My friend asked me this question: What should I do if I am with someone but I have feelings for someone else?

Question

She's very comfused. Literally.

Answer 1

Asking good questions lead to good answers. Therefore, you friend should consider the following:
1.Do the feelings for the other person exist independently of her lack of feelings for the person she's with? If the answer is "yes," then she's using the other person as an escape device. She won't be any happier with the other person.
2. Did she begin her current relationship with "feelings" for that person? If the answer is "yes," then what caused those feelings to wane? Chances are her feelings for the other person will wane just as quickly.
3. Why did she wind up with someone for whom she has little or no feelings?
4. Is it possible that your friends simply make poor decisions about men, or boys, depending upon her age?
Assuming that the "yes" is the answer to question four, I suggest that your friend take a break from selecting men or boys and decide first what she really wants and not allow herself to be driven entirely by her "feelings!"
Have a nice day1

Answer 2

This is pretty simple.. If u care about the person u're wit at all u will let him kno that u don't have the same feelings u had 4 him once be4. U should tell him now instead of keep leading him on. If u want any kind of friendship from him then u should tell him becuz he will resent u 4 not telling him sooner so that he can get on wit his life... As 4 having feelings 4 this other person u need 2 confront ur feelings and tell him that u want 2 be wit him and that u think ya'll should take things 2 the next level.

Answer 3

Decide on one and be truthful to yourself about it. Being with someone does not mean that you'll never be attracted to anyone else. It is a measure of how much you care for the person that you decide to stick with them. Thats why marriage is the ultimate expression of it - its for life. The simplest way is to find out what exactly is the root cause of those feelings for each of these people. Think about each. Your answer will then become obvious.

Answer 4

If your friend isn't married to the other person yet, then she should explore those feelings. Better now than to get stuck with a choice when your heart clearly yearns for someone else.

Answer 5

tell her to determine whom she likes more
tell her to stop being safe
if she discovers she want the other guy more then no point in sticking around with that someone
but if that someone means so much more forget youre feelings for the other guy, it might just be momentarily, dont fall in l ove in a haste or rush
tell her to decide!!!!

Answer 6

First find out if your friend is interested in you. If so, give us an update after the weekend. With details.

Assuming she is interested in a guy, tell her she needs to let the the first guy go...it is only fair so he can find someone who truly loves him.

Answer 7

sounds like she's still young and if that's the case then she shouldn't feel like she's committed to anyone. she should feel free to date who ever whenever and not feel bad about it. That's the fun part about being young is you get to do a lot of dating. you have plenty of time to be serious when you get old. have fun, enjoy life it goes by too fast.

Answer 8

Dump that someone you are with and ask the someone else out, it's the only fair thing to do.

Answer 9

If you are with someone, but have feelings for another, then you are not committed.... Stupid question. Next. Thx for the 2

Answer 10

See which one ur heart belongs too, take time off for a bit and think bout it which one have you been most happy around.