Ok, so I will try to make this as short as possible. I just found out about 1 hr ago that my boyfriend went to a rock concert with his friend that I absolutely hate. He knows that I hate him, and my boyfriend told me in the past that he would never talk to his friend again and hasnt (he has blocked him online, and does not answer his calls), but when I found out that he was out with him to a rock concert I am very upset that he would go behind my back and do that. He supposed to call after the show and talk to me, how should I react, what should I do, what should I tell him? I am so mad right now, I do not want to talk to him, but I want to find out how and why he even went. He even told his friend in the past, when he was still talking to him that he could not go because of financial issues. If anyone could help me please answer this question honestly. I have been with him for 4yrs and I do not want to lose him, but at the same time I am mad that he never told me about this.
2006-09-14 15:49:15 · 7 answers · asked by ridingis4life 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason my b/f no longer talks to him was because of an issue and complicationt that occured in college, and my boyfriend was not too happy on what his friend did, that is another reason why he no longer talks to him, but then when I find this out, I am confused!
2006-09-14 15:56:25 · update #1
His friend was there before you and will be there after you. Stop being a controlling freak.
2006-09-14 15:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, first of all I don't know your exact situation but it seems as though some things need to change.
First, limiting who your boyfriend can or can't see is not cool.
Second, He has to check in with you ?!? Sounds like you have him on a chain... which is not going to sustain a good relationship.
Honestly is sounds like you are young and this is the longest relationship you have ever had. Four years is a lot of invested time, but if you cannot allow him to go and have fun with his friends without having to call you all the time to check in, then I say find someone else.
You CANNOT get mad at him for the reasons that you have stated. It just doesn't make sense.
2006-09-14 23:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Angela F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are u controlling his social life? and why do u hate that fren of his so much?
cut ur guy some slack. u dun need to interfere with his life that involved his frens. as a girlfren, u should give him his own space n time to enjoy his guys' night. if u cant stand his frens, then let him go alone.
this is sucha small matter in a relationship. duin blow it all outta proportion. sheesh. i still dun understand what ur anger is about.
if u love him really that much, u have to learn to accept him for who he is. n who he is is a guy who knows the value of a frenship.
n dun even start about him lying to u. he's lying to u so that he wont hurt u. u will never know that he n that fren of his might have a bonding that go waaaay back even before u come into ur boyfren's life.
ur anger have no basis anymore girl.
2006-09-14 22:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by keira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i know you mad on him because he promised you before never talk with his friend. But he already break the promise.If you really love him, you let him know how you feel and how you care about him. try to calm down and talk with him properly. Don scold and argue. maybe this will help.
2006-09-14 23:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by gloria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it be. It's not a crime to go out with a friend.
Why hate that guy?
Accept his friends also.
2006-09-14 22:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you are trying to control your boyfriends life and that's not good. You should let him make his own choices and live his life the way he wants. He sounds like he's confused and unsure what he should do, hes lying to you and to his friend because he's trying to please you. That is soo selfish of you to do that to him. Stop it before you lose him because of you and not because of his friend.
2006-09-14 22:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you telling him who he can and cannot be friends with? Does he tell you who you can and cannot be friends with?
After 4 years you would think you two would be over this "controlling each other" phase. Get over it.
2006-09-14 22:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋