone and so she dumps you to go to him when it doesn't work and vice versa. there's a pattern here, no? you need to realize it and know that you can be in another relationship that doesn't work this way. both of you guys look like fools.
2006-09-14 17:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be her spare. You cannot be there for her when she is lonely and this other guy isn't. It sucks but she really doesn't know what she wants. You should probably move on and find someone that knows what they want.
if you can remain friends with this girl, try to maybe it will work out but I think you should move on for now.
2006-09-14 16:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like this girl has no idea who she wants. if i were u, i wouldn't take her back. she's gonna do the same thing over and over again. go find another girl ur age. she's still in high school and this happens alot in high school. just wish her luck with the next guy.
2006-09-14 16:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by emilytobey@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she sounds like she is too immature and just wants to play games with your head she is not worth all the heartache
2006-09-14 16:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by freckleface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your "20" and she's "16" as far as i knew, i thought it was illegal.but i guess your one who believes "age ain't nothing but a number". well i say find someone your own age and stop putting yourself through dealing with the odd issue of getting with a minor
2006-09-14 16:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mixed Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i wouldn't, cuzz if shes gonna cheat that much you dont want to be stuck in the middle of a crisis lik that, but if you really do love her you will do anything, i think you should find someone who loves you and only you, and will be loyal to you
2006-09-14 16:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋