If a Muslim man wants to marry a Muslim woman but the man's parents don't want him to marry her (she didn't do anything wrong, they just don't want him to marry her for whatever reasons or preconceived notions they have about her). Can he still marry her (Islamically)?
*Please only Muslims or those who have knowledge of Islam. Thank you.
2006-09-14 16:40:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just a few added details...
Incase some of you haven't figured it out yet, I'm the woman in my question. I do not know why his parents are so opposed to me. Maybe they've heard false things about me from someone else, I do not know. But they won't hear me out and they don't believe their son, when he tells them that I am a good woman. Yes, it is both of our first marriage. My parents are happy with our decision to get married but his are not. Unfortunatley, my family and I do not live near them- we live in different states. My boyfriend wants me to stay with his parents to prove them wrong, but with them being so judgemental of me, I'm scared to stay with them.
And just to answer one of the answerers questions, I'm an American. I'm Lebanese by ethnicity but I was born and raised in in America. My boyfriend is also an American.
2006-09-14 17:24:47 · update #1
Oh yeah and it's not an arranged marriage, by the way. I wouldn't agree to it. My parents wouldn't do that to me.
2006-09-14 17:29:17 · update #2
YES, a Muslim man needs no permission from his parents to marry a girl.
He does need a spine though.
You have my support. Go for it. His parents will come to their senses eventually.
ADDITIONAL DETAILS: I agree with you. Most of the people here are just too eager to earn their two points than to read the question carefully.
I'll make is simple for you sister. In Islam to get married...
Man must propose = Girl must accept = Girls' parents/guardian must approve = A mufti/imam must pronounce the nikah = two witnesses.
where does the man's parents come into this picture? it does not mean he is disrespecting his parents but he is within his rights to marry who he chooses.
The opposition you face is probably social/cultural. They are afraid of the unknown. Prove them wrong.
2006-09-14 16:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A man can marry a muslim woman, who does not have any attribute against islamic concepts/laws even going against parents unless they (the parents) have valid reasons for that.
Secondly, a muslim virgin woman can not marry without her gardian's permission. Which we call a 'wali' but a widow can do.
On the other hands, parents have great liabilities on their children according to Quran and Hadith therefore they must not be insulted by not obeying their decission without any islamic reason.
The best idea is to bring them round and enjoy this precious moments with everybody so that every body should get his rights.
This is islam.
NOTE: I have just shared my knowledge in this subject but a islamic scholar must be consulted for specific case.
May Allah the Almighty guide us all towards the right path.
2006-09-14 16:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by A muslim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has nothing to do with the religion it has to do with the culture of the people and that varies from country to country...in Islam they can marry, and parents don't have authority....They can still marry by muslim standard....now if its in a culture of arranged marriages or something thats a different story but the QU'ran does not touch that
2006-09-14 16:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Darkness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well okay I am not answering as I am not Muslim but a comment that your ways or beliefs are interesting albient anathema to our "other religion."
Its nice if the parents agree but for us but it does not change anything. And it is refreshing to know that Muslims too carry preconceived notions about people who would marry their children setting up future aches and pains for everyone concerned. For us we'd marry anyway and the parent would have to like it or lump it.
Our religions USED to have lots of rules and regulations too but young people today do pretty much what they want in the affairs of marriage. Yeah, they sometimes make mistakes but they learn after a while. Many divorce and remarry, sometime a few times before they get it right. Here we call it "learning from your mistakes." They survive somehow.. But an arranged marriage is totally out of the question....primitive to be exact.
Anyway...we wish you good luck and hope it all works out.
2006-09-14 16:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can. They just need to go to another part of town to marry. The ceremony CAN be carried out without family members as witnesses.
It depends on location (nation, countryside or city) and local custom as to how the bride's (or groom's for that matter) family might react to being faced with a "done deal" as-it-were, which was expressly against their wishes.
Most often, the couples choice of each other is slowly accepted and they become part of the family.
2006-09-14 16:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bart S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life will be miserable if you marry him because his parents don't like you. sorry to use strong words, but marriage is for the rest of your life. but you do have you parents blessings, so you might be able to pull it off. i would say, do not live with his parents. he is wrong about that. my wife and i had both our parents blessings, but living with my parents was hell - we moved out after a few months. 10 years later things are different, my mother and wife get along great now. but it would not be the case if we stayed with them. I've heard this from many others.
just my thoughts.
peace
2006-09-14 18:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mustafa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello! i don't think a women can marry a non-muslim man,but a muslim man can marry a non-muslim woman,because a man is more likely 2b able2 convert a women into islam,than a women converting a man...i never under stood that either,and im muslim myself.
2016-03-17 21:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES.. he can.. a muslim man can marry without his parents agreement !!!
but a Muslim woman (that is getting married for the FIRST time) has to seek permission from her parents..... that is her own n her parents agrreement matters... if one of them denies.... then the marriage cannor occur!!!!
but a widowed or a divorced woman can marry WITHOUT her parents agreemnet!!
2006-09-14 17:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assalamu 'Alaikum
Sister, I really feel for you. No, he does not need permission from his parents to marry you. However, are you sure that he's who you want to marry? Having a mother and father-in-law who are so harsh, will cause you so much stress. Good luck!
2006-09-14 17:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Amira♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, one rule that Islam estabilished during it's birth period allowed a young woman to choose or refuse who she marries, sadly in most small rural cultures and in some big they choose not to follow, marriage is often used to strengthen ties between two families or as gestures of goodwill.
2006-09-14 16:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by ballaballa20 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋