Thats exactly what happened to me, he makes great money and I mean great. I didnt get jack **** for my bday. He said happy bday like 20 times throughout the day. He's a tight-*** and Im close to leaving him. What do u think I should do? Just get over it? Even though its hard. Or dump him? Thanks! By the way we've been together for 6 months, hes 30 im 24.
2006-09-14 16:07:55 · 51 answers · asked by Crazy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not in this relationship for his money. He buys all this nice stuff for himself, his son gets anything he asks for. Im not asking for anything big, a bouquet of flowers or a poem would be perfect, he doesnt have to spend over 50 bucks to please me. Something simple, my friends ask what he got me, all I can say is "20 happy birthdays".
2006-09-14 16:36:11 · update #1
Okay, I am used to not getting presents and it doesn't bother me, but I have been married several years. You are still quite young and should still be pampered more than getting 20 "happy birthdays". He is 30 years old and should be man enough to shower his girl with presents. He needs to quit being a tight a$$ and learn to appreciate you more. Don't put up with it too much longer. She will take you for granted. Stand up and speak your mind. Good luck.
2006-09-14 16:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by ?Shannan? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, normally I'm not the kind of person who cares about celebrating things like that so not getting anything would be my choice and my husband tries to stay compliant to my wishes, On the other hand I hate hearing when loved ones are tight wads, because it could honestly just get worse with time. I mean if you were to bring a child into the picture and the child needed medical attention, of course that's gonna cost money that he may not be willing to shell out, the situations could get a lot worse, my aunt is married to a tightwad, what an insensitive jerk he really has gotten worse overtime. Leave now while the getting is good.
2006-09-14 16:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by GTO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...saying happy bday like 20 times should say something for the guy. That's more then some people ever get. Try and be a little greatful.
2006-09-14 16:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are with him just because he makes good money. Your relationship will never last that way. My husband has given me a lot of "I.O.U." Birthday and Christmas gifts. Yeah, it sucks because I put a lot of thought and money in the gifts I get him, but he isn't the kind of guy that does that. So I get over it. It's not everything. So, if that's all you're looking for is a gift then leave him and find the right guy. But if you really like your boyfriend then you'll get over it.
2006-09-14 16:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, id probably be annoyed. If he is careful with his money he could have thought of an inexpensive way to celebrate your birthday with you. In regards to dumping him, its different for everyone. Some people will say yeah and others will say no. It depends on how you feel about him on the whole. Do the pros outway the cons ? Also, is he someone you can see yourself with in the future. I think you are right to be angry about your birthday but its up to you whether or not you want to stay in the relationship.
2006-09-14 16:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to go shopping for a new man! This goes beyond the material aspect of a gift. It's a complete lack of thoughtfulness on his part. Most guys don't get that complacent until you've been married for a long time. And he's doing that after only 6 months of dating? Girl, you better step, step...
2006-09-14 16:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guarantee that he would never hear the end of it. I expect very little from others, but I draw the line at forgetting my birthday. I give all I can to help everyone else with their issues all year long. My birthday is the one day that I expect to be pampered and treated like a queen.
2006-09-14 16:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually.....guys who are in their 30's (and hope guys dont take this in a wrong way) have different prospective. We are in the same age bracet and we are in that mood where as we are fragile with this kind of stuff.
I'd say....dump the guy. Obviously he doesnt look in the same prospective as you do and not just that, why he is being a tight on money? Money comes and goes...and there is one and only you.
2006-09-14 16:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would intentionally ignore it, say nothing and act like nothing is wrong. When it is his birthday , call him once, say happy birthday and don't buy for him either. Two can play that game and if that does not seem to phase him then...then move on, he will always be that way. He may be testing you and how strong willed you are. Men like to upset us often , it makes them feel important if they can tighten our stomaches...tell him you need $100.00 from him so you may choose your own gift since you realize how "busy " he is. Reverse phyc. also say, "I know a man like you would not be so ignorant " so I am willing to help you out..."now give me the money"
2006-09-14 16:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by bunnylatte 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it really would hurt that he did not buy you a gift
go tell him that and ask him why he forgot to give you one
maybe he just doesnt know what you want to receive he became so confused that he ended up greeting you instead, atleast he greeted you almost 20 times, maybe he just doesnt know what to get you for your birthday, dont dump a guy for that reason only, dump him if you dont love him anymore,not just because he forgot or did not give you a gift
2006-09-14 16:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋