I am now 17 and have never had actual b/f. Now I know that I am somewhat quieter than most people but it's not like i avoid guys or look like a troll or anything..
idk.. it just gets annoying being alone sometimes..
any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
-tootles
2006-09-14 16:21:36 · 36 answers · asked by eyse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with being single and not having a b/f and yes it is normal. That just means you have found other things in life to satisfy you and that makes you strong. Stay single for a while and explore who you are.
2006-09-14 16:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Janet lw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are going through, because I was there in the not-to-distant past. I felt like I was never going to find the right guy, so after high school I figured I'd just go for any guy. Bad move. I wound up with total jerks because I just wanted someone in my life. The relationships didn't last long, but the emotional baggage kept getting heavier. Finally I gave up and after 11 months of not dating anyone, I found I had fallen in love with a really good friend of mine. We've been involved for 5 years, married for 3 1/2 of those, and are still completely in love. And considering I'd never had a relationship that lasted longer than 4 months before my husband, I'd say it just wasn't my time before that. Yours is out there, just be patient (and make friends with some guys, you never know who might turn out to be the one some time down the road!) Good Luck!
2006-09-14 16:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry sweetie theres ppl out there who have been single 4 longer than u have. Maybe its just that u havent found anyone that u really "clicked" with. If theres a guy ur interested, try and get 2 know him more. Casually start up a conversation, and subtly let him kno ur interested. Maybe u need to make the 1st move. sometimes if u want something to happen, u have to take sum initiative and try 2 get it to happen on ur own.
i know that being a girl, u wouldnt want to make the 1st move, but u never know it might work.
If u r somewhat quiet around guys they might not find u that interesting. They're more likey to approach u or even notice u if ur out there laughing and looking liek ur having a good time. Im not saying jump around and shout like a 5 yr old, but i know that whenever i see someone sitting quietly in a corner, i dont normally feel like approaching them.
But dont feel bad!!! its not not-normal to be 17 and single! Im a teenager 2 and i know that most girls feel like seomthing must be wrong with them if they havent had an actual BF yet. but theres nothing wrong with it. but it is kina tough when u see everyone going on dates & having fun while ur just left all alone.
i know how u feel! ive gone thru it. but im so lucky to have met my BF about a yr ago!!! it was totally unexpected. But to get him, I sorta had 2 make the 1st move.
well good luck 2 ya!
2006-09-14 16:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're seventeen, and it seems like forever to you, but really it's not, in the great scheme of things. I was seventeen when I was with my first love, my high school sweetheart. We were married by eighteen, divorced by nineteen. You don't have to worry, the boyfriends will come. My sixteen year old daughter knows, she's not had a boyfriend either. Not for lack of offers, but she's smart enough to know that neither she nor the boys truly know who they are at this point. I will tell you something you suspect, that boys are driven by hormonal urges at your age. Believe it or not, they'll tell you they love you and all that stuff, and may even mean it at the time, but they haven't lived enough to understand what a commitment love is. When you're in college or the workplace, your social life will come. Just enjoy being young and single now! Concentrate on education. Get enough so that one day you can support yourself. It's easier to deal with men, and others, when you do so from a position of strength!
2006-09-14 16:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it. When you find someone you will and that is that. If it bothers you then maybe you should work at it a little. It is nice to have that special someone to share things with. But don't be in any big hurry and worry that this is something abnormal about you. Just go with the flow. Best wishes. and tootles back to you ;)
2006-09-14 16:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know i was in a serious relationship at 17 and i kinda regret it being alone sucks but your living your life and dont have to worry about a bf getting mad cus you talked to joe at walmart or something. You will find someone maybe now just isnt your time.....just be yourself and im sure some guy will pursue you but dont be all giddy and fall head over heels for the first one that looks your way just be yourself and if you are interested in 1 certain person let them know maybe not directly but in little ways like asking their opinione about things and hanging out often good luck!!!!
2006-09-14 16:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by kelley p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 you still got plenty of time to get a bf...Just go out with friends and relax, what a wonderful thing to sat "I have never been touch by a man".I am sure the boyfriend you get will respect you for that. Now a days girls just go out with boys, just so that they can be seen with a boy. Not cool. Stay as you are when you are ready you will go out with boys.You are a sweet girl, Iam sure that many boys want to go out with you, and don't dare ask. When you find one you like ......ask him. Take care sweetie.
2006-09-14 16:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive always been a shy girl also, I didnt have my first boyfrined till i was 18. I wouldnt worrie to much about it. The right guy will come along . Trust me, Ive gone thru alot of assholes and bad eggs before i met the man of my dreams. and one day you will find yours. Dont be in a rush to get boyfriends. sometimes there more trouble than you thought and then you'd wish you never met them. Im sure your a great catch. Once you stop looking, something great will come to you!
2006-09-14 16:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really quiet too. But i do have a bf. If you take a chance and ask them out you might get one. Have someone ask the guy out for you and tell them to tell the guy about you. Or you could like talk to them a lot more than any other person. Think of things to talk about. Idk. Make up a reason to go talk to him. like help you with some homework or something. maybe that will help you. I hope so. Take care. =]
2006-09-14 16:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Tiffanyy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not abnormal.I think that its kinda good because love can be wonderful and yet it can hurt.u have to be mature to deal with b/f's and relationships as I'm learning and so I think u should be ready for that.if u think ur ready at 17 go ahead.You have to be the initiator (guys seem to like that)!So jus approach a guy, build up ur confidence (after all ur not a troll lol...)
2006-09-14 16:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Khalilah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋