Heres the thing. we both love each other very much. im the type of guy who tries to work things out. shes the type who wants to go with the flow. we talk about things , she gets annoyed and wants some time off (some space). She says that she still really loves me and will come back after shes had some time for herself. since im new inrelationships. what are the DO's and DONT's ? what does this actually mean? I really dont want to lose her!
2006-09-14 16:41:43 · 21 answers · asked by Joel M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time off's are a very hard thing and can also mean different things to different people. I recently had a month long time off with my guy and it was awful while it lasted, I nearly went crazy but we came back to each other and the relationship could not be better.
You don't want to lose her but perhaps you are smothering her while you are afraid of losing her? All I can say is give her some space, give her some time. If it's meant to be, it will be.
2006-09-14 16:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that she doesnt want to work at the relationship and is not committed at all to it. To walk away from something for just a time being is just letting something escalate and not solving it or letting it cool down. The best type of relationship is communication and honesty. If she cant be open then she isnt being honest about the relationship and you will never really get to know her. Her wanting her space is just another way of saying so doesnt want to be tied down or committed to you. You need to really sort out if she is worth it. My advice to you is not to be a door mat for her to wipe her feet off on. Have a backbone and but dont be stubborn either. Good luck
2006-09-14 23:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We treat people how to treat us. If you want to be involved in a relationship with someone who walks away and asks for space every time a problem arises then keep putting up with this behavior. I'd be darned if I would put up with someone telling me they needed space from me instead of talking things out, no matter how much I loved them. Everytime she asks for her space,she risks the chance of you actually giving it to her...permanently. Personally, I think you should...
2006-09-14 23:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by MegMaher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means move on, if she wants a break from you that's never a sign that she really loves you, it's a sign she can't stand you right now and would really like to see other guys for a while. Don't be left on the chain while she's seeing other guys, just end it with her and find a woman that wants to be with you.
2006-09-14 23:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants her space, give it to her! Don't allow her to treat you this way. Would you ever tell her that you wanted your space for a while, and risk loosing her...Of course not. She just isn't that into you. I hope you realize that this is not normal behavior, people actually talk things out when they care about each other and their relationship.
2006-09-15 00:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think time off is an excuse to see somebody else and sometimes its disrespectful. I strongly disagree with the time off issue. If you truly "love" or have feelings for that person thers no way you want time off...unless your some teenage kid. It is very likely she wants or is seeing somebody else and still wants to have you on hold. Trust me. Dont let this chick fool you and dont take her seriously either. Life is too precious to waste.
2006-09-14 23:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants her cake and eat it too! other words its over,But she Knows your a nice guy and She wants to keep you hanging in the back round uncase it don,t work out with who ever or for when she has nobody and she,s feeling lonely and insurcre,but when her mood passes so will you! My Dear she,s playing you,Tell her, its ether all of me or None,don,t let here play you for sucketr,You sound like a very Sweet,Sincere person and Theirs Plenty of single Woman out there that would love to have Man like you for boyfriend,Honest men are hard to find and you sound Like one!HA,HER LOST! Good luck Sweety,Hollywood!
2006-09-14 23:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u two r very different people opposites attract but most of the time dont work out she obviously doesnt love u as much as u love her it means she wants to brake up but doesnt want to tell u
2006-09-15 00:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by darknightmare01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to have time to think! Don't pressure her in any way! Give her the space she wants--if its meant to be--she'll realize this and be back--otherwise--she'll be gone!
You can't force or make her love/be with you!
get ready for the worst--but hope for the best!
BEST OF LUCK!
2006-09-14 23:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no option but to give her the space.... she may be confused , if she is young, or she might really just need the time to readjust her thinking... so either comply or move on.... you only know what is right and wrong for the relationship and for YOU..... God bless
2006-09-14 23:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋